Misgendering because of passing
Hey, so this is a tiny discussiom based off some things I'm noticing. I'm now almost 3 years on T and pass, wear a patchy full beard and have a dark-lord deep voice. But specially in the LGBT friendly spaces and with people I've noticed since passing that there are situations that I get misgendered because I pass?? Bear with me.
First is when I'm with cis gay men, the lesser "wtf" situation but that do happen, I'm very obviously fruity and they give me the 'queen' treatment (gay men refering to eachother as 'she' not related to gender), coming to a level where I got called pretty once in female by another guy and just stood there flattered knowing that I pass but unsure if I correct him or not cause that treatment is very normal among gay men, but that doesn't mean I have to just take it when I dislike being called 'she' in any situation as a binary trans man, and by the time I have to think of this he already walked by... You know it's complicated sometimes...
Other one is by people that for some reason assume I'm transfem/NB when they get their LGBT radar working on. They usually get it when I say I'm a guy but on most cases have to go throught the thing again where I say I'm not cis, cause not being transfem must mean I'm cis and just gay right?(/sneed) Much of it seem to be close to the thing where people have some difficulty awknowledging transmen/mascs, like we're the ultimate last guess on the trans-of-gender spectrum or smth.
Anyone else been thru similar situations, where you're misgendered because you're passing, and how do you deal with it.