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Under the headline “Do most tops douche before sex or not?,” the presumably young man says he met up with another guy on Grindr and they enjoyed a hot session. The other guy was a top, and the Redditor was duly pounded. After a break, the top wanted another go, but our poster was unsure he could take it again and offered a BJ instead.
“So while I was down there, r*mming and sucking him off, I was about to stick some fingers in while doing it, since most guys I’ve been with seem to enjoy that. But he stopped me before I could, shaking his head and saying he wasn’t clean enough down there.”
The man continued, “Before this, I was under the assumption that all gay guys clean out at least a little before playtime.”
Unsurprisingly, many people rushed to educate him.
The most well-liked response simply said, “That would be a very bad assumption on your part.”
“It doesn’t even cross most tops minds unless they are flip f*cking,” agreed another.
A top said, “Are we supposed to do it in solidarity with our bottoms?”
“Awwww, I remember when I was young and naïve
.”
“As a top, I have never douched. I have had guys eat me out, finger me, or play with my a**. But never douched.”
“I’ve never heard of tops douching at all unless they’re vers or expecting to flip-flop. Douching isn’t a prerequisite for all men having gay sex. This was kinda cute and funny, though, that you assumed they did.”
“Surely a finger and soap, you don’t need a whole douche for some damn a** eating,” said one.
“I’m not sure why you would douche just to get rimmed. I’d be afraid of a little jet of douche water in bro’s mouth! Haha,” said another.
Out of a couple of hundred replies, a few tops said they did douche, but it seemed to be more down to appreciating the feeling of cleanliness inside and out than from necessity. Most others said they just washed themselves externally down there, with a couple saying they used scented soaps to ensure they smelled nice.
Someone else said that the “I’m not ready/clean” line might be “easier shorthand for another cause that might embarrass your top.”
In short—as many of us already know—do notassume or even expect a top to douche.
Gay man shocked to discover most tops don’t douche before sex & the internet offers condolences
A Reddit post about douching written by a gay man has prompted almost 200 replies.Under the headline “Do most tops douche before sex or not?,” the presumably young man says he met up with another guy on Grindr and they enjoyed a hot session. The other guy was a top, and the Redditor was duly pounded. After a break, the top wanted another go, but our poster was unsure he could take it again and offered a BJ instead.
“So while I was down there, r*mming and sucking him off, I was about to stick some fingers in while doing it, since most guys I’ve been with seem to enjoy that. But he stopped me before I could, shaking his head and saying he wasn’t clean enough down there.”
The man continued, “Before this, I was under the assumption that all gay guys clean out at least a little before playtime.”
Unsurprisingly, many people rushed to educate him.
The most well-liked response simply said, “That would be a very bad assumption on your part.”
“It doesn’t even cross most tops minds unless they are flip f*cking,” agreed another.
A top said, “Are we supposed to do it in solidarity with our bottoms?”
Other popular responses included:
“Many bottoms don’t even douche, so expecting it from tops is insane.”“Awwww, I remember when I was young and naïve
.”“As a top, I have never douched. I have had guys eat me out, finger me, or play with my a**. But never douched.”
“I’ve never heard of tops douching at all unless they’re vers or expecting to flip-flop. Douching isn’t a prerequisite for all men having gay sex. This was kinda cute and funny, though, that you assumed they did.”
Washing
Some people mentioned r*mming, but many others said this did not require preparatory douching in advance.“Surely a finger and soap, you don’t need a whole douche for some damn a** eating,” said one.
“I’m not sure why you would douche just to get rimmed. I’d be afraid of a little jet of douche water in bro’s mouth! Haha,” said another.
Out of a couple of hundred replies, a few tops said they did douche, but it seemed to be more down to appreciating the feeling of cleanliness inside and out than from necessity. Most others said they just washed themselves externally down there, with a couple saying they used scented soaps to ensure they smelled nice.
Someone else said that the “I’m not ready/clean” line might be “easier shorthand for another cause that might embarrass your top.”
In short—as many of us already know—do notassume or even expect a top to douche.
