Oh for fuck sake, this is a new low, even for you. She's dead and you're continuing to bash her after she is dead. You used to have the class to delete threads on people who killed themselves but no go ahead and keep alogging to advance your grudge against us. Whatever you say about the "so called" rat king, these people are my family and you are going to get what's coming to you.
Go away. This is not about you. Offer the widow some tangible help or stay in your thread. Otherwise you're just grandstanding for attention, little girl. People are trying to help a widow and you pull this? This is a shameless low, even for you.
@Manapan, this not profiting off Elizabeth's death. When people die, family and friends offer money and help. These days friends can include even the assholes Greta says killed your spouse - the Internet makes circles of friends much larger.
I had not considered the impact of fundraising on your bankruptcy. If I recall correctly, in the case of chapter seven, you'll have to report any incoming money to the trustee and it can be used to pay debt. I think for at least six months after bankruptcy is granted, any windfalls, like inheritances or fundraising attempts, can be taken as well.
But I do think that in the case of utilities and debts not considered in your bankruptcy, people can pay directly to the power company, apartment lease agency and such. Additionally, if you have a PO Box or a trusted friend who can receive mail (for your safety do not give anyone your home address), we can send things like Target or supermarket gift cards. Money can be taken but gift cards and direct payments to debtors cannot. Ask your lawyer about it.
If things get bad, remember that people are offering help because we feel terrible that you have suffered a blow - your ex killed herself during the holidays, in the middle of a bankruptcy, leaving you with a child to support. You're not profiting from Elizabeth's death, you're being offered assistance because life sucks and sometimes we all need help. You're not in the best state of mind right now so take some time and think things over. If you need help in the weeks to come, comment here and send a signal and I will help and so will others.
If this thread is taken down, make note of user names and directly contact us. Seriously, I've donated money to strangers to save the lives of cats who need emergency surgery. Crowdfunding in emergencies is a well-established custom these days. The financial comfort and well-being of you and your child is important and is in no way profiteering.
Jesus, this is so awful. Take care of yourself, Amanda.