sex offenders are almost always men, and again..no man who has no children of his own should be associating with someone elses children, just because a handful of women are also deviants. its weird and creepy.
Whatever Dad's, at the Boy Scout meeting, hands go flying up first when they ask for volunteers for the weekends camping trip with the boys should immediately be disqualified
Wow that's a level of cynicism even I don't share and I'm pretty blackpilled about a lot of shit. When my sons of age, I will one hundred and ten percent be volunteering to go with him and the group to whatever. My dad and my neighbors dad volunteered to do the scout shit with us all the time when I was a kid and it is to this day some of my fondest memories. I'm still friends with that neighbor decades later too. I'm thankful most other dads didn't want to do this shit so my own could.
In this instance? Ima say no i'm not trusting either. If we're still talking a hypothetical about not wanting childless men to volunteer to watch kids for scouts, then I'm 100% of the same for women who would volunteer. Because data suggests female educators are now involved in 40-45 percent of reported teacher student sexual assault cases. That tells me any childless woman who eagerly volunteers to watch boys alone is someone I'm not gonna trust.
Don't miss the point either, that is to say, the discussion above was regarding a very specific odd scenario about childless dads volunteering at the scouts as well as childless women. If this were us talking who would you rather babysit, obviously I'd take a woman over a man any day of the week unless he's family lol.
Quick edit with a link too: If you disagree with me on this and think you'd be fine with a random woman with no kids volunteering to look after boy scouts in this hypothetical then please never have kids. And tell me why on gods earth you'd want an adult of no relation to volunteer to watch over kids they don't have relation or know lmao. Because that was the entire discussion. Talking about scouts. Not men or women babysitting. Not men or women around kids at all. Volunteering for scouts.
I think some of you guys go red at any gender/sex talk which is why I literally never go into this shit. But when people are so quick to agree a childless woman is actually not bad to watch over boy scouts, I'm gonna get in the muck to ask what on earth you're thinking.
Removed a link that apparently misread data, shout out to @poggers for that.
IRL is more dangerous, but OF is online forever. I don’t think that’s going to be a problem, though, because I doubt he’s going to have a reputation you can ruin.
With IRL there are ways to mitigate dangers like working with other people (not a pimp, but like in a massage parlor or SOOB type thing). Obviously you will get hurt as a man working the blade though so it depends on how smart he is. There's something inherently soul-crushing about porn though that isn't reputation loss. The way you think socially when you know there is porn of you on the internet is different, it makes you paranoid. You can just hide prostitution from your friends and other relationships, but with porn you will always wonder if they have seen you. And he's obviously not going to be successful in the porn industry, while johns will stick their dicks into any hole. He might as well get something out of whatever psychic damage he will inflict on himself.
A pooner's family has more respect for her tranny brother than her since she's a man now.
Of course it's the usual whining about how their treated by other women and their own community, but what did they expect when men are seen as oppresser's in their groups?
donatlus 88 points 2 days ago
Damn have they got the entirely wrong impression of intersectionality.
It's way more accurate to say that as someone who sits on the intersection of man and trans that you'll face unique discrimination due to that intersection. That's how an intersection works. They intersect. They don't cancel each other out lol.
[–]TaxEvasionWasTaken2 18 points 2 days ago
Yeah lol, I really don't think they know how it works. But they're also definitely the kind of people who don't want to be wrong, so they refuse to accept that.
The whole can-never-be-wrong thing has actually led to some pretty funny (looking back on it) experiences though. In a conversation with my mom and a friend at one point, my friend used 'she', and my mom said "her pronouns are he/him", and when I mentioned that, she said she used 'her' to "show what pronouns the other person was using and why it was wrong"
I'm looking back on this and laughing because seriously, she cannot just accept that a mistake might've been made
[–]apocalypse_massacre 11 points 2 days ago
Yeahhhhhh cis women in particular don't accept criticism of their behavior toward trans men, they refuse to accept they have any privilege over us. Debating them is pretty useless cuz they'll just twist our frustrations (in response to abuse) as somehow being aggressive and a sign of our privilege. This has been going on forever, and doesn't seem to be any signs of changing- that's why a lot of trans men stealth + cut cords once able. Trans/queer and feminist communities just bring more abuse, we only exist as scapegoats/whipping boys for them.
