r/ftm
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u/zestyskunk
How do i deal with this transphobic girl?
Theres this one transphobic girl that always got to misgender me in any way. I havent known her before i was trans, but she is literally ruining my life. She has made multiple jokes about trans people, in a bad way. She also once said "i dont care what people identify as, just as long as they understand that they are their biological gender". Bro wtf. Another time me and my girl friend made a little eyecontact, then she said "oooh is it flirting here" then i said as a joke: "no im gay" because thats how my humor is. She was like "exactly" then i started panicking and when i do, im never able to speak normally. After i tried forming some sentences, she was like "gay like liking men?" That ruins my joke and just makes it cringe

but i said yes. Then she was like "uhm isnt that straight? Maybe ur bi" I swear she knows what shes doing.

And always when she mentions me she always got to say she, even if its not natural in that sentence. And im trying to get rid of my deadname, but she makes it impossible. What should i do? Im not even friends with her, shes just around in my favorite teen club, that i tried to pass in, but shes just making it difficult. And impossible.

i tried adding her snap where my preferred name is on, day after she went:
deadname how did you find my snap? And my bitmoji is male and everything, yet she understand its me. What to do?