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A housewife - er, "househusband" - can't take the heat when sharing the kitchen with her hubby and his fellas because the shit they shoot hits too close to the heart for her. This one is a must-read, so to whet your appetite, highlights of this include her blisteringly feminine hobbies (reading romance novels, collecting Monster High dolls, helping her kids put on fashion shows and watching TV dramas) and nearly crying when his mates mocked her sad attempt at a mustache. If this were any other marriage, I'd say toss the whole man out, but it's a skinwalking pooner so it feels well-deserved.
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A couple of years into his descent into troonacy, a MTF notices that women are more mask-off about their disgust towards him than men are even though he admits that plenty of men show their own kind of hostility. Due to the inherent misogyny belonging to all who claim membership to the Sisterhood of the Traveling (Daughter's) Pants, he obviously takes more offense to female insubordination than male disapproval.
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Lady Lovely Locks: a tranny is routinely harassed on Twitter for the crime of being a bloated corpse aping women, but one taunt in particular haunts him relentlessly: people making fun of his hair. "I try my hardest to take care of my hair," he writes, wet-eyed and piteous, "I get nothing but compliments on my hair in real life." He was stupid enough to upload a selfie to Reddit, so let's see what the audience has to say about his bird's nest, eh?Am I valid for feeling upset by this?
Sorry for posting like three times in two weeks.
When I describe my hobbies or things I want to be hobbies, my cis gendered husband says stuff like "oh, how masculine" and "mhm, very manly" or "Yeah, that's what real men do". I know he is probably shooting the shit the same way he does with his friends. When I asked him what he means and why he says that stuff, he said, "Because you say some of the most feminine things sometimes, man."
For example, tonight I said I wish I could have more dolls, especially Monster High, because my Nana made me get rid of my extensive collection as a child. I described having a shelf to set them up meticulously and how I'd have a no touching rule. I also described how I would collect Scooby-Doo items, Pokémon too, for the same reasons, if it was financially accessible. I said it is what I used to be like, but after Nana got rid of all my collections I never got around to collecting again.
My other hobbies are things like reading and writing romance and fantasy stories, reading manga, watching anime, watching dramas (especially modern fantasy), creating (bad) art (everything from fanart to furries), choir, and modding and playing video games. I also sometimes do hair, makeup, and paint my nails when no one will see me, and I do makeup, hair, and nails on my little girls and help them put on fashion shows.
I try to follow men who are into the same hobbies as me on social media, not just women, so I feel better about how feminine my interests really are. I noticed a lot of the people I follow have similar neurodivergence to me, like autism and childhood trauma too. That, or they are obviously LGBT+.
I know I don't have the manliest hobbies ever, and I have been trying to get more into working out for health reasons. My disabilities make it more of a chore for health and wellness than a hobby for enjoyment, though.
The rest of my time is spent caring for my family, being a house husband, and a stay home parent. I barely handle doing that without dysphoria since it is a feminine position in one's family unit. The way of the house husband is my cope for that business.
Is it reasonable to be upset and hurt by his comments? I don't want to break up with him, and I'm not in the position to. I need to know if I am being unreasonable for being hurt and how I should bring it up to him that it hurts me and why it hurts.
If I am valid for feeling upset, I am not sure how to initiate this discussion because I know he is trying to joke with me how he does his friends (they are downright fucking cruel to each other then laugh about it). The one time I tried to fuck around with his friends I stopped because they started in on my mustache until I was almost in tears. I can't handle the way they joke.
