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[Corn Salsa]

I have no words. Instagram troon that someone posted on r/instagramreality, a subreddit dedicated to posting absurd social media filters and editing.

He got the surgery!

 

[goat sneed]

Rate me late if this has been posted. I haven't been closely following or browsing the Epstein files myself, just whatever I see in my usual browsing for funny shit. Apparently a new tranny cope is "um actually, bigot, you were fooled into thinking trans people are gross and weird by pedophile elites and so any denigration of them is actually you playing into the hands of pedophile billionaires. Mmmm sounds like you're also a pedophile, chud."

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(With a bonus seethe against JKR)
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Note how this one is only concerned about troons and not pooners. Once again FtM are despised by trannies.

The only trans stuff I've heard so far from posts in this forum is that he was involved with Jazz getting neutered and those surrounding him maybe saw them as a kink of sorts? I don't see how that leads into "they made hating trannies a thing with propaganda."

I didn't think trannies could get more insane, but "billionaire pedophile sex trafficker's biggest goal in life was to halt tranny acceptance" is a new low.

 

[AskMeAnything]

Our lovely lady-boy who want to be a professional cosplay model:
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That looks like a Temu quality outfit honestly.

He looks like a Temu Bjork tbh

 

[DreinMeinVein]

I didn't think trannies could get more insane, but "billionaire pedophile sex trafficker's biggest goal in life was to halt tranny acceptance" is a new low.

Billionaire paedophile sex trafficker: "Tell me more about ladyboys!"

Dirty doctor,: "Well, you can suck their dicks... and you'll feel less gay because it has moobs!"

Troons: "The paedophile and the gender doctor just collaborated to make us look like perverts. Blame JKR!"

But we all know that Rowling isn't involved. Many poons and troons are stooges, only not how they think.

 

[Whereismymind]

The director of that violent troon film is Violet Valentine / Violet Price / Allen Price.
@BimboNihilism on X. His account is now locked, but I still had a half-written post about him saved from a while ago, so here are some things about him that caught my eye:



Look at the hideous bolt-ons on this man!

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Creepy angled pics, likes to wear shirts with attention seeking slogans and a gun necklace (wouldn't it be fun if the police mistook that for a real gun?).


He knows he does not pass
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Sperging about art made by 'bad' people. Apparently has a fantasy about JK Rowling killing herself.


Using the dead CEO to promote his violent film


With professional women basher Alana McLaughlin


Your average troon group pic: BambiAttack, BimboNihilism, LuckyCatLuna and nine11goonette
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From his personal website blacksundaysproductions.com

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His Youtube channel is @violetmakesmovies (previously name @MichaelGondry)

I picked a short video titled 'birthday bashing' to show an example of this man talking in his 'lady voice' (with a random pile of clothing behind him). Turns out he is telling a story of how he tried to get back at a big Latino 'transphobe' at a restaurant by calling him a faggot and when he got no reaction he started throwing drinks all over the man and his supportive friends (=criminal battery). He believes it was some kind of contest that he won.

If you scroll all the way down his channel you can see his pre-transition videos.

'request to my peeps' 2008, when he was working on a series called Clean Living for Teens.

Vimeo page linking Allen and Violet

He's been working on another film about violent queers, but it doesn't look like the project is making much progress.

Bash

Latest news: his Bluesky account bimbonihilism.bsky.social has recently become more active again and he just posted his first post-FFS pic.

He's also on OF as stacychappelle / Stacy Chappelle
Oh shit, he actually has a popular porn account on X under that name as well stacyChappelle (NSFW!) a

He's still harassing people in public. x

 

[9 IRON TO THE BALLS]

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Tranny “blessings” are a cultural thing in India, with the addition of religious lunacy backing the insanity up.

ivine Embrace: The Sacred Role of Transgenders in Blessing Newborns

In many regions of India today, it is a familiar sight to welcome the arrival of transgenders—often called hijras or kinnar—at newborn celebrations and other auspicious occasions. Their blessings are sought, their melodies cherished, and their presence regarded as a harbinger of good fortune. This practice is rooted in the ancient epic of Ramayana, where Lord Rama’s compassion for those whom society had overlooked transformed them into custodians of divine grace.

The Forgotten in Ayodhya
As the story goes, when Rama prepared to embark on his fourteen‑year exile, he stood on the banks of the Sarayu River. A vast crowd of men and women gathered, hoping to seek his final counsel. Rama addressed them lovingly: “Men and women of Ayodhya, your hearts and homes will beckon me again; now please return to your daily lives.” Yet in that moment, he unwittingly omitted an often‑marginalized group—the transgenders—who also had come to witness his departure.

Years passed. Fourteen winters slipped away, and when Rama finally crossed back over the Sarayu, he was met by familiar faces and joyous tears. But he found a small, steadfast group still waiting on the riverbank. Surprised, he asked why they had lingered so long. One among them spoke for all: “O Lord, when you bade your people farewell, you mentioned only men and women. We—whom you are to us—felt we were forgotten. We are those whom even society overlooks; how could our Lord forget us?”

