This post was inspired by Kay Blaque’s posts on TikTok on this topic! Please go to her platforms and listen as I feel as though you girls might take a lot out of it the way I did!
So, idk about you guys but I keep seeing videos of weirdos that are telling trans women that the only men who would ever be attracted to us are bi, pan, or trans men. They will swear on their mother’s graves that we wouldn’t be able to pull anyone that they deem to be straight.
While it is true I attract a whole bunch of different kinds of men, the men they say would be attracted to us, really aren’t as interested in me as they think. Like some bi and pan guys I talk to, once they find out i’m trans, are really not that interested, and I can feel them pull away from the conversation. Trans men have told me that they also aren’t that interested in me as they tend to prefer cis women and even though they’re initially incredibly attracted to me while they think i’m a cis woman, once they find out i’m not cis they also aren’t interested. These guys are all shocked at first and don’t believe the fact that i’m trans until I cement it in their heads that i’m not lying lol. After revealing I was trans to this pan guy I was talking to, he said that he wasn’t very interested in trans women and that he tended to prefer “afab trans people because they’re softer and more comforting”
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The thing is before me revealing I was trans these bi pan and trans guys were all incredibly attracted to me, moved incredibly fast, and started talking to me about the various body parts they wanted to play with, particularly the ones on my chest, lmao.
But the thing is they never stay for me after the reveal typically. and I just find it funny that people assume that these men would be our main demographic to pursue but in my experience they don’t really want me
. Which is why I gave up t4t.
Now I pretty regularly pull a lot of cis, hypermasculine, incredibly attractive, muscular gym bros who are straight, and sometimes after the reveal they typically are the ones who usually give me a chance, give me the time of day, treat me as a woman, and talk to me like a person. They don’t just wanna talk dirty, a lot of them actually end up interested in taking me seriously. Now a lot of these guys are conservative and that’s a puddle of mud I really don’t wanna step on. But a lot of them also aren’t, and some of them are some genuinely sweet buff teddy bear dudes who don’t care as much as you’d think they would.
Now I have no issue with bi, pan, or trans men. In fact I vastly prefer them over dating cis straight guys because I initially thought that it would be easier and less daunting and anxiety inducing for me. Like I would love to be with them, but they really aren’t that interested in me after I come out in my experience
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Also I am by no means attacking their preferences, if they don’t wanna date a trans girl then that’s perfectly fine everyone’s entitled to their preferences and all that means for me is that I know they aren’t the one and that I gotta keep it pushing.
Anyways, does anyone else have a similar experience with people telling you what men you’d pull vs the men who you actually pull?
