A loony troon has the audacity to imply that the real problem at hand with society isn't that we're letting the inmates run the asylum, but
which inmates we're letting run it. This one'll be a real laugh for the lady Kiwis lurking as OP writes in a furious bluster about how crossdressers and transvestites "make a mockery out of [my] own identity" - though his insistence that MTFs distance themselves from "CD TV culture" is a sign to me that OP is some sort of dinosaur, or perhaps a freshly defrosted caveman, because CDs/TVs/ATVs/DVDs/whatever have all been interchangeable for a long time now. What, did you fall into a timewarp back in 1979 and only recently crawl out of it?
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I think that trans women would be in a much better place if we didn't have CDs and TVs included under the trans umbrella. This is largely at the fault of the Americans who live in a Trump Republican America where they live in a pressure cooker so they are willing to accept any form of CDs and TVs as trans which is so wrong.
I don't care what anyone says but I'm sick of it seeing CD's and TV's tagging themselves as trans on social media.
I'm clearly a woman. I have a formal diagnosis of gender dysphoria. I legally changed my name via the Scottish statutory declaration method. I'm almost four years on HRT. I've had BA. I've had my passport updated with my female gender marker.
I'm not someone who wakes up one morning and decides I think I want to wear dresses. I'm going to call myself Sally. I'm not just dressing up in women's clothes and going to the gay village roleplay being a woman in bars getting chatted up by gay men to go back to the hotel where all your guy clothes are plus other outfits and wigs. Your really Steve from accounting. You roleplay being a woman and fail because you act out what you see in porn and normal women don't act or behave as such.
These men make me sick and they make a mockery out of my own identity. They keep trying to force it that they are trans as well as me which they aren't and I cannot afford to entertain that it's an early stage of exploration of freedom of expression and identity.
Gay men are gay men. I'm a woman that wants to be with a man but I'm constantly sickened by men assuming that I'm the same as a CD TV.
Trans women need to distance ourselves as far away as possible from CD TV culture around gay men and stop forcing it into the trans community and trans umbrella of gender identity.
We would be better off that way and have less problems being seen as straight women.
Speaking of fucking madness, here's a future-nutless-nutjob who allegedly self-induced
fecal impaction as a form of protest against a doctor who felt he didn't need his gallbladder removed just yet because OP thought this was simpler than just waiting for his gallbladder to give up the ghost on its own. Such a brilliant and sensibly executed plan, I see no reason not to fast track this patient to the sexual reassignment slaughterhouse! Not one reason at all!
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Got diagnosed for gallstones by sheer luck when i went for an ultrasound for volvulus a few months back.
When i asked my doctor about removing the gallbladder ahead of time to prevent attacks during an appointment to cut the staples from bowel resection/megacolon surgery, he pretty much said too bad so sad life sucks live with it, so...
I protested that shit by indulging in junk food more than ever to force something to be done. Just a few weeks back needed an ultrasound again for fecal impaction and what was discovered was far worse than that. Stones were growing bigger to the point
i was at high risk of an attack which resulted in getting exactly what i needed. I just got surgery done to get the gallbladder removed
By now, I'm sure we're all (regrettably) familiar with genital mutilation fetishist
gemandrailfan94 and his desire to be a tormented Victorian girl who wears a specific kind of undergarment to show off her butchered bits and bobs. But on his journey to become the girlwomanthing he dreams of being, ol' Benson is divided over the two kinds of women he wishes to skinwalk, unsure if a well-shaped titan of a woman could ever coexist in the same body as a delicate, sophisticated little porcelain doll. What's a ghoul to do?
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So I have two girl goals, both of which I’ve put a lot of work into, but I’m starting to wonder if they’re contradictory and will eventually clash with each other.
The first is to be a prim and proper, elegant, kind, and gentle Victorian woman. To this end, my choice outfit the cold months is thick black stockings, ankle boots, knee length bloomers, bra, undershirt, two petticoats, long sleeve shirt, and a black waist belt. For the warm months, it’s black stockings,
Mary Janes, bloomers, bra camisole, 2 slips/petticoats, and a nice dress. Both outfits can be paired with a hat
or bonnet depending on the weather and sunlight.
When I walk up stairs or up a hill, I lift my dress/skirt just enough to not trip on it. When I sit, I keep my knees together, my hands on my lap, and sometimes ankles crossed. All of this makes me feel
safe, warm, modest, and feminine. The only time I want to show off my body is to a lover (if I ever have one)
or if I’m doing burlesque/the cancanm which I’ll be taking lessons for next year.
The second goal is to be a strong and solid woman who can defend herself and others if need be. To that end, two years ago, I began lifting weights and using elliptical bike once a week, then it became twice a week, and now it’s about to become three times a week. I’ve made a lot of progress and have even offset the muscle loss that HRT can cause. I’m not ripped or super muscular, but I’m much more toned and shapely than I used to be. I feel stronger, more confident, and better protected.
