Honestly, I would not be surprised more don't grow old enough for dementia because they enjoy things like heart problems and other medical side effects sooner. I imagine quite a few quietly detransition later in life as well.
For the first time ever, I find myself hoping that a good number of trannies survive into senility, because an epidemic of troons in nursing homes, waking each morning to scream: "Where is my penis?!" will go a long way to destroy the myth of the "gender soul", and show them to be the AGP freaks they always were.
Even you never believed it, troon!
And the ultimate irony is that, as their brains fail, reality seeps back in.
Getting called "mentally ill" on a post on a hockey subreddit.....nothing in my post had anything to do with being transgender. They just went through my post history and saw that ive posted in trans subs. It fills me with so much rage that I can be decades into transitioning, most people I interact with dont even know im trans, but itll always be a "gotcha" for some ignorant fucks. I hate that being trans is a well known negative thing now, when I started transitioning most people were at least vaguely sympathetic of it being a medical issue,if they even really understood it at all. I feel like im in kind of a queer bubble socially but any time I interact with people regarding certain hobbies you realize how ignorant and hateful the majority of the population is. I just want to live my life.
While waiting one of his tables at work, a server is clocked by the patriarch of the family as being a man in drag, leading him to turn an evil eye to OP as he left the establishment. I'm always skeptical about stories like this for one particular reason: if you were truly being identified as a Brother of the Dressing Room Spy Cam, they would not be referring to you as a trans woman but by many other colorful epithets enjoyed by Kiwis and non-Kiwis alike. Link | Archive
I am a server and today at my job, things were going really well with my table. The dad must have realized I was trans toward the end cause I’m 95% sure I heard. “Oh that’s a trans woman? That’s disgusting.” And I saw him glaring at me as he walked out but of course he didn’t say it to my face. It just scares me.
I’ve been on HRT for 7 months or so and thankfully people who haven’t met me tend to think I’m a girl upon the short interactions of being their server.
My coworkers have also been really lovely about it even if seeing this is new for them. I’m so thankful.
However I’m really sensitive and I can tell the people who are aware seem very uncomfortable at times. I try to just be as nice as I can but over and over it makes me want to curl up and disappear haha.
Does anyone have any tips? I’m scared… I don’t want things to escalate
A man can hardly bear any sort of intimate contact with his genitals because he finds sticking things up his poop chute to be a most uncomfortable and unpleasant affair; instead, he longs to receive cunnilingus, claiming that he can "feel the female sex organs" he is "supposed to have." Don't worry, OP, you'll find sex will continue to be a miserable act even if you get your dick ripped off, but don't let me stop you from your dreams of girlgasms! Link | Archive
I'm pre op, probably won't be able to get GRS for a long, long time if at all and it's crushing me on the inside. I hate anal, the prep, the needing to prep for it, having to stop because of dysphoria or pain is very disheartening and it doesnt even feel good. I wish I could be eaten out, i refuse any contact down there with my partner. Can't masturbate the way I want either and it makes me want to cut this thing off. I can't be intimate in the way I want to and I can't take it that I just fucking can't. It makes me feel like im broken. How does anyone deal with this without having a breakdown. I can feel the female sex organs I'm supposed to have, I can feel every part and where it's supposed to be and the feeling is so strong. It's supposed to be there, why the fuck isn't it. Going to go have a breakdown about it again.
Enjoy this two-for-one special where two different TiFs tried to come out to their siblings and neither got the fanfare they were seeking. As you can see here, anything short of celebration is totally and utterly unacceptable because neither of these responses were even as nasty as some have reported, though it did amuse me how male- and female-socialized the respective replies were. Link | Archive
I don't know what my current gender identity is. I used to identify as agender but recently I think I might be at least somewhat transmasc. But I haven't told anyone anything other than being cis for personal reasons. So I tried coming out to my sister as questioning my gender identity since she has friends who are openly trans and seems to be supportive. We were talking about various events in our past together and I thought about this topic. But when I did, she told me that she wasn't sure how to react and we cut off the conversation there. I think I am overreacting when I felt somewhat upset about this response. Should I take back my words and pretend that I changed my mind?
To be specific, his exact response was “[Deadname], you are a female. These gender things are not a thing. They are a corruption of your natural state. Don't go down this path. Pray to God. This is not who you are. I hope you realize that all of this is not normal.” I knew things would realistically go this way given his character, so why do I still feel so upset? This is so stupid, yet I still feel terrible.
