📚 Megathread Trannies posting their L's Online - Heckin valid people posting their funny misfortunes on the internet

[DatBepisTho]

Yes, you dumbshit. Normal people have bad things happen, deal with it, and move on with their lives. These people would dramatize a paper cut if they could (and note it down to bring up at their weekly therapy session).

Theodore Roosevelt once said "black care doesn't sit behind the rider whose pace is fast enough."

Meaning that normies get over it and deal with things by moving on and keeping busy (as you said), troons just seem to stagnate and bedrot even on the best of days. For people transitioning into new persons, the troons seem to hold onto a lot of the old identity's baggage, too. So I can see why any minor inconvenience gets mulled upon and blown out of proportion, if only by virtue of troons being do-nothing sad sacks.

Tl;dr- They legitimately have nothing else better to do than wallow in their own misery and grief.

 

[Paper Machete]

Why are so many of these posts riddled with peculiar, cavemannish language errors?

ESL, maybe.

 

[Caesar]

I grew up in the rural south in the 80s-2000s. Besides me, there were some 5 other lesbians that were out. All but one are now non-binary or a dood. And down here (with the exception of a bisexual girl I knew with true, diagnosed bipolar disorder, she became a “fag”), they all transition to “straight” “men.” It’s sad.

Lesbo to Jimbo pipeline is real

 

[Sleazy Car Salesman]

Lesbo to Jimbo pipeline is real

Because Lesbians aren't real.

 

[graywolf88]

If you are upset with the words you have said, then it isn't my problem if I simply screenshot it. You said it - own it.

Mmm pass the popcorn! Faux bleeding heart liberal crash outs are some of my favorites. They make for natural lolcows I'm telling you.

 

[gampboonerisms]

We should bring it back. It'd make court way funnier.

Especially the Louisiana parole board.

 

[Chandelier]

Mmm pass the popcorn! Faux bleeding heart liberal crash outs are some of my favorites. They make for natural lolcows I'm telling you.

Fujos pointing the finger at black people and calling them white TERFs is honestly hilarious. They've even called them ICE agents and are now comparing them to Hitler It's insane.

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This troon I featured aaaaaaaaaaaaaaages ago; he used to go by the username 'SmoothShinyShae' and would talk about how ancient societies used to venerate trans women as goddesses. He is now talking about Warhammer 40k and posting about his huge-ass chin on his third or fourth account. Everyone is clowning on him in the comments.



He also has a podcast just like Tyler Sternbach. Troons loving the sounds of their own voices, what's new?

 

[Stan]

He does seem to have a giant ego:


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Bruh, you're just doing the meme at this point:

How they see themselves / how they look

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Don’t worry buddy you’re extremely visible how could we miss you?

Most Doctors, Nurses, Aids, and Hospital Staff are as fed up with this Tranny shit as us normies but word to wise to anyone if in a hospital and you suspect it's one of the usual lefty types if a woman and you see purple or pink hair a nose ring or looks like a Dyke/Pooner or it's some limp wristed fag it's best to keep your opinions to yourself or things like giving blood could be a literal pain as they jab you multiple times claiming they can't find the vain

I dislike that self identifying as a tranny is enough to get male patients into female only inpatient wards though.

While she's not headed for outer darkness, there's also the issue that women can only reach the Celestial Kingdom (S-tier heaven, where you go to get your own planet) if their husband calls their secret Temple name. So everything she's working toward on earth might be for nothing, because there's no guarantee that her husband will even call her name. And arguably, she's probably already realized she's not getting the eternal reward she was promised no matter what.

This religion is . Absolute batshit. “Yeah wife you are my cosmic wife and we’ll go to S Tier heaven together but only if I decide you earned it and I can unilaterally withhold it my by not calling you by your secret temple name no matter your faith or acts. That means on earth you have to keep holding my spaghetti and put up with whatever nonsense I decide is religious doctrine revealed personally to me yesterday by Jesus God Blueheart Sonichu no matter how personally self serving it is. If I troon out the religious leaders in our community will suggest it’s your fault and you need to convince me not to.”

The fuck is a "survival sex worker" Two trannies in the woods, one sucks off the deer so the other can get a clear shot?

