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- Feb 14, 2023
Two weeks ago we met the pooner NeteleJala who neurotically obsessed over what to call her husband now they’re gay. Life has gotten worse: her husband doesn’t accept he is gay, and that makes her worry that he doesn’t see her as a man.
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My husband and I are celebrating our 10 year anniversary this week. I'm 6 months into my transition (FTM). My husband has been very supportive of my transition in all but one way; he insists that he is straight. In the grand scheme it is a little thing, but it hurts. I feel like he doesn't see me as a man no matter how good he has been with my name and pronouns.
I know part of his hesitation to change labels is due to his extreme conservative, Catholic upbringing. He calls me his spouse, but has yet to call me his husband. He explains that he does not want to go into personal info with strangers or co-workers which makes sense, since he is a very private, security conscience person, but it still hurts. He also never had an issue referring to me as his wife.
This came up in couple's therapy today and he insisted that he wants to be with me and is still attracted to me. I'm still pre-surgery, but I pass pretty well. People who see us out with our kids who frequently (and loudly) call us both dad would easily assume we are a gay couple. He hasn't said this, but I think that bothers him. I know he is not interested in other men, but I've tried to talk to him about the pan or demi labels as an alternative to straight since he is mostly straight, but in a committed relationship with a man due to our history and personal connection.
Should I let this go? Or is this a sign of bigger issues? Any advice?
In her brain he’s attracted to her, and she’s a man, so of course he’s gay. Why won’t he accept it? Is it because he was raised Catholic? Is it because he is very private? Or is it because he knocked her up and thus has indisputable proof that she is not in fact a man?
According to her comments she is a high school teacher and is contemplating metoidioplasty. How long her husband will stay attracted to her when she has that is a tough question. The idea of her standing at a trough, hyena clit in hand, with her students is equally disturbing and amusing.
As ever, pouring one out for their eight year old daughter.
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Straight in a gay relationship
DiscussionMy husband and I are celebrating our 10 year anniversary this week. I'm 6 months into my transition (FTM). My husband has been very supportive of my transition in all but one way; he insists that he is straight. In the grand scheme it is a little thing, but it hurts. I feel like he doesn't see me as a man no matter how good he has been with my name and pronouns.
I know part of his hesitation to change labels is due to his extreme conservative, Catholic upbringing. He calls me his spouse, but has yet to call me his husband. He explains that he does not want to go into personal info with strangers or co-workers which makes sense, since he is a very private, security conscience person, but it still hurts. He also never had an issue referring to me as his wife.
This came up in couple's therapy today and he insisted that he wants to be with me and is still attracted to me. I'm still pre-surgery, but I pass pretty well. People who see us out with our kids who frequently (and loudly) call us both dad would easily assume we are a gay couple. He hasn't said this, but I think that bothers him. I know he is not interested in other men, but I've tried to talk to him about the pan or demi labels as an alternative to straight since he is mostly straight, but in a committed relationship with a man due to our history and personal connection.
Should I let this go? Or is this a sign of bigger issues? Any advice?
In her brain he’s attracted to her, and she’s a man, so of course he’s gay. Why won’t he accept it? Is it because he was raised Catholic? Is it because he is very private? Or is it because he knocked her up and thus has indisputable proof that she is not in fact a man?
According to her comments she is a high school teacher and is contemplating metoidioplasty. How long her husband will stay attracted to her when she has that is a tough question. The idea of her standing at a trough, hyena clit in hand, with her students is equally disturbing and amusing.
As ever, pouring one out for their eight year old daughter.