Does everybody remember Selfcentred-Deer from the Pooner Zoo, the weird little lady who stands like an idle video game character? Rejoice: her husband has decided she's too fucking crazy and has called an end to their nearly 20 year marriage. While it's sad to know that their child will now have contend with problems common in children of divorce, this will probably lead Deer into some sort of syphilitic Grindr arc of self-discovery a la Kelly Lenza, so I for one am excited to see where this goes for her! First Post (c/o Larry David's Opera Cape) Update Last Post Link | Archive
… and honestly the only way I know how to cope rn is the gym. This period where you already lost everything and are not yet getting gender affirming care sucks balls. I have to wait at least four more months before I can go on T - how do I not go crazy in the meantime?
A dipshit tranny gets his feelings hurt when he purposefully posts to r/transpassing pretending to be a pooner only for everyone to assure him that yes, he really is so blatantly masculine that nobody would ever guess he's female. With the truth revealed, he now resents all who ever tried to comfort him in his hour of need and feels a despair so deep that he cannot imagine a future in which he can ever be happy again. While tireless Redditors try to come to his aid and say that "hugboxxing goes both ways," OP is such a miserable malcontent that nobody can possibly get through to him, so maybe he should just do a flip already. Link | Archive
Context: 28, 10 months on E (but I was under-dosed and my levels weren't right for the first 9 months, just doubled my dose), doesn't pass at all I've always known I look like a cis man who's not even remotely androgynous because that's pretty obvious to anyone with eyes, but people around me (as well as trans people online) always tell me things like "you're not that bad" "you're androgynous" "just give it more time" and I always feel so gaslit and hugboxxed.
So I came up with a crazy idea. What if I pretend to be a trans man and post on r transpassing? So that way, I can find about how masculine I really am, without people hugboxxing me.
So I actually posted selfies there with a caption like “FTM. Do I pass?” And I got comments like “you pass really well”, “no way in hell I’d clock this”, “you pass 100% as a cis man. you could pull off a Chad vibe”.
The only thing that they pointed out was that my bangs made me look less masculine, which means not a single one of them pointed out a facial feature of mine as being feminine.
Obviously, none of this is nice to hear since I’m actually a trans woman, but it almost felt like a breath of fresh air to me since I’m so used to people hugboxxing me, and this confirmed what I’ve always believed, which is that my face is irredeemably, irreparably masculine.
At least now I can just completely dismiss it when my bf tells me I don’t look that masculine and go “uh-huh, sure…” instead of trying to argue because now I know deep down I’m 100% right and he’s just bullshitting me.
And yes, I know what I did isn’t good and I’m never going to pretend to be a trans man again. But it was the last resort after showing what I look like to so many trans people under different circumstances and getting hugboxxed and gaslit almost every time except for very few instances. And I feel like it was the only way for me to prove my point and find out how masculine I really am.
So yeah, it’s over for me. If I wasn’t so afraid of failing and ending up with a disability or complications or something, I’d unalive myself but I don’t have the guts to do it since it might fail. Life is such a cruel joke. It gave the most masculine face to the girliest girl in the world. I wish I was a girl, but I’ll never be one.
I’ll still stay on HRT because I don’t see a reason not to, but I can’t see a future for me anymore.
Another situation in which fucking around leads to the dreadful ordeal of finding out, but this time, it's dood-on-dood violence as one half of the pooner pair finds phallos most repulsive; unfortunately, the other half claims that she needs it to "survive in this body," and when she presses her hurl-friend on the matter further she gets another answer that makes her even less happy than the one that preceded it. Whoops! Link | Archive
Unfortunately, I don’t have anyone I can talk to about this, so I’m posting here… My boyfriend, who is also ftm, asked me which surgeries etc. I want to have, and I said all of them. He then said he only wants T and top surgery, which is totally fair, but I still asked him why out of interest. He just said that they sometimes look weird. That kinda hurt me and made me very insecure. I’m also not 100% thrilled about phallo myself either, but I don't really have a better option. For me, it’s not a want but a need. I need it to survive in this body.
I don’t know if maybe I overreacted, but then I asked "So if I have the surgery, will you think it looks weird?" I know I’m doing the surgery for myself but it also makes me sad to know that my partner thinks I look weird down there. Even in a non intimate context, it gets to me. He then said: "Who cares? It’s not like your weird looking penis would affect my life or yours."