If you define needing invasive and long recovery plastic surgical procedures as a matter of life or death, if you define access to women’s clothes programmer socks and make up as a matter of life or death, then whoring yourself out to afford these things is a matter of survival.

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Tattoo (?) is upsetting. It’s like this troon is saying “uhh I guess I can do a stink n poke for you, never done it but it can’t be any harder than making earrings.”

Like when that cat's asshole-smirking Zinnia Jones revealed that he hadn't brushed his teeth in literal decades.

Ugghhh who lets their partners get away with this without fucking dentist shaming them or something?

It's probably because of how some fish species like Clownfish can change their sex to produce offspring/eggs if the population needs it.

Trannies saw that and thought: "THAT'S JUST LIKE ME!" *stabs self with HRT needle*

Man and you thought your A03 account was depressing

This nursedood is a lunatic fat sheboon with self admitted anger issues. She is very active in all FtM subreddits and posts a lot about how she hates herself, nursing and anyone and anything.

Here's her crying that she can never pass, Here's her raging at another black dood and calling her an incel. Here's her raging at anyone who uses trans people only for MtFs, Here's her crying that she's 200lb overweight and that makes nursing hard for her. And those were just in the past week

Her user name is the cherry on the cake: u/ASilentThinker. More like r/ARagingDood. Shame that leddit allows you to hide post history now. A cow worth watching

See I intially misread that as a nurse who’s self conscious for being 200lbs and I was gonna be sympathetic “naw you can do the job if you’re a bit overweight” but 200 lbs overweight (so what… 350 lbs minimum?) is a horse of a different color so to speak.

>Men are annoying
I almost find it painfully ironic when trannies will complain about men when they themselves were BORN AS MEN. Their brain is still a male brain, their bone structure is that of a man, they are a MAN. MtF trannies do not act like women, they act like faggots but with some extra steps.

Well these faggots deserve each other. March made in hell and all that, nothing of value was lost.

r/StraightTransGirls ???

This is a joke, right ? Nobody can be that retarded.

It’s one of those phrases that one rejects for being a contradiction in terms. No matter what their fancy an mtf isn’t a straight Trans girl. He might be straight and into girls but he’s not a girl (and if he was that wouldn’t be straight) or he’s into men and is also not straight because he’s not a girl.

 

[CTR Operative]

ESL, maybe.

Nah, ESL people make different kinds of mistakes, depending on what their native language is like. These read more like retards that never read a book before so they don't know how to spell anything.

 

[Lord Of Shit]

>Indian pooner
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I'd poon out if I were a pajeeta too tbh. It sounds awful existing around male jeets who constantly want to grope your bobs and rape you.

I get the motivation, but the jeets (especially the trooned-out, male variety) will absolutely rape men too.

"Waaaahhhhh Waaaahhh I made myself a freak of nature and now even the pervert companies don't cow tow to my will"

As it turns out, if you kowtow too much, eventually the resulting head injuries prevent one from giving a shit at all.

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[Tragi-Chan]

This troon I featured aaaaaaaaaaaaaaages ago; he used to go by the username 'SmoothShinyShae' and would talk about how ancient societies used to venerate trans women as goddesses. He is now talking about Warhammer 40k and posting about his huge-ass chin on his third or fourth account. Everyone is clowning on him in the comments.

Imagine having to cover half your face and still thinking, “But I totally pass though.”

 

[Nanashi no kiwi]

Why are so many of these posts riddled with peculiar, cavemannish language errors?

At this point, I'm convinced tranny hormone therapy actually makes you stupider.

 

[Aunt Carol]

The hate for ftm trannies mostly comes from lesbians who see it as a form of lesbian erasure.

Oh, man, someone better tell @Hepativore. She's got a Subaru to finance.

 

[Procopius]

Background on this fella

Of course he's with Garden Court.

 

[Hepativore]

Oh, man, someone better tell @Hepativore. She's got a Subaru to finance.

Many pooners will also groom lesbians very aggressively as from what I have seen from the way that they descended upon a very "femme" lesbian coworker and tried to convince her that it was just an act on her part and this did lead her to a breakdown in the employee lunchroom after a few months of bothersome pooners.

@toilet_rainbow also has lots of tales about how much of a nuisance pooners are in the lesbian community.