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After a decade of fooling the children that he teaches into believing that he is a true and honest female, a MTF's fantasy is shattered when a bar-goer spots him right away as hailing from the Clan of the Crossdresser. Forced to admit to his deceit, he ruminates bitterly about it afterwards, racked with a newfound fear that everyone around him may have been lying to him all along.Twitter is so mean to me specifically and I have no idea why
I only really post under trans friendly accounts now in hopes to not get swarmed by TERFs but I still do. There’s ones that follow me around on the website and look for my comments and I have no idea why. I’m trying to not let it get to me but it just wears me down. I just want to have mostly positive interactions like so many other trans girls on the site. On one post I got like 200 comments only 2 of which were positive. One person looked up my Facebook and commented “ew it lives in the same city as me”. Like I just want people to like me but I’m constantly swarmed on the website and I have no idea why. I was hospitalized after an attempt a couple months ago and just because of the hate I was getting I ended up staying a bit longer. (I didn’t tell the doctors why I was feeling the way I was feeling bc then they would’ve taken my phone). They constantly attack my appearance and for some reason specifically my hair. I try my hardest to take care of my hair. I scrub my roots with shampoo (and shampoo the rest of my hair) and use a conditioner on my ends and brush it out with a brush in the shower. I get nothing but compliments on my hair in real life but everyone on the internet is so mean to me and I just don’t get it. It makes me feel so self conscious and makes me wonder if ppl I know irl are lying to me.
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A young boy invokes Charlie Kirk's name like a prayer to a saint before slapping down a TiM in broad daylight, leaving OP reeling in shame despite of being strongly medicated. The idea of using Kirk's name to troll trannies makes me think that between him and J.K. Rowling, the letter K is becoming one of my favorite in the alphabet - almost like some sort of antidote to the letter T, in a way.I got clocked tonight
I’m fucking angry and frustrated. I’ve been passing for 10 fucking years (I guess?). I work as a preschool teacher, so needless to say, I work with kids. Every kid who understands gendered pronouns (meaning: kids who know the socially constructed use of she/her/he/him) refer to me as she/her. I have never even told them to call me that, they just do. Point is, kids who understand the "use of pronouns" don’t say it out of courtesy, they say what they see or what they’ve been asked to say. I have never had to tell them I’m a woman and that I want them to refer to me as she/her. They just do.
Tonight me and my girlfriend were out partying and bar hopping. We started talking to some random dudes (I’m an extrovert and I want to talk to strangers every now and then) and one of the guys start to ask me if I’m "actually a guy" and I’m like "what do you mean?". And he keeps asking, telling me to be honest and that he won’t judge and I’m just more and more perplexed by the question, like why ask me that?
I tell him that I haven’t received that question before so I’m wondering why he’s asking me that, he won’t tell me why, he just tells me that he knows. I eventually admit to being trans and tell him that I think it’s weird he knew but he won’t tell me how he knew.
And it just ruined my night, like how the fuck did he know? None of the people I was with knows. Everyone I’ve ever told I’m trans have told me they had no idea.
At my workplace at the preschool there has never been an issue, neither with the brutally honest kids or my co-workers.
The guy said something about my voice, but it’s the same voice I always use and it’s perfectly "feminine". My girlfriend (who’s cis) says that he must be a chaser who has been with many trans women, but would he then ask if I was actually "a guy"?
I’m seriously confused and I’m just questioning everything, what the fuck happened? I can’t understand how I got clocked when I never ever get clocked otherwise. I feel like I failed somehow.
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Another story about stresses and tresses: while getting his hair done at the salon, a MTF is irritated when the women gussying him up consider him little more than a flamboyant man. Because anyone who cares about pronouns is the squeakiest wheel on any shopping cart, he seeks out the grease of management to soothe his whining, but even when he finally gets his way he still feels as if he is a burden, which is the most accurate assessment a troon can have of his character at any given time.Just met my first transphobe
My (pre hrt) first time wearing feminine clothes out during a chill day, I went to the skatepark, basically empty and some young teen looking kid (just being a nuisance on a bike)
"Charlie Kirk. ... Are you a man or a woman?"
