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Raistlin Majere said:
I've only gotten more unstable as I age, my specific dysfunctions can't really be helped much by meds and therapy, and haven't been able to keep any one job for any length of time, now I'm practically unhirable
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You should really focus on finding a steady occupation and mental health treatment that works for you. If you're unable to stay employed, then you probably won't be able to maintain a relationship either.
 
Raistlin Majere said:
I've only gotten more unstable as I age, my specific dysfunctions can't really be helped much by meds and therapy, and haven't been able to keep any one job for any length of time, now I'm practically unhirable and looking at going on disability.
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Someone already mentioned it's not the greatest idea to look for a gf whilst unemployed, but I'd add if you're not in your best mental state it also might not be a good idea to go looking for love. A relationship has all the fun stuff like love and affection but it also comes with a lot of responsibilities, you essentially have another person to check in and care for. As a litmus test: do you have any close friends? Can you be vulnerable with them and hear their feelings without feeling overwhelmed and vice versa? Are you good at having conversations that include the other person or aren't overly reliant on them to continue? If no...work on that first. Not only that but you are very, very likely to get burned at least once or twice and if you're not in the right state to handle that it's not worth it. Regardless I agree with you that you aren't hopeless and I wish you luck!
 
suspended animation said:
You should really focus on finding a steady occupation and mental health treatment that works for you. If you're unable to stay employed, then you probably won't be able to maintain a relationship either.
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Let's assume that I get on disability soon, ideally the partial type where I can work a part-time job and so can keep my car and guitars in running order. Then what? Most modern humans are a total fucking mystery to me, with very few exceptions, and I don't even know where I'd start. I sometimes see dudes try to chat up cashiers or bank tellers out of the blue and I would rather shoot myself then pull a stunt like that, and if I was her I would like to shoot them.

Gaddafi said:
As a litmus test: do you have any close friends? Can you be vulnerable with them and hear their feelings without feeling overwhelmed and vice versa? Are you good at having conversations that include the other person or aren't overly reliant on them to continue?
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I have a very fucking small circle but I do have a few close friends. I am a good conversationalist. In fact, the most success I've had at work was as a tech/customer support rep. I was almost always in competition for best agent in the call center, right up until I started having panic attacks every shift. I'm crazy, but not autistic or retarded.
 
Ruined by the Rain said:
I'm schizophrenic and while I take my meds it doesn't cure my personality and strange beliefs
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You post a lot of TMI and really strange stuff I'd never admit if I were to do them.
But I always get a chuckle out of your posts because you seem at least mostly self aware of how different you are.
I really fo hope you can wrestle your demons someday.
 
How is it hard to get a boyfriend? Men are like puppies behind the glass at a pet store you can just walk right in and pick one.

The trick is to go up to any man, grab his hand, look up into his eyes while batting your eyelashes and suck on his fingers
 
Raistlin Majere said:
started having panic attacks every shift
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If it's panic disorder that's affecting your job and social life, then you really should seek out some kind of behavioral therapy. Trust me- it can help if you work at it. Don't give up. And meds can definitely help manage panic attacks.

Raistlin Majere said:
Most modern humans are a total fucking mystery to me, with very few exceptions, and I don't even know where I'd start.
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Look in your local area for social events and join as many as you can. Keeping your mind busy with new hobbies and activities can also help mitigate panic.
 
A Cat in a Minefield said:
You post a lot of TMI and really strange stuff I'd never admit if I were to do them.
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If it helps, some of them are just shitposts. Almost all my QnA posts/response are.
The Stranger said:
>completely ignoring the fact you're incapable of feeling love and only see a bf as a personal living sex doll
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Sometimes I think Jeffrey Dahmer has the right idea. All I need is a warm, good looking male in my bed that I can curl up against and have sex with.
Dagoth AMOGUS said:
How is it hard to get a boyfriend? Men are like puppies behind the glass at a pet store you can just walk right in and pick one.

The trick is to go up to any man, grab his hand, look up into his eyes while batting your eyelashes and suck on his fingers
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It's not hard to get one. It is hard to keep one.
 
Ruined by the Rain said:
I already asked this before but I'll ask again. How do I get a boyfriend and keep one? Since I become a raging psycho I failed in keeping a living breathing bf around
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Let's start at the root of the matter: why do you want a boyfriend? From there, I might be able to give some advice.

Dagoth AMOGUS said:
The trick is to go up to any man, grab his hand, look up into his eyes while batting your eyelashes and suck on his fingers
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A young, decently attractive, slim woman did this to me once, but I didn't become her boyfriend. Am I gay?
 
Mad_Dog said:
Let's start at the root of the matter: why do you want a boyfriend? From there, I might be able to give some advice.
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I want a companion I can also fuck. I get lonely sometimes.
The Stranger said:
@Ruined by the Rain By the way, how did you manage to change your username without the "Username changed" tag being on your profile?
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I don't know. I just press the button to change my username and put in my new username.
crazedaze said:
CBT can help personality and strange beliefs, you have to be willing to put in the work.
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My thoughts about women being incomplete males are pretty much because I'm schizophrenic, it receded when I'm medicated. But it doesn't go completely away and I'm completely convinced it is true even if intellectually I know it to be purely schizo.
Also it impacts my personality, I have the same issue with my own personality traits. It feel like I'm already correct.
 
suspended animation said:
If it's panic disorder that's affecting your job and social life, then you really should seek out some kind of behavioral therapy. Trust me- it can help if you work at it. Don't give up. And meds can definitely help manage panic attacks.


Look in your local area for social events and join as many as you can. Keeping your mind busy with new hobbies and activities can also help mitigate panic.
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It's bipolar, and instead of fun, happy, productive manic episodes, my mania manifests as either panic attacks or pure, frothing-at-the-mouth rage. I have a few other mental issues too, and the various drugs I have had to try in the past have made them worse and once drove me dangerously close to suicide. The cocktail I'm on now only keeps me functional-ish, but maybe I'll roll the dice soon and try getting on something with more juice. As for social events, I have tried open mic nights and tabletop RPGs with randos and both of those were wastes of time, I'd much rather prefer to stay at home and practice my gee-tar or read old school D&D lore by myself, thanks. Years ago I tried a book club but it was pozzed beyond redemption and I can't imagine the situation being any better in the current year. I'm considering buying a pistol and taking a CC course, am I going to meet anyone there that isn't a schizo prepper/militia type? (For context I live in a city of about 200k in a flyover American state)
 
Raistlin Majere said:
It's bipolar, and instead of fun, happy, productive manic episodes, my mania manifests as either panic attacks or pure, frothing-at-the-mouth rage.
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Raistlin Majere said:
I'm considering buying a pistol and taking a CC course
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You are the last person who should be carrying a firearm. You hopefully probably won't pass the background check.
 
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