The Sacred Promise of Rama
Deeply moved by their words, Rama gently lifted his hands in blessing. “You shall never again be forgotten. Wherever joyous new life is welcomed, your blessings will be equal to mine.” In that moment, he restored their dignity and conseed them a special place in the tapestry of human faith. From that day forward, it became a revered tradition for transgenders to bestow blessings upon newborns, weddings, and other milestones—symbols of divine favor that no household dared to decline.

Symbolism and Meaning

• Inclusivity of the Divine: Rama’s apology and promise underscore that the divine transcends binary notions of gender. In Hindu belief, God’s compassion encompasses all souls, reminding us that every life has sacred worth.
• Cycle of Renewal: Transgenders, representing liminality and transition, become living metaphors for transformation. Their presence at births and marriages echoes the passage from one state to another—darkness to light, solitude to community, innocence to maturity.
• Power of Voice and Song: The traditional blessings often take the form of unique songs and dances. These melodies carry ancient verses that are believed to ward off evil and invite prosperity, connecting each household to centuries of spiritual heritage.

Cultural and Social Importance

• Affirmation of Identity: By honoring transgenders as bearers of divine blessings, communities acknowledge their integral role in social and spiritual life. This practice elevates their status in societies that historically marginalized them.
• Economic Support: The blessings receive offerings—often sweets, money, or garments—that become a critical source of livelihood. Through ritual exchange, families provide tangible affirmation of respect and gratitude.
• Community Cohesion: Welcoming transgenders into life‑cycle ceremonies fosters bonds across social divides. It reminds well‑wishers that compassion and celebration are communal acts, not limited by caste, class, or gender.

Parallels in Other Traditions
While the Hindu tradition of transgender blessings is unique in its origin story, many cultures revere liminal figures:

• Two‑Spirit People among Native American Tribes: Honored as spiritual intermediaries, two‑spirit individuals performed healing rituals and blessings, their dual nature seen as a bridge between worlds.
• Kuan Yin’s androgynous depictions in East Asia: The bodhisattva of compassion is sometimes portrayed with traits that blur strict gender lines, suggesting mercy beyond worldly distinctions.
• West African Griots: Though not gender‑variant, these storytellers occupy a liminal space between history and present, blessing ceremonies with songs that carry ancestral wisdom.

Modern Context and Acceptance
In contemporary India, legislation and social attitudes have begun to shift. The 2014 Supreme Court ruling recognized the third gender, granting legal recognition to transgenders. Yet stigma endures. Ritual invitations offer a bridge: as families seek blessings for new beginnings, they also affirm the humanity and dignity of transgender individuals. NGOs and LGBTQ advocates work alongside traditional communities to ensure that these blessings are not reduced to tokenism but remain sincere acts of inclusion.

At baby showers, naming ceremonies, and house‑warmings, the arrival of transgenders is met with anticipation. Their intricate embroidered saris or kurtas, jangling jewelry, and spontaneous ululations signal that the household stands under a halo of ancient grace. The elderly often remark that the sweetest moments are when an infant gazes in wonder, as if glimpsing the divine through those melodic chants.

Final Thoughts
The tradition of transgender blessings in Hindu belief is more than a quaint ritual; it is a living lesson in compassion, inclusion, and the transcendent nature of the divine. Born from a single apology on the banks of the Sarayu, it has endured for millennia, weaving society’s margins into its very heart. When a newborn is blessed by a transgender elder, every member of that family is reminded: no soul is forgotten, no voice is too strange to sing of joy. In that melody lies the true promise of Rama’s faith—that all beings share equally in life’s sacred dawn.

And of course because these trannies are men and men as a sex tend to be more violent and entitled, there are lots of stories of these “blessings” being actually extortions.

Hyderabad: In a growing trend that has alarmed residents of Hyderabad, groups ofHijras (transgenders) are indulging in extorting significant sums of money from people during family gatherings, especially weddings and housewarming ceremonies. These incidents are not isolated, with multiple reports surfacing on social media platforms like Reddit and ‘X’ (formerly Twitter), where users have detailed their harrowing experiences.

In a recent incident posted on Reddit, a resident hosting a housewarming ceremony in a gated community was visited by a group of Hijras early in the morning. The uninvited guests demanded a large sum of money, threatening to strip and cause a scene if their demands were not met. Despite the resident’s attempts to seek help from the police, the situation escalated, forcing the family to negotiate and eventually pay Rs 40,000 to avoid embarrassment in front of their guests.

ALSO READ​

• Telangana Independent Hijra Association seeks action against cross-dressers

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Similar incidents have been reported across the city. One resident from Kondapur shared an account of how a group of 20-30 Hijras arrived at his home at midnight, demanding money. Fearing a public spectacle, he complied with their demands, paying Rs 30,000. Other residents have reported being harassed and even physically assaulted by these groups, particularly in areas near the Outer Ring Road.

These extortion attempts are reportedly well-organized, with allegations that local auto drivers and tent house owners tip off Hijra groups about upcoming events. As a result, many families have been forced to pay exorbitant amounts to avoid public embarrassment and disruption during their special occasions.

Also from the text above, I didn’t quote it because the proposed remedy is insane enough I didn’t want it to get lost in the truncated quote above;

The increasing frequency of these incidents has led to growing concerns among Hyderabadresidents, who are calling for stronger police intervention and regular counseling sessions for Hijras to curb such activities.