 

[Caesar]

Nonbinary Barista.mp4
Of course he's with Garden Court.

I dont think inwant a barrister who is more interested in looking "slay" than the law, non binary or not. The fact hes so proud of identity politics also makes me worry about bias if i was against a trans or NB person in a case.

 

[Sean Andalou]

Fujos pointing the finger at black people and calling them white TERFs is honestly hilarious. They've even called them ICE agents and are now comparing them to Hitler It's insane.

Hitler is always the last stop.

Of course he's with Garden Court.

I dont think inwant a barrister who is more interested in looking "slay" than the law, non binary or not. The fact hes so proud of identity politics also makes me worry about bias if i was against a trans or NB person in a case.

That video is a Monty Python skit that didn't make the cut.

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Just being honest this shit broke me. I know it's not a huge deal. It was an accident, she corrected herself immediately. But we've known each other for years, I've never been introduced to her as a man. I'm over a year and a half on hrt. She calls me beautiful and I appreciate her so much for that.
But I've always known that I just unfortunately do not look like a woman.
And internally everyone around me sees a man whether they admit it or not.
I just wish they wouldn't lie to me and make it hurt worse

Escalating emphasis added.
> Make sure there are serious consequences for telling the truth.
> Feel sad when people lie.
Plenty of commiseration in the comments.
Sample (and top comment):

I totally feel you. I have been in the same boat a lot. It really sucks. I wish I had good advice but I’m still trying to figure it out. It is a big deal and don’t let yourself feel guilty for being upset about it.

But also some confessions:

I've accidentally done that to my trans masc friend to his face and I about cried. I've only known him as a trans guy and he'd only known me as a trans girl.
He said it's okay and now I can't help but cringe at the memory.

Best comment for LULz.

My wife of 11 years recently accidentally misgendered me at an LGBTQ gathering. It was a slip, she sees me as a woman, but it still hurt. I fully understand what you are feeling.

 

[Sleazy Car Salesman]

Oh, man, someone better tell @Hepativore. She's got a Subaru to finance.

And a U-Haul to rent.

 

[Stan]

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That's so fucking depressing.

What I find fascinating is how parents ignore the alarm bells ringing in their brains, that evolutionary part of us that warns us about danger. I know they have it, or maybe I'm wrong and Bongs have lost their gut feelings.

look at what they took from us. And yes scouting was always basically paramilitary training for kids but still.

There is something going on there, though, but not natural selection.

People like Liz Fong-Jones and Brianna Wu may be a minority amongst troons, but they are representative of this influential minority within TiMs.

LFJ, in particular, horrible as he is, is also undeniably successful and even came the closest to destroying The Farms. He is a worthy adversary. And while there are also plenty of complete, fuck-up, lolcow TiMs, like Muscato and Tooter, I cannot deny that Troons seem to attract narcissistic, even sociopathic high-IQ types, very much to the detriment of society.

But pooners? Is there such a thing as a genuinely intelligent and successful pooner? Some might suggest Strangio, though her last performance was laughably cringeworthy. The Angry Pooner Lawyer? Another professional trainwreck.

tl;dr:

Troons are 98% idiots and 2% smart, ambitious, successful, and dangerous sociopaths.
Pooners are 100% idiots, most of whom can barely function at a retail job.

Men have more outliers on either side of the IQ spectrum and women are more normative to the center of the curve. So that means there are more sooper genius men but also more drooling retards incapable of basic tasks. Men are also going to take more risks. Thats why the MTFs get the Zizes, and FTMs got Aiden grilling vegetables with a welding glove.

 

[Magic Pickle]

Remember the tranny who was whining about how he can't even step into a pharmacy without being reminded of the absence of a womb in his pelvis? Well, he's still fucking pissing and moaning about it, but this time he's upset because not even his fellow troons care to shed a sympathetic tear for his unraveling. In fact, the lack of ladyparts seems to really be a big deal to him - like, to a frankly bizarre, gross and creepily obsessive degree* - so if any women in u/squishot's area go missing, know that if they find her, she may be robbed of a particular body part. The icing on the cake? He doesn't even want kids, he just wants have them because "having children and achieving motherhood would make me more of a woman" and has decided he will gaslight his children into believing he birthed them himself to alleviate his dysphoria. But don't worry: he says he'd "learn" to love them eventually! *And yes, those are all separate links!
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Why does no one wants to take me seriously about this?​

