Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[A Cat in a Minefield]

I have quite high water hardness in my house. Every time I clean the bathroom it's quite a struggle to get rid of calcium buildup around taps and the shower tiles. Any cleaning protips?

Don't shower!

But in all seriousness, I have the same problem. Get a strong cleaning product, that targets calcium and let it soak for a bit. Just make sure it is compatible with what erver surface you apply it to.

I'm a complete retard moid and I throw myself at the mercy of Gorl Talk now for some help with a woman I truly don't deserve: what is a nice flower arrangement to get her? I know nothing of this sort of thing but want to surprise her. What kinds of things should I keep in mind picking them besides "these look and smell nice", or is that actually it?

Go to a flower shop and tell them your predicament! They'll help you.

 

[Spooky all year]

I have quite high water hardness in my house. Every time I clean the bathroom it's quite a struggle to get rid of calcium buildup around taps and the shower tiles. Any cleaning protips?

Get yourself some citric acid. It dissolves easy in some hot water. You can spray your tiles with it, let it sit for a bit and then use whatever you've got left in a bucket to give it a scrub down if stuff gets bad. And then you can use whatever you usually do for a regular clean. I'm not sure if it works well if you mix it with other stuff so I can't recommend that. Also works wonders for electric kettles, coffee makers and that sort of stuff as it's food safe.

I'm a complete retard moid and I throw myself at the mercy of Gorl Talk now for some help with a woman I truly don't deserve: what is a nice flower arrangement to get her? I know nothing of this sort of thing but want to surprise her. What kinds of things should I keep in mind picking them besides "these look and smell nice", or is that actually it?

Legit depends on how deep you want to go into this. You can go full on Victorian Floriography and basically tell her some secret message that says how much you appreciate her (and add the meanings on a little card if you're feeling shy). Or you could just ask what sort of flowers she's into, and have a florist arrange a nice bouquet around those. The second option probably is a lot easier.

 

[DickMain]

Legit depends on how deep you want to go into this. You can go full on Victorian Floriography and basically tell her some secret message that says how much you appreciate her (and add the meanings on a little card if you're feeling shy). Or you could just ask what sort of flowers she's into, and have a florist arrange a nice bouquet around those. The second option probably is a lot easier.

I thought asking her might give it away, but I don't think she's into the flower meanings lol. I might just see avput arranging around her favorite colors then.

 

[Spooky all year]

I thought asking her might give it away, but I don't think she's into the flower meanings lol. I might just see avput arranging around her favorite colors then.

Yeah if you can't be sneaky about asking her, then definitely go with favorite colors. You can rarely go wrong that way and I bet she'll see the thought you've put into it, which also goes a long way even if the specific flowers aren't a fav!

 

[DSHK]

Is it a good idea to cold approach women in bars?

 

[Deezy]

I'm a complete retard moid and I throw myself at the mercy of Gorl Talk now for some help with a woman I truly don't deserve: what is a nice flower arrangement to get her? I know nothing of this sort of thing but want to surprise her. What kinds of things should I keep in mind picking them besides "these look and smell nice", or is that actually it?

If she has pets, check which sorts of plants are toxic to them. Lilies, for instance, are extremely dangerous to have around cats.

 

[Squanto Airi]

Foids, what are some Etsy shops that sell ethically sourced handcrafted artisinal crack pipes?

 

[DickMain]

If she has pets, check which sorts of plants are toxic to them. Lilies, for instance, are extremely dangerous to have around cats.

Thank you, and she does. It's my girlfriend, but I've never done flowers before and I wanna lol

 

[crazedaze]

Foids, what are some Etsy shops that sell ethically sourced handcrafted artisinal crack pipes?

Ooooh shopping



These are highly rated. and if someone finds it you can just say it's your sex toy

 

[Kyff]

Ladies, give me your best tips and tricks for dealing with depression.

Spoiler: Typed a lot of advice you've likely already heard

If you're having trouble with sleeping normal hours, maybe start a class or something in the morning. Getting the circadian rhythm back to something half way normal can do wonders.