Counseling. These men know exactly what they are doing and this behavior is exactly what they intend. No amount of counseling will stop them.

 

[Veggie-Chan]

Rate me late if this has been posted. I haven't been closely following or browsing the Epstein files myself, just whatever I see in my usual browsing for funny shit. Apparently a new tranny cope is "um actually, bigot, you were fooled into thinking trans people are gross and weird by pedophile elites and so any denigration of them is actually you playing into the hands of pedophile billionaires. Mmmm sounds like you're also a pedophile, chud."

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Note how this one is only concerned about troons and not pooners. Once again FtM are despised by trannies.

The only trans stuff I've heard so far from posts in this forum is that he was involved with Jazz getting neutered and those surrounding him maybe saw them as a kink of sorts? I don't see how that leads into "they made hating trannies a thing with propaganda."

 

[Lentil Soup]

Good news, Lithaborn has had his first mammogram and it reportedly couldn't have been better.

Refresher, Lithaborn is a 50 something British MTF who can't do hrt or srs due to poorly controlled diabetes.

He does not have breasts.

He is on disability as he apparently can't work due to his diabetes and when he isn't getting unnecessary medical procedures done at the NHS he can be found at bdsm clubs living his AGP fantasies.

Surprisingly, other users on the subreddit question Lithaborn on getting the mammogram done, as they are famously unpleasant and completely unnecessary for a male who is not using artificial female hormones.


Brits, don't you just love to see your tax dollars at work?


I posted his nipple piercing story previously, but for posterity:

Please use your own advice for your AGP

 

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Good news, Lithaborn has had his first mammogram and it reportedly couldn't have been better.
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Refresher, Lithaborn is a 50 something British MTF who can't do hrt or srs due to poorly controlled diabetes.

He does not have breasts.

He is on disability as he apparently can't work due to his diabetes and when he isn't getting unnecessary medical procedures done at the NHS he can be found at bdsm clubs living his AGP fantasies.
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Surprisingly, other users on the subreddit question Lithaborn on getting the mammogram done, as they are famously unpleasant and completely unnecessary for a male who is not using artificial female hormones.
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I posted his nipple piercing story previously, but for posterity:
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Sigh. Here I go again.

As a True and Honest female who just had a mammogram I feel the need to clarify a “few” inaccuracies in these troons’ knowledge base.

First off: dense breast tissue is a classification of normal breast tissue. It’s a variation, and it doesn’t have anything to with how large or firm your breasts are.

According to the American Cancer Society:

Breast density is a measure of how much fibrous and glandular tissue (also known as fibroglandular tissue) there is in your breast, as compared to fat tissue. It isn’t related to breast size or firmness.

It also does not make mammograms easier or more effective. In fact, it’s the exact opposite. If you are considered to have dense breast tissue you are recommended to undergo further exams in addition to a mammogram. That dense tissue makes it harder for the x-rays to penetrate and can obscure lumps that may be present. You will be notified by your imaging center or your doctor if that’s the case.

Males can and do get breast cancer, even if they aren’t on estrogen. I lost a good friend from another forum a decade ago to male breast cancer. It’s very rare, but definitely does happen. But simply “changing your gender marker” doesn’t raise your risk ffs. He implies he’s on a very low dose of estrogen, but even if he’s not lying a small dose wouldn’t raise his risk much, if at all. In fact, the FDA here in the states just removed the black box warning on estrogen because they realized the evidence doesn’t actually support a much greater risk for blood clots and cancer. In women.

I suspect his claims of it “not being a man with too much fat on his chest” is a lie, if he’s really an uncontrolled diabetic. Unless he has brittle type 1, he’s probably FAT. I also don’t believe he had one just randomly grow after a piercing without anything being wrong with it. I suspect FAT. OR he never got it looked at, because if he doesn’t bother to control his diabetes in a country where you don’t have to mortgage you entire house and your children’s houses to afford insulin, he’s probably not going to the doctor much.

And lastly, of course the tech didn’t say anything about uneven boobs. She isn’t allowed to because she’s “just” a tech and not a doctor or nurse practitioner. Of course they treated you professionally, that’s their job. They want to keep working more than telling you what they think of a man in the xray room!

Ugh. Those poor women who have to deal with this.

 

[Lentil Soup]

I suspect his claims of it “not being a man with too much fat on his chest” is a lie, if he’s really an uncontrolled diabetic. Unless he has brittle type 1, he’s probably FAT. I also don’t believe he had one just randomly grow after a piercing without anything being wrong with it. I suspect FAT.

Will this image address your concerns? Please note, he wears a silicon skin suit for the breasts.

It doesn't explain why he skinwalks a teenager from 2003 but c'est la vie.

He implies he’s on a very low dose of estrogen, but even if he’s not lying a small dose wouldn’t raise his risk much, if at all

He's insinuating to the point of lying. He came out three years ago and ever since his transition status is "in a year when I get my conditions under control I will begin the hrt."

Like health is complicated and this should very much be appreciated, but he literally doesn't work and can't figure out how to walk and steam vegatables. He does, however, have time to troon out his child.

