Are you lost needing femoid advice post here - For the poor bastard's who dare or are just curious

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

@hell in april
I think if you have homosexual tendencies it might be easier to get with the same sex because you understand them more and there's less social expectations given that's it's already sort of deviant. Like it might feel easier because there's no expectations of raising a family. And I don't mean that you're choosing to feel this way I'm saying it's easier to develop feelings for someone you already see as a friend. So maybe your thoughts come more from a distrust of men than anything? Idk I'm just speculating.

 

[Doktor Grimm]

If I have daydreams about having sex with women and feel immense disgust but keep having intrusive thoughts about her does it mean I'm homosexual or does it not count unless you sleep with women in real life?

Please I don't want to be homosexual

Are you into men?

Intrusive thoughts only have as much meaning as you want them to; being disgusted grants them more legitimacy than they deserve (ask me how I know). There's no need to make it a thing.

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

Are you into men?

I'm only into men sexually. I'm not into women sexually.

There's no need to make it a thing.

I'm going to stop thinking about it

 

[Core Theorist]

I'm only into men sexually.

Why?

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

Why?

Because we're stupid silly

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

Why?

I'm not homosexual and how am I going to have sex with women there's no dick

 

[ThePozzedOutCritic]

I'm not homosexual and how am I going to have sex with women there's no dick

Fingors and tongu-eh
If you grow your nails real long you can clean out your minge in the process too

 

[Thé au lait]

I'm in my twenties...

I lose all self respect when an attractive woman show interest in me, but then when she stop giving me the time of her day I cease to be homosexual until the next one come along and it repeat again. I'm not like this when it's with men but with women I become desperate very quickly

I know this sounds generic and this advice applies in more situations than just this but you genuinely can not run away from yourself. Trying to deny your emotions is not going to make them go away, the best way to handle this is just to sit down and let yourself feel whatever you're feeling and honestly consider why you feel this way.

You've said before that you've always struggled with having romantic feelings and just don't have them, maybe this is why?

Believe me, you will be much happier I'm your life if you consider your feelings instead of trying to run away from yourself, this applies to all different kinds of feelings.

 

[Core Theorist]

I know this sounds generic and this advice applies in more situations than just this but you genuinely can not run away from yourself. (...)
Believe me, you will be much happier I'm your life if you consider your feelings instead of trying to run away from yourself, this applies to all different kinds of feelings.

But having weird feefees makes the head hurt. Surely she can just drink alcohol and get hooked on SSRI's like everybody else, right? That's way easier so it must be better for you. (lmao, rofl, lol)

 

[Banditotron]

If I have daydreams about having sex with women and feel immense disgust but keep having intrusive thoughts about her does it mean I'm homosexual or does it not count unless you sleep with women in real life?

Please I don't want to be homosexual

Lol you're bisexual haha. I promise it's not that bad. I'm serious, though. Doesn't matter whether or not you act on it or if you like it or not, if your heart has gone aflutter for men and women at different points. You're attracted to both sexes, and generally people call that "bisexual".

I lose all self respect when an attractive woman show interest in me, but then when she stop giving me the time of her day I cease to be homosexual until the next one come along and it repeat again. I'm not like this when it's with men but with women I become desperate very quickly

Having different dynamics of infatuation with the two sexes isn't too weird. Men and women look different, act different, so they're attractive in different ways, I think. Also, the way you have to approach relationships with either sex is different.

Anyways, you strike me as someone who harbors a lot of self hatred and guilt, judging from some of the other things you've said on this site. You don't have to feel that way. Moreover, don't let your feelings on your sexuality damage your self image. Be nice to yourself, lady. There's nothing wrong with feeling the way you feel about things, and trying to run away from your feelings doesn't work. Even after years of being openly bisexual, I still sometimes think to myself that my life would be much easier if I weren't attracted to the same sex, but every time I feel that way I realize how that would just mean I would see less beauty in the world.

 

[Thé au lait]

Yeah I put attractive women that give me her attention in a pedestal and then I agonize over it. I just wanted her to like me and talk to me and I go full retard over it. It happen multiple times already and I usually think I'm getting too homo and back out from the relationship. Nothing fuels the urge to go and work out harder and get more disciplined than when I think of attractive women who have no reason to talk to me or give me attention at all. I attract fitness obsessed women and I feel like I have no value outside of my appearance and if I don't get bigger they would be disappointed in me and leave.
I feel like I genuinely lost IQ points when I'm like that.

First off if you're not already then please talk to someone about body dysmorphia or anxiety. I had this exact problem when I was younger and it led me to do some very unhealthy things that have caused lasting medical issues.

It's especially noticeable here:

...which brings me to my next point:

I just feel like they hate me but I understand I often act like a total retard. Women that like me is an exception especially if she's attractive

You're not going to like me saying this but you have a lot of self hatred and it seems like it's spilling over into how you view others, including the NLOG behavior. It's common but it can get miserable to be around. I genuinely think it might help to visit a counselor (potentially a trauma counselor?) to address this and help you work through it. You can't keep beating yourself up like this, it's not fair to yourself and it's hurting you indirectly by isolating you.

It will go away eventually.

As much as this sucks to hear, it doesn't go away until you confront it. You need to understand why you feel this way and either address the root cause or accept this fact about yourself.

