I’ve banned uncle from wedding for my maid of honour - dad says I’m unreasonable
IT’S supposed to be the happiest day of your life – but let’s be honest, wedding planning can be downright stressful. Take your guest-list for instance – once you’ve n…
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IT'S supposed to be the happiest day of your life - but let's be honest, wedding planning can be downright stressful.
Take your guest-list for instance - once you've narrowed it down to your real nearest and dearest, you then have to bear in mind any lingering tensions between loved ones.
So when this bride-to-be asked her trans best friend to be her maid-of-honour, she knew there and then that she probably wouldn't invite her uncle as a result.
Sharing her dilemma on Reddit, the woman explained how they've been close friends since they were kids and how important it is that they feel comfortable on the day.
She explained: "My dad's older brother is very bigoted and quite frankly, hateful.
"He especially has an aversion to trans people and says the most horrible things about them. His wife is no different."
After a lot of careful thought, the bride has banned her uncle and aunt from the wedding to "avoid drama" - which hasn't gone down well with the family.
She added: "Their kids, my cousins told them that if their parents can't come, then they won't either.
"I told them to get lost and that my wedding would be better off without them."
Although the bride has her mum's full support, her dad has accused her of being "unreasonable".
She added: "He keeps promising me that his brother 'wont do anything' and will just 'sit quietly', but I refuse to budge.
"I just don't trust my uncle to act like an adult, because of his past behaviour. My mum told me that my aunt (said uncle's wife) has been crying. One of her favourite manipulation tactics."
Turning to the forum for guidance, the bride asked if she was being "callous" or was in the right for wanting to protect her best friend.
Reassuring the bride that she was doing the right thing, one member replied: "Toxic people are toxic, and they tend to find ANY opportunity to be toxic. Your dad can't pretend he can control that. No room for hate.
"Let them cry their bitter tears...you want your wedding to have happy tears and be a joyous occasion, not a hatefest where someone has to play referee, especially if alcohol will be involved, which would make a blow up inevitable."
Another added: "It's your wedding, invite whoever you want.
"You might hurt people's feelings but you're just creating an environment where those closest to you will feel safe."
"Even if they manage to behave themselves on your big day, you'll be on pins and needles in case something happens," a third wrote. "You don't need that added stress."
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