X_CanesHe/Him | Transsex 37 points 2 days ago
I can tell you right now that your family is absolutely stupid for this take. I suffer from the same issues as you minus already having T. No one respects me and I even allowed them to choose a name for me since they didn’t like the one I picked. I have no more “privilege” being trans than being seen as cis.
I didn’t even know this argument existed prior to this post so this is wild to me.
[–]TaxEvasionWasTaken2 11 points 2 days ago
I also didn't hear this argument until I dared to say that trans men, in fact, do face problems. I showed them some of the stuff that happened on r/trans and another sub when they said transmasc issues weren't real and then they still said they weren't real. Actually wild.
[–]X_CanesHe/Him | Transsex 10 points 2 days ago
That is completely wild. I can’t stand people being like that. It’s wild how hostile the larger trans community is to us but also how much we’re ostracized by the rest of the world.
[–]TaxEvasionWasTaken2 2 points 2 days ago
Exactly, same thoughts here.
[–]X_CanesHe/Him | Transsex 4 points 2 days ago
The wildest part to me is your family supporting your sister not you.
[–]TaxEvasionWasTaken2 8 points 2 days ago
I'm pretty sure it's because they're all definitely of the 'masculinity = bad' mindset, and so in their minds, my sister is perfect because she went over to the 'good side', and I did the opposite.
At the very least, despite the rant in the post, my sister's pretty supportive, and even if she's still convinced I'm gaining privilege/status via transition somehow, she still has my back.
[–]X_CanesHe/Him | Transsex 4 points 2 days ago
Good vs Bad side of gender is so ughhh.
Well that is good at least yeah!
Zombskirus 16 points 2 days ago
It does not matter if you're a trans man, trans woman, nonbinary, etc, cis people in general hold power over ALL trans people. Point blank. Yeah, being a trans man, many of us don't have to deal with living as a woman, but that doesn't mean we're safer. Our SA and general violence statistics are much higher than cis women, are some of the highest, if not the highest, in general. Anti-trans laws and transphobia still affect us despite what so many people have convinced themselves. We aren't left out of trans discrimination just because we're men. Do they genuinely think transphobes are fine with trans men lol??
I'm so sorry your family is saying this shit. Trans men face such high rates of violence, but because we're men, people don't wanna acknowledge that. Our discrimination, our history, etc, is erased and that is not on purpose. The mindset that we have the same privilege as cis men just contributes to that erasure and ensure trans men continue being harmed with little to no help. Everyone wants to talk on our experiences, yet no one wants to listen. I hope you have another support system that actually listens to you and trans men as a whole.
[–]Pan_seyyyxual 7 points 1 day ago
And also since some of us still have a uterus and a vulva. Reproductive rights also affects us. Abortion rights affects us. Maternal care affects us. Cervical cancer, endometriosis, PCOS, etc affects us. Medical misogyny affects us. Some of us couldn't even get hysterectomy if we wanted to.
[–]Zombskirus 6 points 1 day ago
1000%!!!! Trying to get a hysto was miserable. I had to go thru two different insurance companies because the first wouldn't cover even my appointments to just talk to my surgeon. I also had to dig to find that surgeon myself as no doctor would recommend any to me. It took almost 2 years just to actually get the surgery process going. My surgeon had to lie on my behalf so my insurance would even entertain covering the costs.
People act as tho being a man is enough to just never experience oppression or hardships as if we ain't also trans? As if all of society sees us as men and gives us the care and support we need without issue lol.
[–]Revolutionary-Tie908 0 points 1 day ago
What’s different from a trans man experience violence from a cis man experience violence. Cis men and trans men should stick together as bros.
[–]Zombskirus 9 points 1 day ago
I agree we should stick together! As much as I hate being separated from cis men, cis men don't typically have to deal with transphobia. Cis men aren't called "female" or "woman" in a taunting way, don't have to worry about forced impregnation, don't have to deal with anti-trans laws, don't have to spend money and effort and time to transition, don't have to worry about their right to their care being taken away based on being trans, don't have to deal with dysphoria, etc. Of course, this all depends on many factors, like how far along in transition one is, your region/country, your support system, etc.