 

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Well, he’s not as fat as I expected him to be. For everything else, still gross. His poor kid too.

 

[Potato Burrito]

Will this image address your concerns? Please note, he wears a silicon skin suit for the breasts.
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It doesn't explain why he skinwalks a teenager from 2003 but c'est la vie.


He's insinuating to the point of lying. He came out three years ago and ever since his transition status is "in a year when I get my conditions under control I will begin the hrt."

Like health is complicated and this should very much be appreciated, but he literally doesn't work and can't figure out how to walk and steam vegatables. He does, however, have time to troon out his child.
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You need the title caption to his pic, which is the best part! We were ripping on this guy in the Ls thread a while back.



Why are people playing along with my delusions?

I was under the impression that Brits are good at detecting obvious piss taking but I guess not the troon ones.

 

[Magic Pickle]

A TiF finds it validating when an insane stranger lashes out at her for her terrible driving skills, claiming that it gave her "asshole vibe euphoria." The things that genderbread people find dysphoric and euphoric always baffle me - I can't imagine seeing someone yell at me out of nowhere to be anything but an invitation for bear mace makeover.
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Road Rage Euphoria​

Yup, I had a guy loose his shit on the road at me… He just kept screaming male profanities at me. I was like ahhh to be gendered correctly when being screamed at is phenomenal. Feeling that asshole vibe euphoria. Fuck Yeah! Gender is a fucked thing, but being visible and seen for who you are is great.

O Brother, where art thou?: from the depths of his closet, a tranny writes an open letter to his tranny brother explaining that he cannot follow him down the pervert path out of fear of losing all that he holds dear. On the one hand I think OP should stop being a wuss and follow his girly bimbo dreams of skirtgospinny, but on the other hand it would likely salvage his family's reputation if he kept his troonacy to himself; after all, the only thing more embarrassing than a tranny kid is having multiple tranny kids.
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Hello Sister​

As the title suggests this message is posted for my sister who I know for a fact is on this subreddit. I won’t give out too many details but if you can figure this out I’ll give you credit. Unfortunately even though you’re openly out to our family and from my estimation of the timeline I’ve known I’m trans for longer than you I am not yet out. To you or any of the rest of the family. Unfortunately given my ego and reputation i fear too much to come out to you or the rest of the family.
For those of you that are not my sister reading this I’m in my early 20s and have known I’m trans since I was 14. I was even on estrogen for a time before my sister came out but that’s gone by the way side recently. I feel I’ve got a unique stance as I don’t experience much gender dysphoria in the typical sense. I’ve got no issue being a man. I’m reasonably attractive and highly successful in my particular field which takes up most of my mental aptitude. But I frankly just believe being female to be superior to being male. I would rather a female form and when I was on estradiol I was more at peace with myself than I otherwise find.
Now back to the point at hand. Sister of mine. You are absolutely brilliant. And while I know you would be supportive I don’t feel as though the necessity of transitioning at this point in time would be beneficial to the overall productivity of the family. If you wish to have this conversation at some point in person I’m sure you’ll gather from the vernacular and phrasing who I am. With thanks. Your sister who will likely never transition.

A man on the verge of trooning out wants some advice on how to feel like a precious little princess, which is often a challenge for him because he clocks in at a whopping seven feet tall. Jesus, could you imagine seeing this guy in real life? I would elbow the shit out of every single person in my immediate proximity to the point of leaving contusions.
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How to feel small and dainty or cute when being very tall.​

I did already post a little about this already but I want to get help with some more ideas into how to feel this way. I had already posted but I didn’t really say a lot in the post as I’m still quite embarrassed slightly about wanting to try these sorts of things. So here goes another attempt being more transparent.
I am around 2 meters tall or 7 foot. Experiencing a more feminine outfit or wearing feminine clothing has been something I wanted to experience for a very long time but never had the confidence to try. But after talking to my girlfriend and getting her support I finally had the confidence to get a small outfit of more feminine clothes, from underwear to a skirt to socks and hand things. I still regret not buying a chocker . Everything in pink because I truly want to feel cute as I can be in everything.
We have planned to do a whole evening together where we do girly things like my makeup, nails, hair and she’s been super supportive but I honestly want to try and be more cutesy and dainty and I don’t know if anyone has advice or ideas on how to feel that way when your so tall. It doesn’t help she’s a lot smaller than me as well which really make the height feel even more
Overall I don’t know if this makes me trans, or gender fluid or a femboy. I mean I personally still feel like a man majority of the time but I do know I’ve woken up on days or experienced times where I felt more feminine or wanting to be smaller. Any advice would be helpful.
Sorry to the mods if this post is too similar to the other and feel free to remove. Okie bye :3

Inspired by over-hyped Canadian cockslop Heated Rivalry, a li'l dood dreams of days filled with dick appointments, though there's a bit of a catch: she's balding, batshit crazy and still wears a mask 6 years after COVID took the world by storm. Given how promiscuous gay men are thrilled to spit in each other's mouths before even being on a first-name basis, I'm not sure you'll find your post-pandemic prince among the same caste of homosexuals eager to have anonymous sex, OP.
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Dating advice/seeking reassurance​

Been watching Heated Rivalry lately and it is great fun, but it makes me realize that I have a need I’m not meeting. It’s been so long since I’ve sought out any romantic or sexual connection. But I feel sad because I’ll never have the experience they have on the show. I keep thinking things like “I’ll never be a real gay man.” I feel like I’m not a real gay man because I’m trans, and I’ll always be an afterthought or an exotic pick. Is it even worth it to try? Are there any good men out there? I already have other problems counting against me (mental illness, and I still mask so I’m Covid conscious and don’t go out to bars and only eat outside) along with being trans. Plus there’s my receding hairline…
I don’t know, is anyone else feeling similarly? Does anyone have advice on how to find someone?