I shrug, "neither, both, whatever"
"But you're born a man, so youre a man"
Try to question who taught him that but obviously you can't reason or evoke critical thinking from transphobes
Thank God I'm on a high dose of antidepressants, which help with increasing my stress tolerance level or is be an anxious wreck right now
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Lesbian bed death: a li'l dood's traumatized girlfriend isn't a fan of how she's been manhandling her newly-developed macroclitoris like a tiny penis, which is leading to friction in the bedroom; commentors, as expected, have no sympathy for the girlfriend and suggest that she go to sex positive therapy and get over herself instead of putting poor OP through the ringer. One of them even states "Quite frankly, she should be the one supporting you right now," which feels remarkably insensitive for a group of people who allegedly support survivors of abuse. So much for believing women, right?I got misgendered at the hair salon
It sucks. I am almost a year into e, voice has been the main issue for me and I think I pass well, but I went to the salon today excited to get my hair done. It did turn out amazing but,
I got misgendered for a hour and a half. They were really having fun doing my hair (it was student workers a student salon thing so it's cheaper than paying for a full salon price which I'm still fine with btw )
But they kept fucking thinking I'm a man, and siring me, and in my head the whole time I'm thinking: "what kind of man gets his hair done with tits bigger than you all, nails colored, name extremely feminine.. "
I eventually mustered the courage to talk to the supervisor and to their credit they DID gender me right from the that moment and I felt good , but weird. I felt like I was a burden almost. This was almost six hours ago and I still feel weird and off. I rarely get misgendered so this really stings more than anything I've felt in a while
I also know that one year in isn't that long either. But still. It still sucks :/
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Since transitioning from female to female with hirsuitism, clitoromegaly and high blood pressure, a TiF finds it difficult for anyone to take her seriously at all, lamenting that it seems doodz are at the bottom of every food chain out there - among normal people and those of the gender cult. "People treat it as if you chose this life," she says, seemingly too retarded to realize she literally fucking chose this life and therefore its consequences.NSFW / TW My partner doesn't like my t-dick
Me (ftm nonbinary) and my gf (cis f) have problems with sex since starting my low dose of t.She has particular problem with bottom growth and i don't know what to do.(My partner has some Trauma around sex with penis) and since my bottom growth started to get bigger (1 month on t) i started to feel more pleasure by rubbing it like it would be a tiny penis. She just says that she doesn't like "the move" and she doesn't want to see it or do it AND IT TOTALLY GET IT i understand her and i dont want to put any pressure on her.
But the thing is ,all of that stuff what we did earlier with my genitalia doesnt bring me good pleasure, and only the "move" brings me joy when we want to do smth with me...
Any advice? Is somebody in similar situation??
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A wannabe uncle is barred from seeing her nieces and nephews because her sister keeps having to field questions about her obnoxiously confusing appearance and thus finds it simpler to keep her away from them. While the rest of the family objects to the sister's decision, she remains steadfast in her decision, so OP turns to the creatures from the black lagoon for advice on what to do next as she is too cowardly to confront her sister on her own.It feels like being a trans guy is the most unattractive thing in the world (and toxic masculinity sucks)
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being a trans guy kinda feels like being a collection of the most unattractive things a man can be. short, young looking, small dick or no dick, squeaky nasally or girly voice (like seriously when have you EVER heard someone say they’re attracted to a man that sounds feminine or like a girl unless they have some thing for femboys.) Even people who are attracted to trans men are usually interested because you used to be a girl and thus have “special experiences“ like empathy and being nice to women (and a vagina or something) Either that or you look cis enough for then to look past the other things.
your best bet is looking as close to cis as possible. trans men that look like other men get called hot, if they’re more feminine but still passing they’ll be “cute”. being a non passing inbetweener might make you attractive to lesbians at best, and looking like a women draws all the wrong attention but at least people will call you beautiful.
its not just looks but also personality. if you pass well then this is probably less important, but “acting fem“ or liking “fem” things while not passing just makes people doubt you. A cis man who likes fem things can be a turn off for some of course but they still definitely have fans, its because people dont expect a cis guy to openly like fem things, so it can be kind of alluring or a green flag for a cis guy to be in touch with his feminine side. If you’re a trans guy however, theres no allure, theres no mystery to how you found out you liked those things, its actually very expected for you to like girl stuff, you were a girl. Actually its worse to like fem things because if your trans and not hypermasculine then suddenly youre a faker, its evidence youre not really a man, you look like a girl and like girl things so you must not be serious about this.