They honestly thought they were going to enjoy life on easy mode. While I do think men have it easier in terms of safety from sexual violence, etc they still have problems too.
And now their saying that women are more privileged than them, but at the same time their supposed to be men sorry kids you can't have it both ways.
And another post of a pooner venting about her friends telling her not to care what people think about her, but clearly them affirming her isn't enough everyone must believe she's a man.
“Stop caring what other people think” and other advice that pmoMental Health (self.FTMventing)
submitted 2 days ago by flyingofficedrone
This is a rant and not a vent but just let me rattle off okay
I hate when I’m dysphoric or when I’m sad at being misgendered and instead of some reassurance or some comfort I get given ANOTHER dumb piece of advice about dealing with it.
“Stop wanting validation from strangers the people closest to you know who you are and you know who you are so why does anyone else matter” IT MATTERS BECAUSE I WANT TO BE RESPECTED AS A MAN. When im treated as a woman or as an other i feel SAD, and when im treated as a man i feel HAPPY, so i want to be treated like a man everywhere I go. Thats just how my brain works! Sue me!!!
“just affirm yourself and be secure in your identity if you know you’re a man no matter what then misgendering/dysphoria will hurt less” OBVIOUSLY I KNOW IM A FUCKING MAN? I’ve been out for 5 years bro!!! I literally only recognize myself as a man, even when I’m sat in front of a mirror and butt ass naked, but that’s the root of the fucking problem ain’t it ???? My body still looks wrong. I’m still called she/her. IT MAKES ME SAD.
“Stop attaching certain features/body parts to certain genders and affirm yourself” wow, thanks. Just one problem though! My dysphoria is about my SEX. I WAS NOT SUPPOSED TO BE BORN WITH THIS BODY. No matter how many times I try to love it or even feel neutral about it I still end up either dissociating or in the fetal position on my bathroom floor crying because the fact that this was the body I was born with still upsets me to no end!!!!
Oh wowie my quality of life is significantly worsened by just existing, my body and the way I’m treated upset me to the point of tears, but thankfully I was told today the same piece of advice I’ve already heard over and over since I came out! Alhamdillulah my dysphoria is healed and my mind has been BLOWN! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK Y (Sarcasm)
I don’t care I’m insecure in my identity or whatever the fuck, and I don’t care about some magical mental framework that “changed it all” for you. Oh my god bro I’ve been trying that bullshit over and over for the past 5 years STOP GIVING IT TO ME. ALL YOURE DOING IS PISSING ME OFF
I bind, I pack, I’ve been on HRT for a year, and I pass semi frequently. These things have done more for my mental health than anything else I’ve tried. I like how I look now more than any point in the past and it is that simple. All I want now is a few surgeries, more changes from hrt, a bunch of legal paperwork changes, and a he/him from a stranger on a regular basis. That’s all I need from this life
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anonymousviewer_030 20 points 2 days ago
i feel this. also, hard for us to "not care what people think" when what a lot of people think right now is getting us killed. like, yeah maybe i do care a little that joe schmoe up the road wants me dead for being who i am? idk.
[–]Damasathnonbinary transmasc | they/he 7 points 2 days ago
oh my GOD I FEEL THIS SO MUCH.
I try not to rant about it to some friends or some at all when I feel this sad/dysphoric and just really DOWN because NOBODY genders me correctly, people who do (and know I am trans*) still treat me like a woman or just all the "slip ups" i have to accept (because they're trying, right) and sometimes I just feel the WORST about it and friends just keep "you know WE accept you" or "learn to not give a damn what others think" i just CAN'T HEAR THAT ANYMORE. oh. MY. GOD.
Sorry that was a smol rant about it from my side because I feel you so so much.
[–]self-antagonistic 3 points 2 days ago
Fight back, is all I can say. Choose violence
When someone says something like "lol, stop thinking about what other people think", it probably means they are deeply insecure about something. You can just kindly retribute them by giving them something else to be insecure about.
"My god, you dress like three different people with totally unmatching styles passed their clothes onto you." And so on. Let's see how much they believe in what they preach.
It helps release some of that angry energy too
[–]Effective_Rhubarb564They/Them 5 points 2 days ago
The first one is so dumb bro, ‘hur dur just don’t care what others think’ but I’m not insecure lol. I’m upset about not consistently passing as male. Fucking difference jackass. If a cis man was being called a girl everywhere he went, would he be told that bs? No people would act like it’s the single worst thing to ever happen lol.