A pervert celebrates ejaculating, which for some reason he interprets as proof that he's a woman despite women not producing semen. After reading this post, I have only this to say: if there are any neighboring aliens who would like to liberate us of some of our kind, I'm shoving OP on the first spacecraft that lands.
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So Affirming​

I, for the very first time, have achieved, multiple orgasms (solo). I came four times. And you know what? The last two times, I fucking SQUIRTED. It felt so good omg, you girls really weren’t kidding. One small step for queer, one giant leap for queer kind I suppose! I think I just became a real woman. Absolutely no PNC either, for really the first time! Literally the most affirming moment in my life, it’s been limited to just a fantasy of mine for years.
I guess the moral of the story is trans women=real woman (obv), and do yourself a favor and get a wand and an hour or so to yourself, you will not regret it

A middle-aged British wife and mother is suffering from a late-onset of poonacy, which definitely isn't a sign of a midlife crisis or a thinly-veiled attempt to break free of her role as a wife and mother to gain a semblance of individuality back - even though she makes it very, very clear that she's pursuing this nonsense to shake herself free of lifelong depression. Pour one out for Mr. OP, Kiwis; it's hard enough to have an autistic child, but imagine losing the woman you married to utter retardation on top of that. Some guys have the shittiest luck!
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Nearly 40 and questioning​

TL;DR: Nearly 40, married with a child, and unexpectedly questioning my gender. Feeling both more alive and deeply unsure. Looking to hear from others who came to this late, especially those with partners and kids.
ETA: thanks for the replies so far, deeply appreciative. I am working my way through responding but can be slow going because, you know, life!
Hi everyone,
So I think the terminology to use is "my egg is (possibly) cracking"?
Cue much freaking out, excitement, a ton of research, massive doubts, re-evaluating my entire life's narrative, and lots of fumbling "I don't know what the hell I'm doing" experimentation over the past month.
... Guys, I really don't know what the hell I'm doing. I'll be 40 this year, I'm married to a wonderful man, we have a 10yo kid (who is autistic with high needs) and questioning my gender identity was not on my bingo card for 2026 or, indeed, ever.
I understand it's pretty common to have "this is just a phase, right?" doubts - especially if you've never really had any strong gender dysphoria growing up - and, honestly, I don't know whether I'm more afraid of it *not* just being a phase (and the huge upheaval that would entail) or that I'll wake up one day and realise it *was* just a phase, that all the happy feelings (euphoria?) I'm having while in "boy-mode" was just my brain going "ooh! new shiny thing!" and it'll all fade once the novelty wears off and I'll slip back into the depression that has been the baseline for much of my life.
Am also aware that I could be trans and still have depression, once the dust has settled - discovering the one doesn't necessarily cancel out the latter - but it's not an exaggeration to say that since I started to explore all this, it's like I've been waking back up into my life again, instead of merely surviving it. In the past, I have gone through phases of dopamine-fueled hyperfixations that gave me an escape from my daily life, and this all feels very similar, apart from I now find myself more able to engage with ... just living with slightly less friction and emptiness.
I'm in therapy (for the depression) but only started with a new therapist after my previous one retired. I really like her and I have *just* tentatively raised some of this with her, but I don't yet know how much experience/training she has in supporting someone navigating gender identity and, as I'm paying out of my own pocket for therapy, my sessions are fewer and further between than I would ideally like.
So I guess I'm just reaching out to ask ... ??? I don't know what? In an ideal world, you'd all be able to tell me if I'm "really trans", but I know it doesn't work like that.
I would really like to not feel so alone in all this though.
Hoping there might be someone out there who relates to the "late to the party" feeling - especially anyone who has navigated coming out to a life-partner and/or has kids - who might be willing to share their experiences and chat? What did the early questioning stage look/feel like for you? Do you have any helpful advice you were given or wish you'd been given? What helped orientate you in the early days? (Am UK based if that is helpful to know)
That said, I’m grateful for perspectives from anyone who’s been through this in any form at any stage in their life. I realise I haven't actually given that much info on my actual experiences / the moments throughout my life that I'm now re-evaluating as possible signals of not being cis etc. I'm happy to share but ... I honestly don't know where to start without giving my whole life story, which is probably too long for one Reddit post!