cis men are celebrated for liking things that are fem, for “breaking gender roles“ and being themselves. meanwhile if a trans guy is sensitive, or likes fem things its prescribed to be because he was a girl once, not just because he likes them.
speaking of sensitivity, if you’re a sensitive trans guy its so over. People claim they want men to be in touch with their feelings, but lets be honest a man complaining about how hard his life is to anyone that isnt a therapist reads as kind of annoying or even tone deaf. trans men are not exempt from this, people treat it as if you chose this life. Its just ok for people to say they hate trans men on both sides and if you’re anything other than stoic and unaffected by it then people will call you self victimizing or basically just imply you aren’t a real man for being offended by that. Or you just get called an mra and a terf?? Yes both, idk. Toxic masculinity is bad, unless you're being sensitive then it isnt, be a real man and take it or whatever.
I always see tweets that are like “you know trans men are men because [negative trait men typically have]” Like obviously its a joke but I still hate it. It just kinda proves to me that masculinity is associates with negativity in a lot of ways. The only way to be acknowledged as a real man and not some third gendered soft boi thing is to do what every other man is doing, subscribing to toxic masculinity.
im ngl toxic masculinity gets me so bad. it feels like the only way to ”prove” myself. I feel like I cant like certain things or be a certain way without feeling shame, like im not trying hard enough. When people say ”theres no right way to be a man” its like ok technically you’re right but also theres clearly a right way to be *respected* as a man considering how im fucking not. I dont get misgendered everyday for no reason. 1000s of people calling me “she” since i was born cant be wrong, im the problem, something needs to change with men, not them. Im clearly not man enough for them, and the most reliable kind of manhood for me to lean on feels like doing what every other guy is doing, even if its bad for me and them and the long run. Im not gonna be a misogynist or anything obviously, but i do worry about my hight, the things i like, my voice, my body, my mannerisms, its all not man enough.
I just wanna be a guy.
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my sister isn’t letting me see her kids because of my transition
so for some context. i’ve been out for many years (8 or 9 atp) and on T for 1.5 years. i am in college with my own apartment, so i already don’t see my nieces and nephews that much. 3 times a year at the most. and my mom just told me today that my oldest sister isn’t going to let her two kids (6 andsee me. she doesn’t like that they have started to ask questions about my voice/appearance and she “doesn’t know how to answer them”. she claims that it has nothing to do with me… which is the stupidest thing i’ve ever heard because obviously it has everything to do with me. my parents and other two sisters are thankfully on my side in this situation, but i guess i just don’t really know how to handle this and was wondering if any of you have had any similar experiences. im happy to give more details.
[–]tundra0418
Commenting mainly so I can come back to see replies but my sister in law is just like that. She refused to associate with me when I started growing a beard and said I could never be around their kids if they had any etc…fast forward to this year they took all measures to move to the other side of the country to avoid running into me and had a kid over the summer that my other siblings and my parents send me pictures and it hurts that I can’t even meet him but idk what else to do other than wait for her to realize I’m not a danger to society.
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My brother has his kids call me aunty Daniel and I’ve had all my surgeries top and bottom. It’s painful the kids r under 10 yrs old. I’m not mad at them but I hate my brother with a passion
[–]Aryore
“Doesn’t know how to answer them” what a cop-out, if you want to be transphobic at least own it. Glad your mum and other siblings are on your side
You need to have someone else in the family talk to her about how fucking transphobic that is. Don’t grace her with your presence or words.
[–]Winter_Night8906
You have been out the entire time her kids have been alive. Has she been misgendering you to them their whole lives? That is on her.
She is not being a good sister to you and explaining your transness to her kids is an easy way to be better to you (I guarantee she cares more than her kids do).