But when it’s us it’s apparently some insecurity thing.. mf I’ll make u insecure if u keep it up
Remember delusional narcissist can't have their own self esteem they need others to build it for them.
This is weird because the exterminator is the only guy more beloved than the HVAC guy in most buildings. If you're ugly or have bad English the best way to be respected and get free food from any restaurant/office/studio is to be the man who banishes rats and roaches.
Yeah the pest control guys that pre-emptively spray my 100 year old building for ants and roaches (living in the Midwest in an old building means it's a bit inevitable) could ask me for a kidney if they needed one. Also maybe it's just me but most pest control people I've met are extremely clean, like they look like they put themselves through an industrial washer every day, which I guess makes sense - don't wanna bring home The Yuck from an infestation, or transfer it between job sites? So my guess is that this gal is doing the pooner 'never shower because Teh Dysphorias' thing
"14 months into my transition and it seems like I have lost every part of my life to be me".
How else could it be? The man you were before was a falsehood, right? His name and life having nothing to do with the real you, so you are being born again.
Or, or, you have lost everything because you are a deluded troglodyte so beholden to your sexual fetish that you are throwing away your life with both manhands to LARP as something that it is literally impossible for you to be.
I pity your wife and children. But I don't pity you.
Here he is gassing up a fellow true and honest woman who was feeling a little self-conscious about her upper body (female body insecurity amirite girls?!). Even the troon was like dude, stop.
Oh and here's what our newly single father looks like:
I'm sure he'll find himself a nice new wife (with a bonus penis and man boobs) in no time!
Here he is gassing up a fellow true and honest woman who was feeling a little self-conscious about her upper body (female body insecurity amirite girls?!). Even the troon was like dude, stop.
Better to grow up fatherless than to have a faggot in a dress as a father. At least then he won't have any more opportunities to molest his children or groom them to follow in his vile lifestyle.
This is wrong, pretty sure. The figures "42%" and "58%" refer to overall child maltreatment (primarily neglect and emotional/physical abuse) by parents or biological guardians, not sexual abuse by teachers. The link has misrepresented these stats.
Another survey of US graduates (K–12 educator sexual misconduct) found that about 89% of identified perpetrators were male. Which is probably closer to the truth
The detail that stands out to me is the time gap. Either his wife tolerated his AGP antics for a while or it took her over a year to escape his clutches.
The detail that stands out to me is the time gap. Either his wife tolerated his AGP antics for a while or it took her over a year to escape his clutches.
Here he is gassing up a fellow true and honest woman who was feeling a little self-conscious about her upper body (female body insecurity amirite girls?!). Even the troon was like dude, stop.
Yeah. Like where are the actual femboys at? (as someone attracted to women and feminine guys it's a bit niche, but there is a huge difference between a femboy and a trans woman, as trans women are women.)
It’s to get attention from lowkey transphobic old men who make up alot of trans nsfw content viewer. Same reason trans nsfw creatos write stuff like “Is it gay to do xy with me” and similar stuff
Let people do whatever the fuck they want maybe. Like you aren’t responsible for what they call themselves or what communities they identify or post in. You shouldn’t define yourself by what cissies think of you anyways. You know you’re a girl and not a femboy and that’s what’s important. I personally don’t think it’s wise to do something like this but it’s a hard life for sex workers also and I can’t judge in that respect. Don’t tell others how to label themselves
If you managed to have two kids who say they're trans, then you've just proven the argument that this is a trend. If genderspecials want to show the world that being trans is comparable to being gay, then it's up to them to show me the parents that produced nothing but gay children.
Yeah if my boyfriend was acting deranged like that all of a sudden I'd be trying to help him for a while before I would be able to walk away, like fuck, man, everyone deserves us at least trying to encourage them to seek help for their obvious mental issues
What stands out to me is “I can’t find work.” Clearly him leaving isn’t a problem from a childcare perspective either. So the real story here is, “I’m a useless piece of shit who spends all day gooning while my wife does everything, I called her bluff and it turns out it wasn’t a bluff, fuuuuck.”