I know it can sound trite, but adjusting your diet really does help. Things like staying hydrated, getting probiotics, getting various kinds of veg in, etc

Brush your teeth, wash your face, wear clean clothes. Again, I know it can sound stupid when you're really going through it. But if those get neglected, you'll end up feeling 10 times worse.

Time alone with your own thoughts is important, even if that doesn't sound pleasant. Hiking, going for a long run, or sitting with nothing but classical music and a book for company might be helpful for this.

There's probably something in your current situation that is fomenting this depression. Maybe you can't realistically do anything about it right now. But perhaps you can pinpoint something you could change about your life for the better and try to focus on that. It might be something small and seem insignificant - but, besides anything else, setting a goal and achieving it is very good for the psyche

 

[obliviousbeard]

At work, one of our team members is having her first child. So the rest of us want to give her a present before her parental leave begins. Any ideas for a gifts for a woman waiting her first kid?

 

[Waffle Iron]

Don't shower!

I almost want to. Every time I shower I think about the layer of lime I just applied to the walls.

But in all seriousness, I have the same problem. Get a strong cleaning product, that targets calcium and let it soak for a bit. Just make sure it is compatible with what erver surface you apply it to.

I have some foam spray stuff strong enough to melt skin. The packaging says you just spray it on and wipe it clean. But I have to apply it, let it soak, apply a fresh layer, and then scrub like the devil. I was hoping there is a better solution.

Get yourself some citric acid. It dissolves easy in some hot water. You can spray your tiles with it

Can you keep the solution in a spray bottle or will it just destroy the plastic? I was thinking of doing this and just spraying the tiles after I was done showering. Maybe daily maintenance makes the weekly scrub easier.

 

[Shakira Flabbergasted]

At work, one of our team members is having her first child. So the rest of us want to give her a present before her parental leave begins. Any ideas for a gifts for a woman waiting her first kid?

Ask her if she has a baby gift registry so you guys can all chip in for something expensive like a fancy stroller or crib. Or if they've already purchased all the expensive stuff, you can't go wrong with diapers.

 

[long waters]

I have quite high water hardness in my house. Every time I clean the bathroom it's quite a struggle to get rid of calcium buildup around taps and the shower tiles. Any cleaning protips?

Shouldn't this be in that household tips thread?

What I do is use some cleaning detergent/spray thing that's mixed with vinegar (It comes pre-mixed), It seems to deal with such things well enough. There's some French (I think?) company called Ecodoo who has some thing that's like a gel that you spray on and leave for a bit, after which you rinse it and it should deal with limestone buildup.

 

[Waffle Iron]

Shouldn't this be in that household tips thread?

I wasn't aware of the existence of such thread.

 

[ToxicCatnip]

At work, one of our team members is having her first child. So the rest of us want to give her a present before her parental leave begins. Any ideas for a gifts for a woman waiting her first kid?

I'm not a mom, but I did take a child/infant course for college so hopefully this is helpful. If you guys are all pitching in to get one big gift, I'd suggest a good car seat, one that can last from infancy to toddler age at least, a good baby monitor, child safety gates/ a play pen, or a breast milk pump if she plans to breastfeed, since they can be pretty expensive (around the $200 range) and are all pretty important.

If each of you guys wants to pitch in an item and give her a variety of gifts, I'd suggest either necessities like diapers, formula (if she's going to use formula), and rash powder, or baby proofing equipment like electrical outlet covers, a nonslip mat for the bath, edge guards for sharp edges on furniture, etc. But whatever you do, DO NOT GET BLANKETS/PILLOWS/ LARGER STUFFED ANIMALS. I know they're cute and seem like a nice gesture, but if there's too much shit in the crib, especially before the infant is 7-9 months old as they can't easily roll over until that time, the baby WILL BE AT RISK OF SUFFOCATING OR OVERHEATING AND COULD DIE. I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer, that course I took was child/infant death investigation, and a lot of infant death cases we covered were suffocations from too many pillows and blankets and shit. Safety equipment and necessities are always important for new parents to have, and will be your best bet if everyone on your team is getting an item.

