I just realised by looking him up on Reddit, this is the same troon who posted this last month, which I posted here at the time.
Yep, fucklimpbizkitt is a regular character over in the SRS thread as I've been watching him for quite a while. (For those curious to follow along his miserable tale,
you can check my post history as I've tried to record his saga as meticulously as possible.) FLB is definitely one of God's least favorite jesters and I honestly believe he may actually wind up killing himself over the distress his SRS results have given him, which just goes to show how super important it is that we let kids transition because if we hadn't, then he might feel suicidal
to this very day! Oh, wait...
Thread tax.
"Miss"calculation: a MTF with a degree in math has made an error in running the numbers when it came to the logistical benefits of trooning out, and now he fears that his paychecks may only be found written in the red light district - a possibility made even more precarious
due to his bone-deep phobia of ICE.
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Like I have a degree in math
did I just waste my fucking life? Is that my only option as a trans girl since no one even wants me?
A troon isn't laughing when he overhears a comedian's line involving some of the most polarizing subjects in politics. I got curious to see the video for myself, so I did a bit of research and apparently it's a bit from Ben Bankas - which you can watch
here (
A) if you find abortions and transgenderism the height of comedy when combined. Knowing how often transgender people skew pro-choice, it's a bit ironic to object to
this kind of joke about abortion, isn't it?
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I live with my retired mother and work from home. Yesterday I was working and she was watching facebook reels. One of them was a clip from a standup comedian.
The “joke” goes like this: “I would support late term abortions if I knew my kid would be trans.” It was followed by uproarious laughter. Now my mother has struggled to accept me as trans but that’s a whole other story. Thankfully she didn’t laugh or react to it at all then just quickly went to the next video. I just found the joke absolutely abhorrent!
I have no clue who the comedian is and don’t wish to know. Just had to vent about this!
Two men LARPing as lesbians find that lubricated assholes make for a very poor replacement for pussy. This has to be end-stage prison gay, right? Because Jesus Christ, even all the over-exaggerated buttfucking in
Oz was less gay than this.
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Basically, yesterday we started cuddling, saying sweet things, hands started running, heat started rising and... nothing
We looked at each other and said "I wish I had something different so you could slide in easily" "I was about to say that..."
We're both very lesbian and we both miss... well... () in our relationship, and most we hate having to interrupt every time we want to be "inside" one another, especially 'cause it requires a lot of time.
I need help solving this, 'cause it's causing me more dysphoria than in past sexual interactions I had...
Sorry for the messy writing
For many a year, this TiM allegedly enjoyed 'passing privilege' - which is more commonly known as "people not openly calling you a bloke because they don't feel like getting their shit kicked in by 6 foot tall crossdressers." But the tide has shifted for OP, especially since he moved to the tranny capital of the United States - California - where there's so many troons 'n' poons that you'd have to have a degenerative eye condition to
not be able to clock them.
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I'm a 6'1" tall 38 year old trans woman who transitioned 14 years ago and has been an ER nurse for 10 years now. I used to work in Michigan, but moved to the bay area in CA 4 years ago.
I've been stealth pretty much from the beginning, but especially after my facial surgery in 2013. Now,
because of my height and some other features I've been clocked occasionally throughout the years, but it's always been super seldom and for the most part I've enjoyed a lot of passing privilege. I know how lucky I am.
Or, was, I guess.
Because that's seemed to change over the last few years.
Idk if it's because of the increased visibility of trans people, so more of the general populace is aware of us and can spot us easier or if it's because of me aging and losing some of the softness of my face, but I've been getting clocked so much more consistently over the last couple of years, to the point that I don't even know if I'm just deluding myself in trying to be stealth anymore.
Today a patient came in and said to me, all teary eyed and emotional, "as a former crossdresser I just wanted to say how amazing and brave it is to see someone come to work crossdressing like you". Like... Idk why but that hurt worse than someone just being transphobic and calling me a man.
I know this probably seems shitty and whiney and all "woe is me" when I should just be thankful I had the years I did, but
how do I deal with the fact that I'm more visibly trans now than I've ever been?