I basically wanna be like Jasper from Steven Universe, but good instead of bad. Should be noted that I present as male at the gym because it’s easier and less of hassle. Even if I was super ripped,
I wouldn’t be showing it off most of the time due to my taste in fashion. However, stronger and more shapely legs can be good for burlesque.
Thoughts? Do these two goals contradict each other? If so,
is there a way to make them work together or not?
Once a well-paid engineer in a famous tech firm, a TiM throws it all away to pursue his skirtgospinny inclinations only to find that after an initial outpouring of support, he supposedly starts to endure "misogyny" and "mansplaining" and eventually loses his job during a corporate restructuring. I'm always skeptical of MTFs who claim to experience misogyny at the drop of a hat the second they swap pronouns because I'm pretty sure your former dudes and pals are viewing it more as a Klinger from M*A*S*H situation rather than suddenly recognizing your innate and beautiful girlsoul.
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Re-posting my comment on a recent question that was downvoted because the question was poorly worded or misconceived. It's possible that I read a different meaning into the OPs question, but it inspired something in me that I want to get out:
I was a very high-level engineer/architect for a large household name tech firm. I transitioned at work in 2024. Initially I received resounding support and no visible, conscious transphobia.
What I did start to notice was people treating me as a woman - AKA misogyny, mansplaining, use of othering language, getting talked over by male peers, but then them complaining to my boss when I did it to them. I had been conscious of how my cis women peers fought against the same things when I was pre-transition and tried to be an ally, mentor, and sponsor of women engineers. Getting to see my work culture from both sides of the gender binary however made those things glaringly obvious to me.
Some of the politics and high level decision making that I witnessed in the last year made it clear how patriarchal all big tech is. Allowances for women, minorities, and queer people are entirely transactional and seen as a cost of doing business by the old boy network. Anyone minority really advancing in the supposedly "merit based" hierarchy encounters obstacles and concerns that are ignored for their male counterparts. This is true even in ostensibly progressive organizations like the one I worked in.
To sum it up, big tech is an ugly powerhouse of the patriarchy that exploits knowledge workers with platitudes like innovation and disruption and the promise of personal advancement to further the power of patriarchal plutocratic oligarchy/aristocracy.
Fortunately for me,
I was laid off as part of a restructuring a few months ago and was given a healthy severance. This has given me the time to reflect and fully gel the perspective you see above.
What I am doing is, first working on healing from all that crap a bit, then trying to find a way to make money that isn't furthering the patriarchy, oligarchs, and can maybe help some people with less power.
Covetous creep
squishot is back to shit up r/MTF, whining about how the notion of "self-acceptance" is actually a nefarious one to push towards those of the pronoun persuasion - especially as
his type of dysphoria will never cease so long as his grotesque grabbers remain empty of girl-giblets. I like his insistence that one day he'll have a womb no matter what, because I really get the vibe that he'd be perfectly happy to acquire these organs even if it had to be through a rusted door in a back alley manned by a shady Russian "doctor."
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You know who have said that to me the most in my life? Transphobes!
So why do others in the community advocate for it?
I thought trans was about changing yourself and accepting who you really are and showing it. Why should i "embrace" my male body? Why is there more focus on teaching some girl how to put on mascara than advocating for me to actually have a female reproduction system? Why not move forward why is there so much focus on social dysphoria? ("Buttttt its not possible
"
it will be anyway and we should help it arrive asap before more girls are hurt! Im tired of hearing this shit!)
Social dysphoria goes away,
body dysphoria for me will never and im not willing to just accept it. Thats giving in to it. A lot of you should realise that if you want to help everyone you have to focus on everyone's problems. I dont support half of the marginalized groups out there i support all of them obv.
I prefer hearing "you should accept yourself and there should be ways to get there" rather than the fucking title. Its a loser mentality that doesn't fix anything and is more similar to transphobia in its nature 
A barely-20-year-old theymab debates whether to sign a contract per his father's request that offers him wealth and stability... so long as he produces an heir. Upon some digging, it seems his father is interested in preserving a heritage brought on by being the descendants of "
a Dutch couple that lived in Frankfurt in the 1930s"; this hardly seems like a lineage worthy of making your retarded son pump a bunch of tardlings into some poor woman through an arranged marriage, but maybe some lurking Crusader Kings 2 players can enlighten me on this matter.
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I’m 19 NB trans and I’m in a bit of a complicated situation in this point a time.
My father has offered me an interesting proposal quite warmly yesterday that has cause me one heck of a headache as it screws with me moving out of my parents home. To summarize what he had layed out,
he would put my name back on his will and give me an immediate inheritance of well a lot of money and a couple other things too, only if I show him “proof” by marrying one of the fewmy father showed me. Though I really do give a damm about having any sort of partner cause of Aromantic/Asexual.
The real thing that has got me truly thinking about taking the deal is that money a lot of money even for me being the second “son” of him, he’s being almost desperate to have me take it too!
But I would practically be comfortable forever but I don’t think I would likely enjoy living as a person I despise but the alternative is to live out of a trailer essentially homeless. And well
the entire worsening situation here in my home country would probably rope me to a tree if I am out in it living in a trailer rather than a home.
