Hi, just venting a little.
I created this account to get help from Reddit with my transition and negative emotions just over two years ago. I have a therapist and a support network that has kept me moving along just fine and now I only come here for memes and to use it as an outlet for things like this, which is rare. Hoping to help others in a way that isn’t criticized too harshly because I haven’t gone through the same struggles as other trans people. I hid from the age of fourteen when I knew what was going on in my head but didn’t have a term to describe it and had this feeling since as early as I can remember. Thanks to trauma related memory blackouts that’s about eight years old.
I have been looked upon with hate and jealousy from people in the trans community and it makes me feel like I should have killed myself instead of coming out. Jealousy because I came out and my wife didn’t leave me or kick my ass out the house. She’s willing to keep working on herself while also trying to help me, monetarily and emotionally. Because I didn’t lose my job instantly and I get gendered correctly in most public spaces. I have actually had only a few admit it to my face that they have felt this way about me and they know others that do too. Jealousy over the fact I’m over forty and still had a better reaction to the HRT than a twenty or thirty something, fuck you. At least you didn’t lose you hair at sixteen years old.
Jealousy because I have never had to deal with hateful family that wish harm to me. Instead all I have is a father that won’t speak to me, my mother died years ago and so did my only homophobic siblings. Any family I have that are transphobic either will not speak to me or just don’t give a fuck because it’s not affecting them and their daily life. My in-laws are all supportive and very loving and I only lost a few people I consider friends to bigotry and transphobia.
I am not sorry for having the life that I have and if you think it’s perfect and I have no reason to be depressed, fuck you, you know nothing about my life and what I’ve been through. Not seeking advice or feedback, but feel welcome to weigh in if ya want. Be respectful, please.