In the aftermath of the Minneapolis shooting, a man's wife is upset at the turn that society is taking, but instead of comforting his life partner in these uncertain and challenging times, he takes it as an opportunity to pout and act like he's somehow the victim in all of this. "Why didn't [yall] listen to us back in 2015???" he implores, as if we haven't been forced to hear them caterwaul about trans genocides for an actual fucking decade.
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My wife and I got into a tiff tonight over the recent murder in Minneapolis. She’s scared and I understand that. I feel for her. I’ve had plenty of friends come to me upset and scared.
All I can think is “Hi, welcome to the last 10 years of my life as a trans person.” It fucking sucks. I was hoping this would be over before the mass populous had to deal with it.
I’m okay with people waking up to the horror that’s been going on for a decade.
But it feels like it’s too little too late when we kept screaming for help.
I’m not pushing away their help. We need it.
But Jesus fucking Christ, why didn’t yall listen to us back in 2015???
It frustrates me to no end that it took an innocent person losing her life to get people to see the current evil going on.
I was hoping the work we did would have prevented this, but here we are.
Fuck.
A fella-turning-filly is having nothing but trouble at work as he makes coworkers increasingly uncomfortable with his obvious feminizing - to the point that some of them have even started seeking support from HR in order to avoid sharing bathrooms with him. Naturally, of course,
he is the one that claims to feel unsafe, threatening HR with a good time by saying he'll be forced to find new employment should they fail to bow down to his demands.
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I am 35 years old and I just hit my sixth month HRT anniversary.
For about an entire year at my workplace I have been thrown into a world of heavily right wing Republicans who absolutely hate LGBTQ+ people and people who are transgender. And if you are left wing good luck surviving there.
You can probably see where I am about to go with this because
oh stars, that context matters.
I have mostly been boymoding at work but I am a fast developer thanks to voice training, genetics, proper dieting and exercise. I am starting to socially transition. On paper that should be exciting. In reality in a workplace like this it is absolutely exhausting and a nightmare.
My girls are obviously showing and thank heavens for my sports bras because they have saved me from a world of gravity and painful bumps.
As soon as my body started changing the comments started.
One coworker made a comment about me wearing a bra. I immediately paused midstep and looked at him with an actual what the hell did you just say look. He immediately backpedaled when I called out his comment. Weeks later the same coworker made remarks about my clothes and feminine mannerisms. At that point it stopped feeling accidental.
What the actual fluff is wrong with this creep?
But wait there is more!
Another coworker a cis woman tried to gatekeep me. I can wear makeup use nail polish wear perfume and use my new legal name if I want to. You do not get to decide what works for me and what does not. By the stars fluff off.
Then management escalated the issues.
One supervisor decided to gatekeep the restrooms.
The gender neutral restrooms were suddenly gendered and then locked behind a check in and check out system. Their words were something like “I expect all the men to use the men’s restroom. The women to use the women’s restroom because of recent incidents or it will be a write up.” I still cannot wrap my head around what kind of two pea brain thought process leads to that decision. And all of this exists in an environment that is already hostile. Then to be grouped selectively by assumed gender wise to do a meeting? Like what the hell.
On one side of the building it is nonstop. Unfiltered transphobic comments, threats, anti-LGBTQ rhetoric, misinformation and Republican talking points. It has gotten so bad that I try to drown it out with my headphones listening to podcasts or bands like Vana TX2 My Chemical Romance Lady Gaga or anything else that can block out their insufferable nonsense.
What really is messed up is that this is not universal. When I go to a different building to do my job I do not have these issues at all. The difference is night and day. It is bizarre. It is just that this one specific building where this behavior is allowed to fester. Granted I don't nearly pass, but no one makes a huge deal about me existing when I am at the different building.
Eventually I had enough.
I finally was able to talk to an onsite HR representative because we did not have one for nearly a year after the previous HR rep left shortly after I was hired. I made a complaint and told HR exactly what has been happening.
I demanded that these issues be resolved and told them I do not feel safe. There is someone else who is gender queer that I work with and they have had a similar experience. I told HR that if this does not stop I will need to be moved to the different building permanently to work or I will be forced to find a new job entirely. The HR was completely empathic to me.
This is where I am at now.
I dislike my job, this red state and this country for how it is right now. I should not have to fight for my right to exist and feel safe.
