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HOW TO DEAL WITH A HUSBAND ADDICTED TO PORN​

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Pornography is incredibly difficult to quit. It is a very real addiction that rewires the brain. If your husband is open to accountability software, by all means use it. We use covenant eyes. It works on all of our devices. But do not put your trust in software. No software works 100 percent of the time. There is always a way around it.

If your husband is open to Christian counseling, do it. But not marriage counseling, counseling for him. He will need help to learn how to overcome addiction, strategies for rewiring the neuropathways in the brain, and help to see the damage caused by this sin.

Whether or not he is open to the types of help I mentioned, there are three incredibly important things you MUST do:

1. Stop looking. Seriously, do not check up on your husband. Don’t look at his likes or browser history. Men find this very disrespectful. It’s not your job to catch him in sin or convict. Leave that work to the Holy Spirit. The Lord sees everything.

2. Pray for your husband. Pray for him continually. Every time you think of him pray.

3. Be a good wife; obedient to all the commands the Lord gives to wives. You must show him respect and submit to him.

It’s not easy to do these things but remember that your trust is in the Lord. You don’t have to trust your husband, but you must always show him respect and submit to him. Do not bring up the past.

These things are as much for him as they are for you. Knowing if he is doing what is wrong isn’t helping you be a good wife. It isn’t helping you to give to your husband cheerfully. It isn’t helping you to trust in the Lord.

I have walked this road and helped many other women walk it as well. The Lord will help you.

Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives; While they behold your chaste conversation coupled with fear.

1 Peter 3:1,2
 
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Maniacal Foreigner said:
I don't know, maybe actually fuck him every once in a while instead of going "sorry, I have a headache", you dumb bitch?
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or alternatively she does, and he’s still using porn, and needs more and more extreme things to get off. Leading to ED in normal situations, then the grim slide down the tranny porn pipeline and eventually trooning out.
There’s no question side of things in the article so we don’t know what the situation is, only an answer which is basically ‘stop looking for it and put up with it’ . That’s not a very good answer at all.
 
Maniacal Foreigner said:
People don't tend to fall prey to extreme addiction without some sort of crisis or emptiness in their lives.
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She’s writing from some Christian surrendered wife type Facebook group, I doubt she’s claiming headaches. To make a judgement you’d need to see what the actual problem is. ‘Addicted to porn’ as in ‘sometimes uses it ‘ is very different to ‘can no longer get it up with his wife’ (which is a depressingly common complaint according to GP friends of mine who see it a lot.) and that’s different again from ‘coom obsessed gooner looking at really dodgy stuff and starting to steal our teenage daughters underwear.’
Without a reader’s questions type start off, it’s a crap way of writing an advice column
 
Christians have a moral obligation to correct others for their sinful behavior if it would have a positive effect on them. You don't just throw off a few prayers and let God do all the work.
 
JambledUpWords said:
You must show him respect and submit to him.
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Even when he wants to get rough and do more extreme demeaning acts because that's the kind of porn he watches and wants his wife to act the same?

Maybe sex strikes aren't the answer to a porn addict, but honestly, the wife shouldn't have to put up with it if it's getting out of hand. True love includes telling the person you love "no" and "I support you getting help" when it's for their own good.
 
Otterly said:
or alternatively she does, and he’s still using porn, and needs more and more extreme things to get off. Leading to ED in normal situations, then the grim slide down the tranny porn pipeline and eventually trooning out.
There’s no question side of things in the article so we don’t know what the situation is, only an answer which is basically ‘stop looking for it and put up with it’ . That’s not a very good answer at all.
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Maniacal Foreigner said:
I don't know, maybe actually fuck him every once in a while instead of going "sorry, I have a headache", you dumb bitch?
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Porn addicted moids, like any other addict, cannot be cured by anything external. They have to do the work themselves. No amount of real life pussy will ever cure a pornbrained male. Coddling men's feelings by telling them, and allowing them to tell themselves, that it's a woman's fault, regardless of what it is, is one of the most overplayed moves in the history and the preferred way a male has to avoid all responsibility.
Kari Kamiya said:
Even when he wants to get rough and do more extreme demeaning acts because that's the kind of porn he watches and wants his wife to act the same?

Maybe sex strikes aren't the answer to a porn addict, but honestly, the wife shouldn't have to put up with it if it's getting out of hand. True love includes telling the person you love "no" and "I support you getting help" when it's for their own good.
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Rape by coercion. "If you don't fuck me it's gonna get worse."
 
No wonder this bitch's husband is looking at porn with all this prayer talk. She probably lays there like a dead fish and only allows the missionary position. Afterwards, back into your pajama's and seperate beds with a bible on the shelf between them.
 
There's nowhere near enough information here to really know who is "at fault" here.

Surrendered wife types tend to never say no, but there's plenty of them (especially Catholic) who are "Sex is purely for procreation". In which case, I'm not remotely sympathetic to her anguish that he might be looking at porn.

I'd actually want to know what kind of porn he's looking at. If it's barely legal teens or violent I'd be worried, but if not...

Male Idiot said:
Improve your looks. Go to the gym. Build yourself up, bring something to the table... oh wait that's only needed from men.
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>Plastic tits
>Face-lift
>Make up
>Be demure and submissive
>Always be patient
>Be a good housekeeper
>Be a whore in bed but a nun in public

You're right. Women have no expectations from them at all.
 
He would have got a better wife if he wasn't a degenerate coomer.

If his hand appeals to him more than his wife, it actually shows up his stupid choices, such as marrying a sanctimonious moron.
 
Karen of Human Resources said:
>Plastic tits
>Face-lift
>Make up
>Be demure and submissive
>Always be patient
>Be a good housekeeper
>Be a whore in bed but a nun in public

You're right. Women have no expectations from them at all.
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>nope
>nope
>nope
>nope
>patience is a virtue regardless of gender
>only lolcows and niggers like filth
>nope


If your man wants most of the things above, that's your own damned fault.
 
porn addiction is perhaps not the root of all evil (that's love of filthy lucre) but it's damn near the root

you can't have "a bit of good porn" just like you can't be "a little bit pregnant" or "acceptable amounts of shit in my coffee"
 
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