That somehow hurt even more, even though he meant it in a nice way. I can't change his opinion, so how do I deal with the situation? How do I accept that my partner may not be attracted to all of my body?
This is my first ever reddit post so I hope im doing this right.
I (FtM, 21) am in college & have been on T for 3 1/2 years now, started passing more (according to public interactions) after I went back to my “natural hair color”. Haven’t been referred to as a girl in 2 years, so I thought I was passing & went “stealth”: haven’t told anyone I’m trans, any questions I get (which is usually if someone on campus somehow sees my legal name) I just make up an excuse and it typically works.
Havent made many friends until this semester bc I felt like it would waste time that could be used studying. This semester I decided to try, and have become friends with 5-6 cis guys. The thing is, I thought I was stealth to them until today. Friend A was testing our exam question knowledge and Friend B referred to me as she several times when discussing answers with Friend A.
Idk what to do, I haven’t felt this type of dysphoria since I first started my transition. Do I message him asking if he thinks I’m a girl, or does that make it more obvious since I’m clearly thinking about such a small part of our interaction?
I guess I feel so sad bc, if I do look like a girl, I feel like I am viewed as an ugly one b/c of my deep voice, mustache, etc. [edit: this is specific to myself, as I was bullied for my appearance for a long time pre-transition and is not a proper representation of how I view others]. I feel so stupid for thinking I actually passed, and it’s making me hypercritical of my interactions with the rest of my cis friends.
Idek what to do abt passing better atp. I’m 5’4, mid sized body type. Ive read advice that says either get bigger muscles or lose weight, but muscles at my height may make me uglier and my partner says they’re not attracted to thin people.
TLDR: Thought I passed & was stealth, first cis male friend since starting college thinks im a girl, dont know if I should confront it or work on passing better - but I also dont know what to do to pass better without upsetting my partner or looking bulky.
Spoken word poo-etry: a tranny writes a post in which he describes coming out to his sister, but it's in such vague and evocative language that the only people who might find it profound are the kinds of people who once believed ukeleles to be an innovative instrument when played during open mic nights. Link | Archive
Few days ago i shed off the cover, and my sister leach on to it and cried, she called me fake and that non living thing alive. I stand there my eyes wide open, she said my father's eyes would also have twitch if he were seeing his dead son. He would also have mourn this husk.
I sat there letting my very real and alive eyes to witness and remember that that this husk is what she loves, i am not her sibling anymore. I am dead to her.
I was not surprised i was not sad, instead I laughed out loud as it was so much closer to what I expected, tho that laugh was just a armor i prepared for this. She was the closest being to me and i killed the closest being she thinks she knew.
Now she is stranger to me and I am someone she despise and I hope she forever does.
Among the man-hating maidens she works alongside, a "transmasc enby" (i.e., an end-stage NLOG) is upset that she keeps getting lumped in with other women but is too much of an impotent little invertebrate to stand up for herself no matter how uncomfortable she gets. I will never stop being amazed at how cowardly your average poon is; it's a shame that the "transmasc" pride flag features no yellow in it, for never exists more yellow a belly than one belonging to a TiF. Link | Archive
I’m using my alt account so this hopefully doesn’t get back to my workplace or anything but I’m trans-masc Enby and recently started on T. My workplace is LGBT owned and generally considered a “safe-space” intentionally. The workplace itself is almost all women except myself and my partner and most of the people are LGBT… but I’m still getting a lot of weird comments about my transition or people privately saying a lot of misandrist stuff to me. Recently for example my coworker decided to talk to me about how different genders hold different amounts of things in their hands (apparently girls hold more in their hands?) and was saying my partner wouldn’t hold a lot of things in his hands but I would… I kept saying “hmm, I’m not sure what you mean.” Or “I don’t think that’s the case” when she would say this stuff but she just kept insisting… I felt really uncomfortable being lumped in with “how women hold things” and also uncomfortable with the assertion in general that genders hold different amounts of things in their hands… and unsure what the point of her having this conversation with me in the first place… like was she trying to make me dysphoric about holding things in my hands???I keep dwelling on it and wishing I had something scripted in my mind for how to shut down conversations like “I can’t be a safe space for your misandry” or “It seems like you think I’m a lady, but I’m not.” And I can’t find a way in my mind that is professional and non-aggressive. There have been several other examples of this with different “man-hate” levels in recent memory and I just wish I had something constructive to say that won’t make me a villain in a space I care deeply about. Sometimes it feels even more difficult coming from other LGBT people and more difficult to correct for me. Maybe I’m just venting but I don’t know how to navigate these conversations where people are seeing me as “one of the gals” and hating on men/masculinity when I’m actively transitioning to be more masculine?
