For me, it's the opposite (or I didn't understand your post). It's the temper tantrums over not consooming that confuse, frustrate, and annoy.
Maybe it's rose tinted glasses, but the old console wars, as stupid as they were, were just arguments over who had the best games, or who had the best version of Street Fighter 2 or Mortal Kombat. Being blocked, threatened with bans, and losing friends over something as trivial as linking a video complaining that the Switch 2 has issues is wild to me. As is saying you must applaud shitty games to "own the chuds".