Pied piper: a TiF is hard at work luring her young niece down the pooner path and seeks advice on how to further groom the girl without running the risk of her brother learning of her machinations, as the child is "not out" to her father - even though OP has already bought her a fucking binder for Christmas. Naturally, because TiFs have wicked inclinations, they actually admonish OP for being cautious around HRT and suggest that she should raise the question of puberty blockers to her brother so that the kid doesn't feminize further. You do not hate these people enough!
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my brother's kid (12) has been exploring their gender identity for the last ~2 years, and recently asked me about T. what are some ways I can help them "test the waters" without hormones or outing them? [very long ramble, skip to last paragraph for tldr]​

context: I am a 21y trans man, started T just before I turned 17, so almost 5 years now. at that time, my brother's kid- who from here on i will call my niece/nephew interchangeably, as they use all pronouns/gendered terms, but it is the same person- was about 8 at the time. naturally, they were the most accepting person in my family, the fastest to use my new name and pronouns, even when I didn't pass at all.
a few years later, when he was 10, he told me he was asexual, panromantic, and a demigirl. I did not teach him any of these terms- he found them online on his own, and concluded those terms fit him.
now, she is 12. the ace and pan identities have stayed consistent. but she has switched gender identities and pronouns a lot. she/they, they/them, she/they/he, to finally the current he/they/she. I am not complaining about any of this- she is in middle school, in puberty age. the whole point is to try new things, explore new ways of being and decide what you really want through trial and error. I love that they are not only trying on new pronouns to see what works, but also feel safe enough with me to tell me and give updates when their feelings change.
you could probably infer from the way I have spoken so far, they are not out to the rest of our family yet. they have spent the last 2+ years closeted as pan and experimenting with gender. well, I do think they have hinted to my brother about liking girls enough that he has caught on, but he thinks it is a phase. but nonetheless, no hints have been given from them or me about the gender stuff.
a few months ago, he asked me to buy a binder for him in secret. it took a while, but I finally got it for him around Christmas. turns out to be too small to wear for more than like an hour. I say, ok, I will buy a size up, no problem. however, now that he got a taste of the binder, even if it was too tight, he said he came to a realization.
they said they want to have a flat chest, so new binder- and present feminine through fashion attributes, such as clothes, jewelry, haircut, etc. but wants a masculine physical body. Basically they want to flat chest, androgynous or masc leaning body, while accessorizing as fem.
I told her I would buy a new binder as soon as possible, and use he/they/she pronouns as evenly as i could in private. she even suggested a new name she would like to be called, which i will also try to implement when it's just us.
but now finally, addressing the title, if anyone is still reading: they asked me about how to start T.
immediately, I told her that she needs to be at least 16 minimum to start hrt WITH parental permission. but we both know that my brother will never let her start hrt. once she is 18, she can do what she wants.
I also made sure to stress, that i fully agree that a 12 year old should not be allowed to start hrt. the 16yr minimum is absolutely justified and for the best. I said more than once, you are old enough to have these thoughts and wants for your body, but not old enough to alter yourself forever. your feelings are valid, and I will support you no matter what, but once you start T, there is no going back- and it is for the best that you cannot start it when you are still too young to have a driver's license.
they reluctantly agreed. it seemed like they didn't like what I said (which i understand), but saw where I was coming from- especially since their pronouns/gendered identity has been so sporadic for the last 2 years. still, they were disappointed to learn it would be at least 4 years to start hrt IF they somehow convinced my brother to sign the papers for it, but more likely, 6 years for when they turn 18. and I understand that reaction, I really do, despite firmly believely the age limit for hrt is very warranted.
TLDR:
my niece then asked me if there are other ways he can change his physical body to be more androgynous or masc while still dressing fem, other than the binder. I suggested a shorter haircut, but he adamantly wants long, fem hair. I will buy them a better sized binder, and hormones aren't and shouldn't be an option, but their physical body still makes them very dysphoric. are there any ways they can make their body look more androgynous or masc without compromising feminine fashion/presentation?

Lastly, a closeted cock in a frock wants to hear from other men about all of the effeminate mannerisms they do in their bid to impersonate women. Posts like this always have a way of exposing the absolutely terminal sexism that your average troon or poon is afflicted with, so let's see what the boys of r/MTF consider to be "girly."
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What "girly" mannerisms did you not know you were doing?​

My partner and I were dining out last night, the restaurant was cold and so were my hands, and it reminded me of an incident when I was a teen where my stepdad asked me, "why are you sitting like a girl" because I had my hand between my knees to keep it warm while I was eating breakfast. I'm not out to her (yet—I keep trying to work up the courage), but I went ahead and told her the story, all "lol what is up with that, how does one 'sit like a girl' anyway?"
She kinda hesitated for a second, then hits me with, "you do a lot of things like a girl."
Apparently, I do a lot of mirroring, which made her think I might be a playboy when we were first dating. I also rest my face on my hands when listening to people, which, when she imitated it, looks pretty girly. Evidently my posture is very different when taking to men from how it is with women. She couldn't think of other specific examples, but she confessed that after she was sure I'm not a playboy, she wondered if maybe I'm actually gay.
Like, damn, wth am I doing? She's not even the first person to think I'm gay.
I gotta figure this out. She promised to point it out next time I do something, but I also want to hear from others: have you been called out like this? Or realized at some point? What were you doing? Or maybe catch others doing?

Spoiler: I discovered women are called 'faggot' a lot.

