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I wouldn't feel that way. I'd thank him for being self aware enough to know he wouldn't be much of a help himself and opt to get me someone who can help. He still helped and in a way that doesn't involve wasting either of our time.Imagine you helped your friend move, worked all day moving his shit, you're sore all over the next day. Later you move, and you ask him to help you out. Instead he hires a mover to do his part while he sits on his ass. That mover can probably lift more and work more intelligently than your friend could, but you probably still feel like he's not providing the same friendship gesture as he's unwilling to sweat for you as you sweated for him.
I'm not saying the poor widow isn't helping or shouldn't be properly thanked for doing what she can, I'm saying it's stupid to pretend that she is somehow helping more than those who give more.
You can recognize both being helpful without saying "fuck this guy, he has so much money that it doesn't even count when he uses it to help people".
That's all well and good, it's good to do nice things without the expectation of being rewarded, but I'm sure the ones in need of the help don't really give a shit if the helping hand is doing it for personal gain. People in need of help aren't in the position to say "oh no your charity is no good to me, you're only doing it for clout!". I think the only important part is that people are helping how they can regardless of their motivation. If I build free public schools and soup kitchens for the down trodden, does it suddenly become less helpful if it's discovered I only did so because I wanted a statue built in my likeness for it? No, it's still helpful as long as it does what it was built for. It's extremely vain and narcissistic but that doesn't negate the good it provides.You can also connect it to other teachings of Jesus. For example, don;t let you left hand know what your right hand gives. Or don't pray in public places, pray in the quiet of your home. Both preach humility and focus on the act of doing good, not doing good to show off to others.