Please help me understand and think through this before I do something that would get me hurt please strangers.
Edit 1: I would not be still living with my father if I were to take his deal because
I would be given a house of my own for me and my hypothetical “partner” So there is no need to worry about me being hurt any more cause I would not live with my father anymore in both directions
Edit 2:
it’s a contract that my father wants me to sign on. And yall must be from a different country than me cause everyone here has some different but revolutionary stuff right in the comments! Thank you! Please talke more!
Edit 3: I forgot tell yall but Okay so
my father has stipulated in his contract that I must marry and produce a child with a chosen girl to continue the family lineage.And!!!!! Look look!! I now intend to disregard my father’s contract!! Thanks to all of you wonderful strangers I’ve come to a conclusion of understanding that my father is not about care but of control.
A FTM is torn between dismissing a commenter on her fanfic or honoring the commenter's trigger warning request because of one specific reason:
the commenter alleges to have lost a sister due to top surgery complications and doesn't want to read transgender characters without warning as a result. The commenters universally declare that OP is being trolled, but it did make me curious enough to investigate - and of course
it's a fucking Stardew Valley fanfic. It appears the commenter was either never approved or OP deleted said comment because it's nowhere to be found, but the comedy of telling troons 'n' poons to their faces that their existences necessitate trigger warnings is hilarious. Like 4D chess!
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CW: transphobia, surgery complications, death
I wrote a fanfic where the main character is a trans man, which I am also a trans man. The fanfic is for a video game where you create your character, so this is an OC, not a canon character that I transed.
The fic is tagged as gay romance so readers already know there's queer stuff happening, but I didn’t tag "trans" because I honestly didn't think of it.The OC is revealed as trans a few chapters in because he gets injured doing something stupid and dangerous, goes to the doctor, the doctor is positive and supportive, OC realizes that he shouldn't be self-concious and can safely come out to people. It's stupid and cheesy, I know.
On that chapter,
a reader commented this: "You're a beautiful writer and you're allowed to write whatever you want, but it's also your responsibility to think of your readers and tag your story properly. For instance, my sister died due to top surgery complications, so I avoid trans stories, especially in medical contexts. I just got done crying for 3 hours. I'm not mad, but please be considerate of others. Please tag trans character'."
My fanfic deals with a lot of heavy topics, so I was very careful to put appropriate tags on the story and more specific content warnings for each chapter that contains potentially troubling content.
For this chapter, I did put a CW for the blood, but did neglect to specify medical context. I feel for the reader's trauma in losing their sibling, but it troubles me that they asked to be warned about the trans aspect, not the medical context. It also feels transphobic that they called their sibling a sister, despite the fact they got top surgery and may not have identified in that way, although they may have. I want to be considerate of the reader's trauma because I also have trauma and specific triggers,
but as a trans person, I can't just walk around with a content warning on me. It seems like bigotry tied with trauma to consider a characteristic of a group of people triggering. Plus I also need to consider the safety of other readers who may have been victims of transphobia.
Is considering a whole group of people as a trigger legitimate? I make it a point to make my fics safe and to respond to all comments, so does anyone have thoughts or advice?
I'm genuinely torn between responding with kindness or telling them to fuck off cuz I see both sides.
A straight-with-extra-steps couple has floated into some choppy waters when the troon half of the equation wants to go by "it/itself" pronouns, much to his pooner girlfriend's chagrin - even though
she herself uses the unconventional pronoun setup of he/they! The icing on this shitty cake, however, is that OP can only accept using objectifying, dehumanizing pronouns on her partner
during sex! (And if you're wondering what the verdict amongst the commentors is, it's essentially "
suck it up, pussy, and
use the fucking pronouns." What a tranny wants, a tranny gets,
got it?)
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For reference, I am a non binary trans man in a relationship with a transfem demigirl who has been going by they/she since coming out. We've been dating for almost 4 years and got engaged this year.
A couple of weeks ago, my partner randomly said they kinda vibe with "it" pronouns and it caught me completely off guard.
I largely don't care about pronouns. I'll call you what makes you happy. I go by he/they myself. The thing is just... "it" is a word used for non-human things.
I'm cool with neo-pronouns, sure they're recently made-up words, but they were made up specifically to refer to
humans who don't like already existing pronouns.
I don't want to think of my partner as an object or animal. They're a person. The only time I could ever imagine using it/its pronnous for them without cringing is in the heat of the moment during adult fun time.
This is genuinely the only pronoun I have an issue with.
When they told me, I didn't say anything for a while and then changed the topic, because I felt like anything I could've said would've been wrong or even hurtful.
They haven't brought it up again since and I don't know if that's due to how I reacted or if they genuinely don't really care about it anymore.
I don't know what to do. What do I do?
Lastly, a TiF's grandmother asks a perfectly cromulent question about her financial priorities, and OP's reply is so stupid that she is rendered speechless and drops the subject entirely. I suppose a battle of wits would be unfair to continue when your opponent is so clearly unarmed, eh, Granny?
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I told her I don't use my car everyday, but I have to be myself everyday.
She didn't have a response to that.