[–]Savings-Weight5774
Everything.
Hands, face rest, sitting, crossing legs, head tilts.
When my egg first started cracking, I went to the local LGBTQIA+ support centre to get counseling as I surely couldn't be anything but a boy. I'm near 2 meters tall, hairy, can grow a full beard in a week - I can't be a "not boy!"
Sat and talked to the counselor for almost the full hour. At the end, they said that my gender was up to me, and there's many pathways and many options available. I asked "but honestly do I give any sign that maybe this is the real me?" (Thinking half "please say yes", half "what do I need to hide to continue living life safely"). They responded with "I'm trained to look past physical appearance to try and see who you are underneath, and the entire time every single one of your mannerisms is femme coded.""Oh... Like, which ones?""I wasn't exaggerating when I said all."

[–]Putrid_Valuable_4114
My entire life...
"You know who else perks their butt up while lying on the floor playing games... girls"
"You know you walk like a girl, right?" ME: One foot in front of the other? "No, you sway you body, and your butt shakes when you are excited."
"How can you cross your legs like that? Only girls can sit like that."
"You talk with your hands, just like a girl."
"You are as emotional as most girls I know."
"Get your hair out of your mouth!" / "Stop playing with your hair"
"Why do you always have your sleeves covering your hands?"
"Why do you always get all giddy about cute stuff?"
"Why are the animes you keep suggesting chick stuff?"
Should I go on?

[–]ato-de-suteru​

By all means!​

The leg-crossing thing gets me, though. People seriously think that having testicles makes it physiologically impossible to cross one's legs??​

... but now that I think about it, I did learn that posture from my mother, so at the very least I should have realized that one.​

And talking with hands: doesn't everyone? At what point does that become fem-coded?​

[–]MadamMelody21
Im not sure what classifies as a girly mannerism. But i was bullied alot for how i acted people called me gay, a person in band thought i was wearing lipstick(which i didn’t even experiment with until my egg cracked). I have also always been seen as weak and sensitive because i cried when experiencing extreme sadness in the past. I have always been a pretty sensitive person

[–]AllieJIsHere
People thought I was gay my whole life (I am, just the opposite way they thought). Since I was a kid I would walk on my tip toes, stand with my hip popped out, cross my legs the "girly" way, and stand with my legs crossed.

[–]MeatAndBourbon
I dunno, but when I came out everyone was like, "we just thought you were gay!", despite me only ever being with girls. (Though I was single for a long time and apparently they all just head-cannoned me getting banged by my cis male best friend)
In elementary school I got called gay or a girl all the time. I never could figure out why.

[–]Useful-Adeptness-206
i'd say i had a more non-gendered mannerisms than anything. i'd be told i'm not acting like a man, but i was (usually) not called girly. i liked the concept of having traits of "both genders" even if i never put words to the idea. it turns out, i spent so much time disliking "guy" traits that i never considered that i might like "girl" traits... a LOT more...
i'm kinda short (for men) and have always had a pretty small frame, which never bothered me at all- in fact i liked it, despite the constant pressure for men to "be tall". i wonder why lol

[–]awkwardfloralpattern
I was tucking my non-existent hair behind my ears. It was non-existent because I often had my hair buzzed growing up

[–]Ordinary_Anteater673​

I've shaved my head a lot, also have had long hair often​

Regardless, I play with my hair above my ears. I realized recently that it's a neurodivergent stim type behavior.​

When it's longer I have a very specific sequence of knots that I can tie & untie one- handed in my hair​

It was really my only odd non-masc behavior. I'd find very masculine male role models, mentors, teachers, and I'd studiously imitate their manners of gesturing and talking. Did that for decades​

[–]EhhJR
I love sitting criss cross and folding both legs and tucking them under me when I sit on a couch.
Got crap from some GFs for sitting like a girl >.> My spouse now never even noticed lol part of why she's awesome.

[–]Flashy_Emu_996
I once had a coworker tell me I would’ve been better at being a girl than a boy. It wasn’t meant as an insult cuz we were friends and I was an “effeminate man” in my past life. Well, Shelly, if you could only see me know.
I used to shave my legs in high school too and got picked on in the locker room all the time, they used to call me “vagina boy” I couldn’t even speak up for myself cuz then I’d get made fun of for my “gay voice”
My now spouse, on our first date was so scared I was gay that she had a friend come about halfway thru the date to “see what she thought”
Leg spreading, leg crossing, long hair, wearing women’s tank tops and socks and stuff, the pink phone, having mostly girls as friends, I mean I used to get shit cuz I liked salads more than burgers type shit.
Then everyone said there were never any signs.

[–]Ok-Ad-2050
I had moments where someone in gym class would call attention to my hands being upside down on my waist when out of breath. Also sometimes got looks for having a raised pinky when drinking, XD

[–]Leather-Sky8583
Years before I first came out to my wife we were home watching tv and I placed a stray hair behind my ear. I realized she was staring at me and I asked what she was looking at me for.
She told me the way I placed my hair behind my ear was the most feminine and delicate gesture she had ever seen lol. I had no idea that I had done anything unusual and certainly had not been trying to make a feminine impression with it.

