Depends on the time and day. If its the weekend? Hard liquor with a juice chaser before moving on to hard ciders, maybe a couple vodka redbulls mixed in. If it's just been a long ass day and I'm tired, I'll drink a small bit of whatever's in the house to help me sleep.
most womens jeans suck absolute ass. Just wear mens jeans, they're built to be stronger and last longer because they aren't designed with the changing tides of women's fashion in mind plus they actually have pockets. I like Gap jeans personally, but Buffalo jeans are great too, albeit a bit pricier than Gap.
im a moid, but for me for clothes, i go to a local goodwill or salvation army or equivalent thrift store (if you're ok with messing with used stuff) and try on pants that seem close enough to my size until i find a comfortable pair, look at the size on the tag like 42x32 or 30 or whatever, and then either get them in the store and/or note the size and look at ebay, mercari etc for various pairs in that size. if i want to be particular i would note the brand/s i find that are most agreeable and then isolate searches for that brand. also, a good rule of thumb is you generally only need 4 pairs for rotation so if you ever find a type that's really good, get 4 if you're able and you're set for a very long time. although to me personally, many jeans are mostly same crap unless you get the real rich people shit, and even then theres shit you pay a lot for, and then shit made good you pay a lot for. biggest thing is finding the correct style, like if you want to do a lot of stretchy movements, you need relaxed jeans, otherwise if you try to do a basic leg lift you feel like you're going to snap a seam or something, i assume all that goes the same for ladyfolk. but if you're around a lot of more stuff outside or need to protect your legs youre better off with stronger denim since relaxed cuts are a bit more thin if i remember correctly.
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the biggest thing i'd say that's a potential minefield is to really keep a handle on your approach to your coworker. it can be very easy to misread social cues or signals and jump the gun and think she's more personally into you when may not be, so i'd really try to keep an eye on that. that's a big thing for people with social issues, some people are over socialized and kinda numb but if you've been isolated, everything seems to mean more, so i'd just be really careful there unless they specifically ask for something that's impossible to misread.
your own situation at the youth group may vary, but i'd probably recommend making sure you put a bit of effort into making male friends first or equally to females to avoid appearing weird mainly, but also because it can be easier, and it could chain to making friends who are female also. one thing i've had an issue with in social gatherings is to actively notice people approaching and talking, if a woman (or guy) ever actively tries to approach and talk, actively make sure you don't porcupine etc and communicate with them. especially if you ever go to a dance etc, it can be a better tactic to respond correctly than how to be active correctly. if you're not good at socializing, it may be good to warm up with listening to people, and if you hear anybody start talking about something you know or like, kind of join in. that doesn't ALWAYS work, sometimes they give you a stink eye, but it can be a sign you'd like to be friendly etc and can sometimes be a very easy way in, and if you're joining in a group discussion you don't have to be a driving voice so you can be quiet while still participating and having fun. ideally you'll have like one guy in a group that never shuts the f*** up and likes it so you don't have to stress yourself out about what to say, just if they drop "yo what do you think of that new batman" etc just pitch in, even if its "meh havent seen it, like the older ones though".
main thing in places like that though, remember it's not speed dating or even particularly looking for prospective dates, it's like a networking type deal, so try to keep approaches in mind for that, unless a girl comes up directly and is blunt. you already seem to know that, just from personal experience that's the main way that can make things like that feel sucky to you or be sucky to someone else. if you ever get kinda nervous and lock up when you get there, the retard proof strategy is to start slow, and like walk up to people that look approachable, just say "hello, nice to meet you im (x), how you doing, good good", then you can just chill at the punch bowl or whatever until there's a situation that opens up or someone approaches you.
in a nutshell if you see 2 or better yet 3+ people talking about a sports team or movie or music you really like though, try to participate with a "yeah i like (x), especially (y)". if they act prickish or stinkeye just try to shrug it off and take a break with a drink or something. never act aggressive or try to be prickish back, looking like/having someone be/ was a dick to you is very good for someone to go like "hey they were fucking rude to that person, i'm going to go talk to them" if you act like trevor from gta v or some shit though you reduce those odds significantly. just try to remain calm and if you get any weird looks or whatever, internally say "fuck em" then just waltz off and get some ice cream or some shit. make a effort to take very little personal, set a goal to get free food, and a side objective of if not a friend making aquaintances, then go from there, and breathe biggest thing.