Ladies, give me your best tips and tricks for dealing with depression. Serious depression, like 7 or 8/10. It's making me thinner and greying my hair. And no, don't suggest the rope as much as y'all like to. Been there, done that, doesn't work.

Hey mate, I've been there as well. Depression is hard, and sometimes it can take a lot of effort just to get out of bed in the morning. I don't know if you have any comorbidities (multiple mental illnesses) so my advice may be more or less effective depending on your situation. @Kyff had some great advice, so I won't repeat their points, but I can recommend some phone apps that have helped me.
Finch is a free app that gameifies daily activities of living (brushing teeth, showering, going outside) and other goals you might have (ex. fitness goals). You take care of your own patronizable pet bird. Just put your daily tasks in, and each one you complete will give your finch energy and rainbow stones. collect enough energy, and your finch goes on a little adventure! When it comes back, it will tell you what it did and you can respond (ex., the finch goes to paris and asks "Whats that big glass pyramid?" and you can respond "It's the louve, a big art museum") and it will gain personality points in one of 6 aspects (curiosity, resilience, logic, compassion, confidence, security). The rainbow stones are currency that you can use to personalize how your finch looks and how it's house looks. It even has a sort of battle pass that gives you a free item each day you complete enough goals to go on an adventure. I use it a ton!
Voidpet Garden is sort of like Pokémon but for your emotions. It helps track your mood, and gives you prompts to do some emotional journaling and helps put your feelings into words. The more you journal, the more voidpets you collect. each pet is based on an emotion, like envy, glee, apathy, panic, gluttony, pride, panic, etc. each pet can evolve the more you interact with it, you can change their colors with fruits from plants you grow, and give them accessories. You can also battle your voidpets against AI challengers, give them unique move sets, and level up your pets!
Focus Friend is more aimed toward getting you off your phone so you don't doomscroll, you help a bean person knit by setting a timer. as long as your timer is running, bean friend will knit socks and scarves. Each time you complete your timer you get rewards that you can use to customize your bean.
Hope that these apps can help!

 

[obliviousbeard]

Thank you for suggestions - I wish there was a registry for gift items, would make easier just to pick and choose. As far as we know for the expensive stuff like sitters, kid seat, pram and so on is already accounted for.

If each of you guys wants to pitch in an item and give her a variety of gifts, I'd suggest either necessities like diapers, formula (if she's going to use formula), and rash powder, or baby proofing equipment like electrical outlet covers, a nonslip mat for the bath, edge guards for sharp edges on furniture, etc. But whatever you do, DO NOT GET BLANKETS/PILLOWS/ LARGER STUFFED ANIMALS. I know they're cute and seem like a nice gesture, but if there's too much shit in the crib, especially before the infant is 7-9 months old as they can't easily roll over until that time, the baby WILL BE AT RISK OF SUFFOCATING OR OVERHEATING AND COULD DIE. I'm not trying to be a Debbie Downer, that course I took was child/infant death investigation, and a lot of infant death cases we covered were suffocations from too many pillows and blankets and shit. Safety equipment and necessities are always important for new parents to have, and will be your best bet if everyone on your team is getting an item.

I think that blanket toy thing is in what they go still go through on your pre-natal phase on guidance centers - but good point anyhow. Kinda hard to get stuff like diapers and formula/breast pump stuff too since while we're colleagues and work in same team, not that close friends per se (so we have no idea if it's going to be disposable or not with diapers, how the feeding's going to go et cetera). Baby proofing equipment however is probably a decent idea, cheers, didn't think of that. At the moment we're gravitating towards something mainly for her, and general gist of it is "it has to have chocolate". Maybe a gift card to some nicer place that sells baby clothes and acccessories too.

Also, check what the maternity package includes this year, makes me nostalgic to some degree seeing those (and a nice gesture to support waiting parents).
babby box link

 

[Spooky all year]

Can you keep the solution in a spray bottle or will it just destroy the plastic? I was thinking of doing this and just spraying the tiles after I was done showering. Maybe daily maintenance makes the weekly scrub easier.