[–]TheVelcroStrap
I have been told I sound like a woman on the phone and should start an adult line, this before I began transitioning. Some people have said I moved my arms like a girl growing up. I did the hand thing too. I like to slip my hands into my sleeves, this is apparently something women do. Someone once made an issue when I crossed my legs. I try to take up less space and say I am sorry so much. I need to stop that.

[–]IamRachelAspen
How I walked and used my hands a lot when talking, my way of talking, Also how I’d occasionally play with my hair when bored.
Apparently to some of my cis women friends that’s what gave it away to the ones that stayed friends with me when I came out to them.

[–]Girlyse
I've always done the feminine limp wrist, I thought I was just weird lol

[–]bald_and_nerdy
When I get surprised, a cute squeak is what comes out of me. I didn’t realize I was doing it for a while. So affirmative.

[–]Every2weeks
I’ve had people tell me the way I yawn was girly on multiple occasions. I always cover my mouth while I yawn and make a thin exhale sound. Also the way I sneeze has gotten comments before. Kind of hard to describe but I do a high pitched sound and the sneeze mostly comes out from my nose.

[–]noopy2012
Reading all of these comments is making me think “damn… i am such a girl.”

[–]Taellosse
I have very few unconscious mannerisms anymore. I policed my own behavior starting in early adolescence pretty stringently, and weeded out anything I felt to be too feminine. I did not know I was trying to bolster my gender repression at the time, but that's absolutely what I was doing. I've been unshackling myself from those strictures for the past year and a half, since hatching, with equal deliberation.
I like to stand with my weight on one leg, opposite hip cocked up, resting a hand on the canted hip or at my waist just above it.
I'm the sort that gestures a lot.wirh my hands when I talk. In itself not effeminate, but many of the gestures I naturally default to involve my arm being folded at the elbow and my wrist held somewhat limply.
When sitting at a desk or table and listening to someone else, I often read my chin in my hand with the fingers curling up over my cheek, just the tips touching my cheekbone.
I used to enjoy sitting with my legs crossed - adolescence made this physically uncomfortable thanks to descending testicles. HRT has shrunk them enough now, though, that I can start doing it again.
I sometimes wrinkle my nose and stick the tip of my tongue out to touch the fronts of my top teeth when I'm being snarky or pull off a friendly little prank on someone.
When I have long hair, I often play with a lock of it, twining it around a finger, or even, when it's long enough, platting it into little braids.
Here's a big one: I giggle when something funny surprises me. I clamped down hard on that one in my youth, and it's been surprisingly liberating to let it out again.

[–]CrystalWitchJemme
Let's see........ive gotta dig through a lot of cloudy memories but there's been a few from the before times that stand out.
Some of these were someone appreciating that I was like this but most were being judged for being feminine.
My grandma always complained about the way that I argued and disagreed growing up. Not because I was arguing, but something about my voice, hand movements, stuff I said, everything was "too much like a girl" and it really got on her nerves.
The way I would sit in class, starting in 5th grade was what I later realized how women usually sit. It just felt comfortable but one day in class my bully punched me in the shoulder for it in the middle of a reading period.
The way I danced at raves had my friends asking me if I was gay because "you dance like a hot chick". This was when I was 17 and we were at an anime convention which held a rave.
I was constantly told I needed short hair when I was a kid, and when I pointed out friends with long hair I was always met with "yes, but they still look like boys. I dont like it when people think youre my daughter".
Another time I was with friends at a cafe. We had plans to chat while reading whatever manga we had picked up. I got comfy on the sofa next to my bf at the time (I came out as bi as a teenager/young adult and after transitioning i just shifted more to being purely sapphic) who was a bit of a goth femboy. Apparently the way I was cuddled on him showed everyone "who's actually the girl in the relationship". I had my shoes off with my feet tucked close to me and my thighs across his lap while I tucked my head on his shoulder reading my comic. He was sitting in a more loungy "dude" pose and even joked about me being his girlfriend. I actually still miss him and wonder what it would have been like if we still had been dating when I transitioned.
Loads of other things. The way I held cigarettes. The drinks I ordered. The games I played. My artwork. My stage presence when I played guitar in a horrorpunk band.

 

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The last two gave me feels. That poor teenager. Feeling awkward about having breasts at that age is so, so common. Especially if you start developing them earlier than the other girls, or they grow faster and are larger than everyone else’s. Boys at that age are little shitheads, and love to pop bra straps, or make comments. I’ll be charitable and assume it’s because they’re also feeling awkward about aging, puberty is rough on everyone. It’s just a difficult time, but binders are such a terrible thing at any age, but especially when still growing. She will probably eventually grow out the self-conscious stage, almost every girl does.

I also feel bad for those guys, a lot of them have the same theme: everyone thought I was gay. The pressure society puts on both sexes to conform to strict rules is both retarded and physically painful in some cases (such as high heels for women, terrible for the foot). There’s nothing wrong with being a “masculine” woman or a “feminine” male, as an old school feminist it makes me sad to see how regressive we’ve become.

Feels bad, man.

 

[Dante Alighieri]

There’s nothing wrong with being a “masculine” woman or a “feminine” male

For a while things were going this way, then BAM trannies and now these evil fucks take it as a sign to try and troon children out.

 

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