[–]sanguinerebel
I'm sorry she is treating you that way. Most of my family isn't the most understanding about trans stuff, but I would be crushed if I was told I couldn't see my nieces and nephews just because I'm trans. If she isn't comfortable explaining things to them, why not tell them to ask you directly? That seems more appropriate to me than trying to answer them herself. I wouldn't want somebody explaining for me tbh. If she is afraid of your answer, I hate to say it, but she's transphobic.
I am terrible at articulating my feelings or laying boundaries, and so I'm probably not the best person to get advice how to handle this, as I have a hard time with my own family getting them to stop deadnaming me, but I wanted to at least give you my emotional support that you don't deserve to be treated like that.
Commenting mainly so I can come back to see replies but my sister in law is just like that. She refused to associate with me when I started growing a beard and said I could never be around their kids if they had any etc…fast forward to this year they took all measures to move to the other side of the country to avoid running into me and had a kid over the summer that my other siblings and my parents send me pictures and it hurts that I can’t even meet him but idk what else to do other than wait for her to realize I’m not a danger to society.
You should have your parents talk to her. Seriously. Tell them to tell her how much it hurts, and then wait for her to talk to you. And if she never does, just wait until those kids grow up and find out they have an uncle they never knew about. They’ll never forgive their mother. My bestest uncle is 10 hours away and even still, I know I can call him up and talk to him about literally anything at any point in time. That’s my mommas baby. And I know he’s gonna take care of me. It’s breaking even my heart right now knowing there’s kids that are never even given that chance to have that safety net of a person to fall back on when everything goes to shit. Even if you and your sister aren’t close, they’ll know the grandparents kept in contact with their uncle and that their uncle waited on them forever to finally get to meet them, and they just have to understand one day that he just couldn’t do anything more about it. And they will.
I know that was a lot. But people who REALLY care about kids are far and few between. It mattered. It still does, and I hope this at least helped a little.
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My brother has his kids call me aunty Daniel and I’ve had all my surgeries top and bottom. It’s painful the kids r under 10 yrs old. I’m not mad at them but I hate my brother with a passion
Tell them you like uncle better. They’ll be like “oh yeah that makes sense”, even tell them it hurts your feelings. Kids care so much more than we give them credit for. And tell your brother that you don’t care that he’s intentionally trying to hurt your feelings and that it’s pathetic that he’s stooped to using children to be transphobic.
It’s okay. I’ve decided to be a part of their life once they are far older. I still get them gifts I just don’t talk to them. I mistakenly spoke to them the other day and got misgendered like a bitch and thankfully my mom corrected them but she’s only barely 7. It hurts a lot because I’m recovering from rff phalloplasty and that hurts physically and then being misgendered is a knife in my soul. These kids don’t understand. Hopefully they will once they are 18 . I can wait
[–]Aryore
“Doesn’t know how to answer them” what a cop-out, if you want to be transphobic at least own it. Glad your mum and other siblings are on your side
Seriously. My sister said she doesn’t know how to tell my nephew that I’m trans but will figure it out once it becomes an issue. It’s that easy. If you Don’t know now, then figure it out
[–]Kooky-Touch6881You need to have someone else in the family talk to her about how fucking transphobic that is. Don’t grace her with your presence or words.
yeah i definitely do not want to talk to her. my mom did tell me that she made a couple comments to my sister about the situation so i trust/hope that she will bring up how shitty this is
[–]Winter_Night8906
You have been out the entire time her kids have been alive. Has she been misgendering you to them their whole lives? That is on her.
She is not being a good sister to you and explaining your transness to her kids is an easy way to be better to you (I guarantee she cares more than her kids do).
yes, not once has she gendered me correctly. my coming out timeline is a little shaky, i came out once at 14, nobody listened but i was presenting masc. tried being fem for 2 years. came out again at 21 and started medically transitioning then.
i guess i don’t understand why she’s making such a big deal out of something that can be explained away really easily; i’m sure the kids would be satisfied if they were told that i’m taking a medicine that makes me happier.