I saw the quality of kid's TV going swiftly downhill during the late 90s and 00s so I tried to
find stuff he could actually benefit and learn from, which got more and more difficult as shows like the teletubbies came along.
I saw the quality of kid's TV going swiftly downhill during the late 90s and 00s so I tried to
find stuff he could actually benefit and learn from, which got more and more difficult as shows like the teletubbies came along.
Good luck finding anything quality on children's television nowadays, if it doesn't appeal to the queers, the blacks, or anyone else that isn't normal, then you're not going to make a show. And basically to describe cartoon xitter would be like describing a cesspool of people who want to argue on how "this show doesn't have this minority or this type of gendered person, it doesn't appeal to autistic people." And or larp about how much they know about a certain show or company, that and also shit on the ceo's of specific companies (ie david zazlav of warner bros discovery and whoever's running disney)
Just saw this dude, and with the previous conversation in mind, the term 'arrested development'
came to mind so I looked it up and that definitely seems to check all the trans boxes.
Just saw this dude, and with the previous conversation in mind, the term 'arrested development'
came to mind so I looked it up and that definitely seems to check all the trans boxes.
Superheros in the 50s were conservite? Don't you guys bring up that comic of superman fighting the kkk when one of those grifters (i.e grummz) brings up that "superheros today are woke" captain america's main big bad, red scull is a nazi, hell i remember journalists compare a newer version of him to charlie kirk or matt walsh i forget who. I'm not saying convertives are nazi but these people usally do. I don't know what the politcs of these comic writers were nor do i care but since they hate nazis it must mean the are liberals right?
Havent made many friends until this semester bc I felt like it would waste time that could be used studying. This semester I decided to try, and have become friends with 5-6 cis guys. The thing is, I thought I was stealth to them until today. Friend A was testing our exam question knowledge and Friend B referred to me as she several times when discussing answers with Friend A.
So she's made friends with 5-6 guys who accept her as a GNC female (with a mustache) and it's off to the Obsession Races when she discovers that they're not fooled by her stealthiness: Should she confront them? Try passing harder? Her "partner" may not be pleased if she bulks up. Oh, worrah, worrah. What do?
I felt really uncomfortable being lumped in with “how women hold things” and also uncomfortable with the assertion in general that genders hold different amounts of things in their hands… and unsure what the point of her having this conversation with me in the first place… like was she trying to make me dysphoric about holding things in my hands??? I keep dwelling on it and wishing I had something scripted in my mind for how to shut down conversations like “I can’t be a safe space for your misandry” or “It seems like you think I’m a lady, but I’m not.” And I can’t find a way in my mind that is professional and non-aggressive.
I don’t know if maybe I overreacted, but then I asked "So if I have the surgery, will you think it looks weird?" I know I’m doing the surgery for myself but it also makes me sad to know that my partner thinks I look weird down there. Even in a non intimate context, it gets to me. He then said: "Who cares? It’s not like your weird looking penis would affect my life or yours."
I've noticed a lot of times that whenever I feel dysphoria, I have a sudden urge to try to block/counteract it with watching porn. I don't know if this has always been a thing for me even before realizing I was trans, but It's really annoying and pathetic.
Saaaame, sister. The more I've thought about and invested in transitioning, the more putting those two in the same "room" so to speak has just felt kinda wrong.
For me it's more like I feel that if I was just cis in the first place I wouldn't be so addicted to it. I remember one of the first times I saw something like that and remembering the feeling, it was dysphoria and I didn't know at the time.
Same i coped with my trans feelings for years with porn before i realized im trans so much so i got addicted to it and i rather wish to stop but im 10 months into HRT and my libido hasnt dropped at all. I was really looking forward to a lower libido on hormones so i could quit porn for good this time.
For a lot of us, porn was our first source of being able to "get into" a woman's headspace. It's also a crutch and a bad one at that with a lot of unrealistic and problematic standards to sort through. ...
