To explain, I've been walking the line of actual genderfuck androgyny for a while now, and there's some interesting nuance with how cis peoples treatment of me changed as I transition.
For reference I'm in a happy relationship with my trans bf and do very well with my field/career.
I got a lot of hate from backwards cis ppl at first, mockery judgement what have you. But as I've become more open and confident, that group has filtered down to the cis people that seem to have massive similarities to me in terms of patriarchy making their lives hell.
Cis women that have features that have gotten them hate or bullying in the past, ppl that are open about their insecurities etc will now be the ones to mock how ugly I am and blah blah blah...
But then I know they see my success in my field that has no bearing on my beauty, they see my partner and I happy & content, and also they see me becoming more accepted and well liked than they are (bc I'm not bitter and just am an open kind person)
I've also gotten a lot of friction from new mothers that intentionally surround themselves with misogynistic/patriarchal social groups. But not from parents that are queer inclusive and don't tolerate bullshit from misogynist standards
The men that complain about dating troubles, people who struggle more in my field are always ones to scoff at my appearance at first then grow more whipped as I kill them with competency and kindness.
I just find I'm having this epiphany where I see how frustrating it must be to be viewing the world through a hierarchical lens, and seeing someone who should be below you surpass you in all the ways that matter. It makes me feel sad for these people that have made it their mission to try and torment me.
Just a bent abt a silver lining of being othered, being able to step outside of that framework and kinda laugh at the absurdity in the ways we try to order our little society... hope this made sense
