Traveldabler 1 point 2 hours ago




It’s funny because it’s not even that hard to wait a lil and just ask “are you dominant or submissive in bed?” Like no, they’re just straight up using gay lingo, and then saying you’re getting “ offended” as if it’s your fault he’s treating you like a gay man, I call this out every chance I get, like no sir, you do not get to ever so subtly treat a trans woman like a gay man and not be called out for using gay lingo so fluidly in the first place!
PreviousDig2238 5 points 14 hours ago*
When you say “trans” in a dating app guys automatically think about penis and sex. It’s just associated terms for them and also an opportunity to fulfill their dirty fetish as we were walking penises waiting for an opportunity to be used. It’s disgusting. I don’t say I’m trans in dating app at all. Maybe only after some time in a different app.
[–]ThrowawaysSMH 6 points 16 hours ago
I’m not a bottom but I still ask because I don’t want to be a ‘greedy lover’ type. And if they say they top then that’s the end of the conversation for us. Nothing bad about asking, IMO. Just want clear and concise communication.
Is this one of those “I hate being asked what my pronouns are because I look like a woman” type things where it’s something that bothers you but doesn’t bother others? I was told never to assume…
[–]flowyi 4 points 12 hours ago
are you a man? bc it’s wrong to ask someone this on a dating app in the first couple texts. what happened to decency
[–]ThrowawaysSMH 2 points 10 hours ago
Oh totally I fully agree. I’m not excusing that guy at all. Not all of us are as bad as that but then, anyone can say anything on the internet. I’m an optimist so I try to look for the good in people, despite seeing some of the worst things on the internet.
[–]flowyi 3 points 10 hours ago
i agree with that. i try to do the same but it’s hard when it’s every other guy
[–]ThrowawaysSMH 2 points 10 hours ago
It’s rough out there but I hope you find your other half.

[–]flowyi 1 point 8 hours ago
thank you, you too!
GlitteringWerewolf55 6 points 16 hours ago
Well, he told me he's straight, been with 2 cis women and divorced.... and strangely knows gay terms? Hmmmm I really don't believe it, too good to be true
[–]ashaler 4 points 15 hours ago
To be fair, I've noticed most ppl use those terms in non gay contexts too, I've seen straight cis women call themselves tops
[–]ThrowawaysSMH 2 points 16 hours ago
While I can see where you’re coming from, I’ve seen lots of trans girls on social media, mad, because they hate having to “teach someone how to be with a trans woman” so some of us (not saying that’s what happened with you) researched a bit so that we don’t make an ass out of ourselves(again

).
[–]imopentotrying 0 points 8 hours ago
100%, him knowing those terms does not define him. It’s not strange in 2025 to know what top or bottom means and while he should have been more respectful in the way he broached the question, it can be relevant depending on whom you are asking and why. He said he is straight so maybe he was making sure he wasn’t talking to someone that only tops, as it would be something he is not into and thus would not want to waste his or her time. Is her argument that he’d be “gay” if he was with a straight transwoman who tops him?
LuckyZygote 20 points 20 hours ago
Happens all the time for me too, porn has ruined some mens view of trans women. I only date men too, so I'm obviously a glutton for punishment. Sometimes I wish I was into women for at least some dispointment diversity lol
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[–]SUFTOP 1 point 8 hours ago
shemale bukkake?
[–]LuckyZygote 0 points 8 hours ago
Im just not attracted to women, believe me I've tried. Dating would be a lot easier imo, I get approached by sapphic cis women and trans women a lot more than by men. I just cant do it tho. I could prob date a trans man tho, ive just never met one irl that I know of. I just like men
[–]GlitteringWerewolf55 2 points 20 hours ago
I made it very clear on my dating profile that I'm exclusively interested in masculine monogamous straight men, why tf this loser comes at me asking gay slang??? Why do you know them in the first place?
It's all so exhausting.
[–]Frequent_Shoulder221 5 points 16 hours ago
Well he could be masculine monogamous straight man and still be looking for a feminine verse or top. Go on taimi or Feeld and you see regular trans women (not escorts) using those terms a maybe half the profiles. Youre not going to change the entire straight trans dating landscape by complaining about one of your mismatched connections every couple of days. Every miss will take you closer to the one that’s right for you. Youre taking it way too personally. He’s not a loser simply for looking for someone he’s compatible with.
[–]Wet-N-Wavy96 0 points 20 hours ago*
Cuz they’re gay themselves, that’s how they know


[–]GlitteringWerewolf55 4 points 20 hours ago
Of course they are.


[–]Wet-N-Wavy96 -1 points 20 hours ago
I say it all the time, most men love other men, while they like women…