I' m going to put this into the general discussion.
I think one of the children is "touched" in some way.
I think the Eldest is just a shy guy having a tough time. I think there is a female 2nd or 3rd who is on a scale.
Crass, rude, and irrelevant. Go stand in the corner.
I know, I know, wish me a million rainbows, but the optimistic part of me would love to see Nick get clean, get his life together, and cut out every fucking tumor that blamed his children for his own failings.
If someone blamed my kid for seeking help, I would never talk to that fucker again. A child is a child.
Nick's interest so far appears to be defending himself, not his children. And certainly not lashing out at his "defenders."
I shot myself in the foot discussing this earlier, but I am really curious what you guys think the role of the 16 year old is. To me, 16 is basically an adult. Adult enough to know when something needs to be done, anyway. When all this shit started happening, this 16 year old just went along with it for a year or more and just rode the wave? Earlier, people said he had a nanny and was upper middle class etc implying he was helpless, I am really curious if that the consensus; that he was so sheltered that he was totally helpless to know what to do at all. What are the general thoughts on this? I am not shitting on the kid, I am just wondering if I am off-base in wondering what he was thinking during this whole period. Maybe he was the one who brought it to the attention of people, idk.
A child in a household should never have to take on the role of a parent. Regardless of skill, capacity, or anything else. Yes, if you are a poor widower with 12 kids and working two jobs, definitely older kids are going to be looking after little ones. That's a matter of necessity. And even that's not how it should be. But in that scenario it's a parent doing their best.
And in any scenario, sure, any older sib sometimes has to (or wants to) look after a younger one.
But when a minor is put in that position because his parents are drunk, coked up, and focused on fucking all night, that's obscene. And it's neglect, and damaging, and unfair. That goes whether those parents are lazy and in a comfortable house in a small MN town with concerned community around them, or whether they're poor as dirt in the hood or a single-wide with boards on half the windows. There's an argument it's worse when there are family and means to do better, but imo that's only because there is a theoretical possibility that the kids could go elsewhere. Either way, it's not a matter of whether kids know how or should know how to keep laundry rolling. It had nothing to do with the children, and everything to do with the parents.
Well, I'm not an Imholte hater (nor do I like him), but motherfucker shut down your bank account, then, jfc. Or get a new one and send your income there. This isn't hard. And if it's a joint account, move your half and remove yourself from it. Put a fraud alert on your cards.
In truth, he's filed for divorce, so if she's truly spending everything, he'll have a claim against her, but he has attorneys, and even in divorce reasonable self-help is allowed. Don't move shit offshore, don't lie, but you don't have to sit there and just whine.
Highly skeptical of the source, but if Aaron said this, Christ, help yourself instead of just waving your hands about it.
*I just realized alimony is normal in US so I guess it is sometimes government mandated to be a cuck like that. But this is voluntary ffs.
Dumb. Alimony has nothing to do with it, and it's not cuckoldry if a joint owner spends money in a joint account. But you can reasonably protect yourself in a divorce if you aren't trying to scam. And as for alimony, in a short marriage with no joint kids, unlikely, regardless of circumstances. (And if somehow ordered, would be short.)
16-year-olds could and should be able step up and help out. But basic household skills have to be taught. Unfortunately, neither school nor parents seem to have done so in this case.
"Step up and help out is" not what this is, by a mile. "Step up and help out" is not "cover for your cranky, hysterical coke-and-whiskey-addled parents and take on actual parenting of 4 children."
And no, schools do not teach children not even old enough to drive how to raise 4 children.
Sure, in the olden days people worked 40 hours/day in the coal mines from the age of 3. Was it right? Of course not. Were any of those people descendants of 9-figure (or 8 or 7 or 6) grandparents, with parents with a net worth at least in the 7s? No, not one.
Yeah, Nick claims he's not a trust-fund kid, but at a minimum he lives literally rent-free; has the benefit of two homes; has at least $200k in cars; has a "job" that is primarily an excuse to drink; can afford a stash of blow, trips to std-ridden islands, a non-working spouse, and nannies/ drivers/ cleaners [none of which apparently could tolerate working there], tacky expensive-ish art, cheesy trips to casinos, fucking Walmart groceries by the ton, and a bunch of plastic surgery for the spouse (and "private school" for 1 kid, though it's likely not a particularly expensive one). Oh, and enough free cash for at least his own bond. Even if millions are not freely available, $100 (in the form of a powdery rolled-up bill) says he's not pressed.
In short, there is no room here to suggest those kids should have had to live in a dirty, messy house waiting for someone to remember they exist while mom sprawls in bed and dad has a fit bc he can't find the bolts for the St. Andrew's cross.
I'm trying to think what she could feasibly do? Send evidence to the cops that Aaron is also a degenerate coke taking child neglecting junkie fuck. Sure awesome. I guess he can share a cell with Nick if you send them enough evidence. But nothing she can do undoes the fact that Nick and Kayla are degenerate coke taking child neglecting junkie fucks.
If he's not caught with drugs on him, there's no charge for drug possession. Besides, he's admitted he did coke and molly. If April has evidence of him doing something else illegal that doesn't depend on that, sure, I guess. But she's not exactly a reliable source of info at this point, in any case, so it would need to be something extreme with documentation.
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