I want to clarify and clear up some of the common arguments I see from people defending Tom.
Number one is the CNC thing. First of all I think the idea of having consentual rape is insane. But second of all, Tom never discussed with me or Katie beforehand that this was going to happen. If it was CNC or BDSM instead of just violent aggressive sex causing bruising and bleeding, that would have been discussed and clarified, it never was. It was just extreme sexual violence on Tom's end, to the point we both just assumed he was into rape.
Second on the filming, he would pull out his phone in the middle of sex without asking. Yes I asked for the videos and he never sent me them.
What was very concerning to me was that based off of how he was taking these videos during sex, his face was probably never in them. It was just me doing sexual acts naked, without Tom's face in them. Also he would record everything, but most often record in the middle of violently face fucking me, so I literally had no way to tell him to stop recording. I would wave my hand up sometime to try to get him to stop but really thats all I could do and sometimes I wouldn't even notice he was filming until it was too late. The filming was never discussed beforehand with either of us.