Yeah you can. Though I'd suggest getting a fresh new PET spray bottle or something for it. If you repurpose an old cleaning agent spray bottle you need to be absolutely sure there's no residue left in it though or it might react with the acid. The mix is of course slightly corrosive (especially if you toss in too much) so it's smart to look up the exact amount of acid powder you need to put in depending on the amount of water that goes in the bottle just so it doesn't do anything to the bottle itself. Just 2 teaspoons already go a long way. It's super useful.

Shouldn't this be in that household tips thread?

Ooh. I also had no idea this existed. Definitely going to give that a watch.

Ladies, give me your best tips and tricks for dealing with depression. Serious depression, like 7 or 8/10.

Aight, so this will clearly depend on where you're at. I assume you're American so you will need to see if this would fit your situation, but honestly, the thing that helped me best is actually getting professional help.

There's a crap load of psychologists and types of therapy out there though and the trick is finding a therapist and type of therapy that works for you. I've had the 10/10 wants to die sort of depression and had plans on how I could do that so I decided I shouldn't be dealing with this by myself. It took me a very long time to fix what was going on (think a depression on and off for 10+ years, ending with the last bout of therapy I had). For the longest time they kept shilling met cognitive behavioral therapy, which can work. But for me personally it didn't do shit (it's more about symptom fixing rather than underlying cause fixing). If you're the type of person that has deeper issues than simply needing to fix life patterns, schema therapy might be worth looking into. It's confrontational in that it's definitely a mirror you're looking into, and you need a therapist you have a decent connection with for it to work. You're the one pulling that wagon. A therapist can make you see what's up, but ultimately you're the one that'll have to deal with it. If you want to know more on my experiences with the therapy feel free to drop a line tbh. After that last bout of proper therapy I've had my dips and sads, but never landed back in a depression, so it really can help you change things if you want to put in the work.

Aside from therapy, only think about taking medication if your emotions get too bad. They're meant to flatten them entirely. Personally I did horribly on them and feeling entirely numb is absolutely terrifying. If you want a more natural brain boost I can recommend buying omega 3 pills and taking those (fish oil usually) that have a high level of EPA and DHA - this is known to have a positive effect on a person's mood.

Other than that, the other Kiwis have had some pretty good advice. Going through the daily tasks and keeping on going is solid advice. I've had periods where I let that stuff pile up and it took me forever to get out of that again, which honestly is a far bigger pain than doing the smaller tasks if you're capable.

 

[Sigg Kyle]

Taking a risk and throwing myself to the mercy of this thread here.
I’m discovering these days that I have an incredible capacity for hatred, and can hold and use a lot more than anybody else I know.
How do I make it appealing? How should I use it? I want to project a biker-style aura of terror and fear that people will rally around because they’ll perceive it as ‘their hatred’ and perceive me as some heroic figure that protects those around him and gives voice to what they’re thinking.
I’m already seeing a lot more people IRL start trusting me more (usually people that have experienced troubles before or unfair bullshit), but the normals who never saw that kind of thing are still hesitating. Is it because when I like people, I do everything I can to be kind to them? Do they want me to stay on edge all the time?

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

At work, one of our team members is having her first child. So the rest of us want to give her a present before her parental leave begins. Any ideas for a gifts for a woman waiting her first kid?

Onesies for the kid (buy the 3-6 month or 6-12 month size), and a gift cert for a massage/ spa day (depending on money in the pool) for her that doesn't expire.

I'd stay away from things like a stroller or God forbid a breast pump - those are likely things she'll be particular about.

Taking a risk and throwing myself to the mercy of this thread here.
I’m discovering these days that I have an incredible capacity for hatred, and can hold and use a lot more than anybody else I know.
How do I make it appealing? How should I use it? I want to project a biker-style aura of terror and fear that people will rally around because they’ll perceive it as ‘their hatred’ and perceive me as some heroic figure that protects those around him and gives voice to what they’re thinking.
I’m already seeing a lot more people IRL start trusting me more (usually people that have experienced troubles before or unfair bullshit), but the normals who never saw that kind of thing are still hesitating. Is it because when I like people, I do everything I can to be kind to them? Do they want me to stay on edge all the time?

Dude.