Edit: this post would have been received differently if it was about a cis woman!!!
I pretty lost my way to reproduce in exchange of my transition. And that way makes me feel disgusted and depressed. Why does no one care? Why does no one want to advocate for me to be able to like a woman one day? Why am i met with hatred instead of empathy? Am i a fellow woman or just a guy you want to pretend to treat like a girl? Why do i need to hide these feelings from irls? Why does the trans community keep grouping me with men then pretend later they are fighting for "equality"? Why can't i just be love and respect as a fem? Why does it bother you that i want it? How is this even remotely disrespectful to anyone about what i want to do with my own personal body? Why "my body my choice" never applied to me? Why shouldn't it apply to me? Why cant you hug me instead of shrugging it with "you are not the only one infertile you know?" Why cant i have my own family in the future? Why cant i stop crying?
Why am i such a guy? I want to sleep and never wake up and be happy with my biological children in my dreams... I had enough of you and you never understand

A broad and circular fellow feels routinely rejected by other troons because his waist-to-height ratio leaves something to be desired. It's funny that he suggests that part of being accepted amongst his fellow genderghouls is not being "ugly as shit," because even a single step into subs like r/Nonbinary, r/MTFashion and r/TransLater have been known to freeze innocent users into solid stone like a mere glance from Medusa due to the cataclysmic levels of hideousness to behold. It's a pity if he's not only retarded and transgender but also blind - talk about being one of God's redheaded stepchildren.
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Vent post about being fat​

Don't bother commenting if you're gonna say something derisive or annoying, I've heard it all..
Its really, really annoying how it's impossible to find community with other queer (let alone trans) people if you're an overweight trans woman. Annoying and depressing
If you're fat, you basically aren't allowed to be trans, even by other trans people. This is what I've noticed in my own area anyways. It feels like there's an implicit requirement to being accepted in a physical setting- don't be ugly as shit. I'm always made to feel like I disgrace trans people just by existing as someone overweight while also being trans...
I wish this "community" was as nice as people make it seem. But for me it isn't. I've been disowned by most of my family for being trans and I'm lonely as shit IRL. So there was a part of me hoping that I might be able to find solace from other people, that they might accept me, but my weight keeps getting in the way...
I'm just tired. I've been steadily losing weight for about 2 years now and while I'm at a better weight than before it's still not great. And while I know I'll be treated differently once I'm not overweight, it makes me so, incredibly bitter that that distinction exists at all.

After naming herself after an aging Italian stereotype - the kind with a hot temper and a heart of gold buried underneath a gold chain and flourshing chest hair - a TiF is chafing against her parents' comedy routines because they insist on poking fun at her. The reason it bugs her so much? She identifies as genderfluid (which is fancy shorthand for "I love making everything difficult and being the center of attention") and finds such jokes at her expense to be dismissive of her wide and expansive genderfeels. There's just no making some people happy!
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My parents keep making fun of my chosen name and gender​

As said in the title, my parents keep making fun of my chosen name and gender.
I’m genderfluid, and I use 2 names, neither of which are my birth name for context.
Everytime I make a joke about being a guy (specifically targeted to my brother and dad) my parents will go “oh you can’t talk Sal!” “Why don’t you join in then Sal?” “Why don’t you be a man too then Sal?” (Sal is my chosen masc name)
It may sound like play and fun but it gets really annoying. I’ll say something like, “oh [dad] and [brother] are making [blank] jokes again! What a stereotypical male!” And they’ll start borderline making fun of my chosen masc persona (for lack of a better term)
They also think I’m ONLY a male, because they think that there’s only cis, trans, and non binary. But even knowing I prefer being referred to as male, they’ll call me my fem/dead name 100% of the time because “oh I named you that”
It’s really annoying and I wanna know what I can do.