[–]sanguinerebel
I'm sorry she is treating you that way. Most of my family isn't the most understanding about trans stuff, but I would be crushed if I was told I couldn't see my nieces and nephews just because I'm trans. If she isn't comfortable explaining things to them, why not tell them to ask you directly? That seems more appropriate to me than trying to answer them herself. I wouldn't want somebody explaining for me tbh. If she is afraid of your answer, I hate to say it, but she's transphobic.
I am terrible at articulating my feelings or laying boundaries, and so I'm probably not the best person to get advice how to handle this, as I have a hard time with my own family getting them to stop deadnaming me, but I wanted to at least give you my emotional support that you don't deserve to be treated like that.
thank you <3 she definitely wouldn’t want me to explain it to them myself because i would tell it like it is. im firm on the belief that kids are smarter than we give them credit for. but it’s not surprising– out of all my sisters, she is the least understanding, and the only one who actively shut down my feelings way back when i first came out. it doesn’t help that her husband is, simply put, a huge piece of shit. racist, misogynistic, the whole nine yards. i have no doubts that he has talked shit about me and my identity. probably in front of the kids too.
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A top-aligned TiF is annoyed because people keep assuming that she'd rather use her natural plumbing instead of strapping on some cold, dead plastic to her crotch to mimic the thrust game of natal men. This is a rather uneventful post until you get to the part where she admits that TiMs have sexually aggressed toward her in the past, which is always interesting to see acknowledged by those of the pronoun party. Heresy! I'm sure Reddit hons are sending a squadron of handmaidens to immolate her post haste.I've Been Mistreated & Misgendered By Cis Women WAY MORE Than Cis Men
Has anyone else experienced this? In my 2 years of transitioning, ive had way more cis women blatanly sir me to my face than cis men. Matter of fact, the only 2 times I've been called ma'am in person, were both by cis men. Of course plenty of men grill at me too, but I noticed that cis women are much more proactive and/or vocal about their transphobia. I've had moms death glare me while snatching their kid closer to them. I've had women pass me and say shit about me under their breath. I've had a lot of women be extremely rude to me, even if they are an employee! All cis men have ever done is just silently grill at me. I don't want to go as far as to say that transphobic cis women are more harmful to our community but it sure seems that way
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Nerfed nurse: a FTM who pursued nursing is sour over the fact that it is a female-dominated field and wishes she'd made decisions in the past that gravitated her towards a more masculine career path; however, her fellow doodz show no sympathy as she expresses a distaste for being associated with gay men, so numerous posters proceed to roast her as a result. (And yes, those are all separate links!)Tired of assumptions when it comes to sex
Hello everyone, just for context I’m a somewhat muscular man, 12 years on T, Bi but mostly interested in men and I’m definitely more on the Top side when it comes down to it.
I’m over a decade into medical transition, at this point, I had time to explore sexually, I do bottom but mostly anally and not very often, it’s pleasurable but not as much as topping for me. I also have pelvic floor dysfunction which makes bottoming on the “ regular” way very painful, not enjoyable, not good. It’s frustrating to me that the assumption people have over trans men is that we are always bottoms and if we aren’t it’s because of some sort of toxic masculinity or top superiority complex, because sometimes that’s just what you like. I’m mostly into men but occasionally seek women and nb people and it happened 3 times over the past 2 months which is crazy,Trans Women/Femme wanting to top me and insisting even after I said no. Even sending pics of her “ huge cock” which was extra insulting. I came to accept this from Cis Men who have porn brainrot but that was extra frustrating man.
Just needed to vent, sometimes people simply just have preferences, there’s nothing to it. And if someone says no, don’t insist you sound like an asshole.
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Dysphoria over career choice
Well, 2nd "career" choice. I became a nurse and regret it. Outside of just not being built to be a nurse, it's a female dominated field and it makes me dysphoric. The only men that tend to work in nursing are gay and I don't want to be assumed to be gay or it'll make me hositle/violent and HR will fire me.
I grew up around women since most of my family was women (except my dad and 2 cousins). I wish I would've chosen to work in a male dominated field. It's just another ping in the unbearable dysphoria I deal with.