I am worried that as I become the real me that something bad is going to happen. Seriously what is wrong with these people? I don't doubt I will be experiencing more until this issue is resolved. Anyway thanks for listening. Needed to get this off my chest. Anyone relate?
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I am trans on HRT working in a deeply hostile site where coworkers make comment, management polices bathrooms and HR had to get involved because I do not feel safe. I just want to do my job without being targeted for existing.
In the process of getting a prescription for his girlytime whorepills, a tranny becomes downright apoplectic when his pharmacy does the thing pharmacies do, which is processing claims for medications that they receive prescriptions for. Some of these guys seem so eager to be victims you can practically
feel saliva drip from their posts, as if the fantasy of mistreatment is somehow mouthwatering to them. Icky!
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i finally picked up my prescription a couple days ago. i have tricare- federal government insurance. i paid for my appointment out of pocket. i wanted to pay for my meds out if pocket. i have never been to costco pharmacy before, so i thought they wouldn't have my insurance.
they tried to run my estrogen and spiro through insurance before i ever even showed up to get the meds. i almost had a full blown panic attack. i feel like they just outed me to the fucking fascist federal government. i tried so hard to make sure they couldnt find out. and
costco just put a target on my back. i made them remove the insurance from the transaction.
but the estrogen already had been rejected by the insurance, theres no way it isnt on record now somewhere.
i dont understand how they are allowed to run my insurance if i have never been there or signed anything or authorized anything with them. that was three days ago and
i am too scared to start taking the meds. it was supposed to be such a good day.
is there anyhing i can do to fix this or get them to delete records or literally anything? i'm spiraling.
Think twice: a li'l dood feels the burn when men regularly flirt with her girlfriend
right in front of her - and her girlfriend doesn't even
try to stop them from doing so because she's supposedly a "people pleaser" according to OP. Then when commenters imply that OP's girlfriend could do a bit more to establish boundaries with random men,
she still insists on defending her! Sometimes I almost feel bad for laughing at pooner foibles. Keyword: almost.
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My girlfriend and I both enjoy going out and drinking together, but every time we do there is always something along these lines that just ruin it for me.
Yesterday while we were out this cis guy was very adamantly flirting with her and asked her to play a game of pool with him which she did
. I know that I do have some jealousy issues so whenever I notice them coming up I make an effort to change those feelings. I decided to do this by trying to talk to this guy, just in a friendly way while they were playing.
I know I’m kind of confusing to people. My voice passes but I’d say I just look very androgynous.
As soon as I opened my mouth he gave me a look like he was disgusted by me and then proceeded to completely ignore me while continuing to flirt with my girlfriend. It reminded me of being in high school and how the cis dudes simply did not see me as human, just something weird to look at. It upset me a lot to feel that way again.
The thing is though,
this isn’t the first time and I really don’t know how to cope with it. My girlfriend is a people pleaser, so she chooses to notice the good rather than the bad and had no idea he was acting this way towards me. It just made me feel so lonely and like there was something inherently wrong with me.
It also made me want to break up with her, because I don’t know how much more I can deal with this.
I just want to have a good time. I hate that there is always a stain left on us trying to enjoy our time together for me.
Do you have any advice?
EDIT FOR EXTRA CONTEXT:
I feel like a lot of people are getting the wrong idea of who my girlfriend is which is completely on me, so I am copying and pasting a comment I made here which gives extra information.
My girlfriend, for the most part, does prioritise me when we go out.
Yesterday, she accepted his offer because she was personally in a stressful situation she wanted to get out of (her brother who financially abuses her was there unexpectedly and kept bothering her, so she took the opportunity to get out of the situation). While they were playing pool,
I genuinely don’t think my girlfriend noticed this guy flirting with her or how he treated me because of the stress she was under. There were one or two times where she pulled me close, kissed my cheek etc and I did the same.
I do think, to some extent she likes the attention, but I also think she cares about me more.
I have told her how everything made me feel and she does feel bad.
I think the main point of my post was more so asking for advice on how to deal with this treatment from cis men who flirt with our partners while also acting transphobic towards us and how to deal with that maturely.
My feelings of wanting to break up comes from wanting to avoid any more of those situations because they hurt, but I feel like to let my experiences as a trans person jeopardise my relationship is unhealthy.