Years ago, a guy had some bicurious exploration with his best friend that culminates in a kiss that leaves him flustered to the point of panic, though nothing ever comes of it; when the ebb and flow of time separates them, they are eventually reunited on a fateful night where anything could happen, so of course OP lays his true and feminine heart bare. Tragically, the poetry of the moment is destroyed by a laugh track when OP's gender reveal is met with barely withheld disgust, and his former flame cuts contact with OP the second he has the chance to. I love a happy ending!
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got hit with the “you’ll always be a man to me”​

| not a vent, but someone might find this post uneasy, so proceed with caution |
hi everyone, this is my first time messing around here, but i wanted to discuss with my sisters and allies about a singular event that happened 4ish months ago, when i came out to (omg spoiler alert) my now ex best friend, who will be called “pear” in this story
i’ve known him since 6th grade, as acquaintances, but during high school we took different paths and only got close starting from 2021/22, when i started hanging out with a friend group i didn’t know he was a part of.
me and him became INSEPARABLE, but note that this was before i’ve ever came at peace with myself and accepted the lady i was supposed to be born as.
new movie out in theaters? me and himtrainrides to wherever? me and him

casino nights(???????) me and him​

hanging out a lot with the group itself, but damn i think you get the point
we used to spend a lot of time and nights at a group member’s house, (since he had a massive mansion with a pool, most of our summers we were there having fun) in which we used to do what most deranged (european) teen boys do: gaming, smoking, drinking… and so on
during some of these nights the homosexuality rate of actions just used to spike to the ceiling and kisses, buttslaps, helicopters, acting “gay and slutty” was just the standard.
i used to find it hilarious.
until one day
one specific kiss
one specific kiss with pear felt different
i felt my heart rate suddenly go up, but i thought it was a panic attack (since i used to suffer from that a lot), and i actually started thinking i was into him, not having that much of a problem with it since i’ve always been BI since i have memory.
i’ve never ever talked about that to pear, but there were times when before one of our monthly trips i told him it’d be easier for him to come to sleep at my place so that we could’ve woken up together without me having to go all the way to his house (very far from the train station) to pick him up.
and he did, we slept cuddled up in my small bed, and just went with our day
but i felt it againthat sense of peace and happiness
…
2 years later i left the friend group, things became toxic and i’ve never felt that out of place in my life, those people were superficial, never cared about real problems, never wanted to talk about deep topics, and i got to this conclusion way too late if you ask me.
me and him kept hanging out like normal, but time passed, his job demanded more time, and my university did the same
more time
more effort
and eventually we never even saw each other once a month
we were actively orbiting away from each other and i was feeling so lost
so alone
but this time alone eventually led to me discovering the truth about my identity, i started watching trans tips and advices on youtube, worked my feelings out with my therapist, and started talking about it in videogames, opening up to random people, noticing “the thing” actually made me feel like myself.
but i hadn’t told anyone irl yet, kept being the man the world always knew
some months passed and i was about to get my prescription for HRT, and i was so excited, i HAD to tell someone, i HAD to tell him.
so i reached outand asked if he’d be free that weekendhe said sureand i was so so so so happy because i was able to fight the fear of opening up, maybe because i trusted him with my life, i guess
i pick him up at his house, and we head to the local lake, at night.
after a bit of chitchatting about how the work and uni were going, i said i had to tell him something, that he was the only i trusted enough to open up
so i actually open up to him, i explain i always had an absolute shit time looking myself at the mirror, that i showered with lights off, that i couldn’t stand being 6’0, and that i was about to start my medical journey, but i reassured him that he’d always have a friend in me, that i wouldn’t forget about our great time together, and that i was thriving to see the future that my life had prepared for me (i was basically crying)
and MANthe absolute horror in his eyeshe tried to mask itbut i saw it, i saw it all
i felt the disgust he was feeling, directly in my chest
“ahh- ehh, i’m happy for you, nice.”
his tone was so off and completely switched compared to how the night begun
“i- i don’t know, the only thing i can tell you is that you’ll always be a man to my eyes, no matter what”
in that precise moment my heart shattered and i just went numb
i honestly don’t remember how the rest of the night went, but i haven’t heard from him since
i now feel good, i found a small gaming group of cis friends who respect me and absolutely don’t give a F*CK about my identity, orientation…
they don’t just treat me as one of them, i AM one of them.
and the only times we actually talk about my transition is them asking me advice on how to make me feel comfortable and seen in a group of all guys
i feel my spark is coming back, day after day i am healing from that disastrous disappointment of a “friendship” and even though i think about him time to time, life feels actually liveable now that i am on HRT, no more autodistruction, no more self doubt, i am growing stronger everyday
AND WITH BOOBIES
i wanted to ask you all if you happened to live through similar experiences, and if so, how did it go for you? how did THAT person react? if you could rewind, would you still tell them?

