I agree. I would advise for
@RedPiller that there should be some patience involved. We aren't alien to people choosing not to be anonymous, but I think this exact circumstance would be new for us, and I think people didn't know how to deal with it, especially when people think you might not be who you say.
me, and others have softened up a little, both because frankly, any damages that would be done by this thread have already happened if you were a troll, and 2, I think some people might be more believing you are who you say. But I'd grant a little forgiveness to previous criticism, and don't take too seriously others who continue, if you are indeed being honest. Its the culture here to be critical, and I don't think any of us really knows how to deal with someone coming on as the mother of a mass shooter, just like you say you didn't know how to deal with your son doing the attack.