 

[Xev]

These complaints are absurd. Most men will never play sports or break records either. Who the fuck gasses up manhood like this in their mind? Sounds like a prelude to a pooner arc.

 

[Banditotron]

Sounds like a prelude to a pooner arc.

I mean that's probably exactly why @Thé au lait is advising her to seek therapy. Unhealthy feelings about one's own immutable qualities are the sort of things that end up leading people to trooning out.
Btw @hell in april I understood how frustrating it is to feel "inferior" but you aren't "inferior". Yeah, dudes can lift heavier shit. Life is unfair and men are just stronger than women and in 99% of sports women can't compete against men. But comparison is the death of contentment. Being happy in life is about learning to love the abilities that you yourself have, not how those abilities stack up to others. The second strongest man in the world spends every day of his life tirelessly trying to become the strongest man in the world, and he might never be, and in doing so he forsakes his ability to appreciate his own achievements that everyone would admire anyways. Love your own strength. Be the strongest and healthiest and best "you" that you can manage and learn to love that. I'm not just talking about literal strength, either. Your emotional honesty and willingness to even dare to explore and admit your own doubts are rare qualities, and even if they can cause you grief, I'm sure that same intellect has brought you or will bring you fortune in life.

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

Sounds like a prelude to a pooner arc

I'm too transphobic to poon out. I don't believe one can change gender.

. I genuinely think it might help to visit a counselor (potentially a trauma counselor?) to address this and help you work through it.

I'm schizophrenic and for some reason unbeknownst to me when I am having an episode I can't look at women because I have the feeling they're disfigured. My hatred for myself and XX chromosome might be a schizophrenic thing it become unbearably strong when I have an episode and goes away when I'm not and I write lots of schizoposts about it that doesn't make sense to me when I read it back

I'm on and off meds for it. I hate taking meds and I wouldn't take it if I don't fear losing my job again. It has wrecked my life, doomed me to working BoH for the foreseeable future, and I lose friends when I can't keep the schizo in

But comparison is the death of contentment. Being happy in life is about learning to love the abilities that you yourself have, not how those abilities stack up to others.

I live a life where it's work, study, work out, either being on kf or playing vidya, and sleep. I think it's why it get to me so much, it's a major part of my life. I go to practice knowing with my entire heart it might as well be dancing for how useless I am. But I still go. I don't want a different existence, I want to be better at what I already do

accept this fact about yourself.

I'm banking on killing myself. If I'm not what I want to be anymore I don't want to exist at all. If I get too old to continue I'm checking out. I can't stand to watch myself grow old and become forever separated from what I dream of.

I know I'll be happier if I give up but the idea is incomprehensible to me. If I give up I might as well blow my brains out. It feels the same as the idea of killing myself. I'm going to do anything in my power to achieve my goals and failing that there's no after because I will be doing everything I can already and if I fail I just die

 

[2mm and 99 others]

Oh shit, nooo now I can't enjoy my ice-skating, backcountry skiing, climbing, bike and swimming in a quarry, cos somewhere out there are men who would outcompete me, I should've roped myself back then on my own umbilical cord.

Such thinking wouldn't be out of place in some niggerly shithole, where physical strength and ability in circuses (as in breads&circuses) is all is admired and important there. But in modern whitey society, where even disabled people in chair managed to make an impact and find some way to find self-worth? If you don't love anyone and anything and have nothing to live for, then you are a lost cause, but please stop projecting your lack of self worth and uselessness on other women, let alone those who are willing to talk to you.

 

[Friend of Dorothy Parker]

If I'm not what I want to be anymore I don't want to exist at all. If I get too old to continue I'm checking out. I can't stand to watch myself grow old and become forever separated from what I dream of.

Have you considered the possibility that "what you think you want to be" is not any of the following:

• What you should be
• What is good to be
• What will make you fulfilled
• The important thing

?

You sound depleted, mentally*, and adding the schizophrenic aspect you mentioned, I expect that is even more likely.

* which is not a slam, bc it happens to the best, but if so, you should seek some professional assistance in managing. The way you describe your thought process is not healthy - or necessary.

And adjusting personal goals & aspirations to those appropriate and relevant for you and your situation does not equal "giving up." Putting goals in the proper perspective is part of growing up, maturing.

 

[Ruined by the Rain]

And adjusting personal goals & aspirations to those appropriate and relevant for you and your situation does not equal "giving up." Putting goals in the proper perspective is part of growing up, maturing.

Yeah I think I'm going about this the retarded way where my goals isn't bad but I'm retarded about achieving it

 

[The Stranger]

@hell in april its ok 2 b gay

 

[MightyMorphin'Willbender]

a close acquaintance had a miscarriage
yes, so close to mother's day

what would a kiwisister do to help/cope/etc?

 

[NoReturn]

a close acquaintance had a miscarriage
yes, so close to mother's day

what would a kiwisister do to help/cope/etc?

Quiet, peace, and basic needs. Ask if they need anything, even toilet paper.
When you're grieving, the little normal things hurt a lot. It doesn't feel fair or right that the store is playing upbeat pop music when you've lost something you loved. It's wrong and it hurts. The world continues like nothing changed.