A straight girl is downright miserable because no matter how much she tries to convince herself to give homosexuality the ol' college try, she simply can't force herself to "eat box." In fact, the very notion of lesbian sex makes her feel "gross, anxious and uncomfortable" - and it seems that when in the privacy of their own subreddits,
troons 'n' poons will happily admit to their own genital preferences and even defend them. Hypocrisy at its finest!
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put all the warning tags on here because my post got removed. i am 23ftm. im pre op but ive been on T on and off for like 2.5 years.
i used to experience so much genital / tittie dysphoria, but since being on T and experiencing some decent bottom growth, it’s faded.
the one thing that plagues me? my anxiety and disinterest in having sex with women, fellow trans men, or anyone AFAB.
i used to consider myself bisexual, pansexual, queer, whatever. i was more open, and used to date primarily women.
now? im cursed with the affliction of loving cis men.
every time i have attempted to have sex with a woman, i can’t bring myself to eat box, or even think about topping a woman. i don’t know what it is, other than just a genital preference? i honestly hate it. i wish i could have meaningful sexual relationships with other trans men, but
the idea of interacting with other AFAB bodies makes me feel gross, anxious, and uncomfortable.
i know that its not the case for every trans woman / transfem out there, but
most of the transfems i know personally have very low libidos, if they even enjoy traditional PIV in the first place! i dont ever want to ask too much of someone (since i am an insatiable vers bottom with a rabbit’s libido).
i love trans people, i love trans bodies. but i am so nervous going into any sort of t4t relationships. i dont want to put myself (or any potential partner) in a position where someone is uncomfortable during sex. (because this has happened one too many times) i don’t know what to do, so any and all advice is appreciated.
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i think i have a genital preference for AMABs and penises and it makes me feel anxious and guilty
edit: yes, im fully and wholly aware that not all afab / amab people have genitals that align with their agab. trans people who’ve had bottom surgery are uncommon in my community.
Lastly, an autistic TiF worries that her similarly autistic paramour will no longer find her sexy once she starts showing her baby bump because he has explicitly stated he would probably stop finding her appealing at that point. This whole post is honestly a trip, but the real L belongs not only to the sad baby gestating in OP's retarded womb, but also to the poor 15-year-old daughter OP already had with a different man. Fertility is honestly wasted on certain specimens of the human race.
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My boyfriend (35NB—amab) of the last three years and I (39FtM) have an agreement.
Since I want more children (I have a 15yo daughter) and he doesn't and
neither of us wants to cohabitate because our autism makes us both want to manage our own house and routines, the agreement was that I would pursue another pregnancy and
raise the child as a single dad and he would continue to be my boyfriend. We agreed on this since day 1 as I was open about being in the middle of IFV and he was fine with it.
Due to my age and other health problems non related to being trans, I had a very slim chance of carrying to term (had been failing on that front for 5 yeara before I met him—yes, I've been TTC for over 8yrs) and my boyfriend knew it was a long shot for me to actually get pregnant (and stay pregnant).
He's been an absolute darling about it, coming with me to the clinic appointments, looking after me for the few weeks I was pregnant every time before the MC, spending the night with me at the hospital when I had an ectopic a year and a half ago.
But at the very beginning of our relationship 3 years ago (think 3rd date), he said that he didn't know whether or not he'd still be attracted to me once I got pregnant (he clarified that it wasn't an absolute, only a fear he had at the time).
Problem is this time
the pregnancy is finally sticking and I can't stop fearing he might break up with me once I stop looking as masculine.
In his defence, that was literally years ago, when we were still getting to know each other and I'm pretty sure that at this point he can't think of life without me because I was his second serious relationship ever because he was afraid to date for 10 years following his breakup with his abusive ex.
He doesn't get emotionally involved with just anyone and he has very low libido (ace spec), so it's not like he would just run after the first willing cock the second our sex life is in trouble. Our relationship is based on our shared love for literature, archery, video games, food, anime, cooking shows, parenting, our political views and both of us being teachers, not just sex.
Still,
I'm panicking about this and I don't want to bring it up because discussing baby-related insecurities triggers a debilitating gender dysphoria in me I don't feel like dealing with right now.
I'm looking for REASSURANCE.
NOT ADVICE, as I already know how I want to handle this, but right now he's on a trip with his parents and I'm feeling insecure about this situation.