A li'l dood with anxiety around being obviously female has her worries brought to life when a pal lets her know a mutual friend has been cracking jokes about her LARP as a little lad. In an attempt to seem unbothered, she writes to another Redditor that "I honestly just find it funny because, like, I have a whole moustache and a neck beard that I have to shave at least twice a week"; but since OP is so concerned that she might actually look like a girl, I took the liberty of digging up a selfie so viewers at home could decide whether "Ash/Tryst" passes for a dude or not.
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Just had my worst fears confirmed​

I just got a call from my friend to let me know that one of our other "friends" said some transphobic things about me. We'll call the transphobe Emily for the sake of privacy and ease of storytelling.
I reposted a tiktok that was like "men when they get injured vs when they get sick" and put "me" and Emily brought it up to my friend and said "he's not even really a man" or something along those lines. She then went on to say something along the lines of "I'm not sure what he thinks the testosterone is doing".
This has been very difficult for me to hear, especially the second bit, because I've been on testosterone for over 3 years now and have often felt like I still look like a girl and that it isn't doing anything. It also hurts because I have trusted Emily in the past to the point where I didn't mind too much when she accidentally saw my dead name. I've even bought her a birthday gift (which she will now not be receiving obviously)
Now I'm worried that she could spread that information. And I'm also really upset that my fear that I still look like a girl has been confirmed.
I'm not really sure what to do with myself.I'm very glad that my friend told me though because otherwise I would've kept blindly trusting Emily thinking she was my friend.

Spoiler: She's skinwalking Eddie Munson of Stranger Things fame.

The fantasy of hiding in plain sight has been destroyed for this FTM when she learns that her girlfriend had let everyone know straight out the gate that the patchy-faced pipsqueak she was gallivanting around with was actually a gal. This wounds her greatly even though she admits herself that she fucking had her transgender status right on her dating profile for everyone to see, and now she quivers in her boy's section booties at the very notion of having to face a family aware of the truth from the get-go.
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My girlfriend has told everyone that I am trans, while I have been trying to live my life as stealth.​

My girlfriend and I have been together for a little over half a year. No one in my own friend group knows that I am trans, and I thought that the same went for her friend group. I am stealth for social reasons but also for safety, and it has been very important for me to remain that.Today my girlfriend just dropped the bomb that she has told her family and her friends a long time ago. I really dont know what to feel now. It was my thing to tell when I felt safe or IF i wanted to tell anyone at all. She says that she did not know that she could not say, but for me it is so personal and it seems like common sense. She said that her dad asked her before our first date, if it was with a "man-man", because she apparently has been dating other gender non confirming people, so now I just feel like she is a chaser on top of that.I do not know how to look her family in the eyes this holiday. They have known the whole time and I feel so stupid and fooled.I dont know how to save this. It's a really big pit in my stomach. This was my biggest secret just spilled for random banter. I know she did not mean evil, but how can you be so inconsiderate.
Edit: I did not expect to receive so many replies so fast. I will do my best to answer all of them. Thank you for your time and thoughts.
I have been making her a handmade comic book for Christmas. I am 2 pages away from finishing, but I seriously dont have the heart to do it. It is just not the same now.

Though wed to a bisexual woman - usually one of the more acquiescing of women when it comes to troonacy - a man on the road to transition meets a roadblock when the missus threatens to leave if he continues his crossdressing ways; this breaks his heart as he whines that "I've daydreamed about being a cute lesbian couple with her." He mentions in the comments that they had put a hold on their plans to adopt children so he could explore his gender retardation, so between that and the fact that merely 20 days ago he claims his "egg" cracked, here's hoping that Reddit user "OverripeEgg" drives his wife to sign the papers officially before any innocent children get caught up in the mix.
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Wife told me anything more then crossdressing means divorce​

Basically the title. We were talking about my journey so far and she told me going on hormones is a deal breaker right now. It may change later, but if I stop presenting masc, she doesn't want to stay together.
She also kept saying maybe doing drag would "scratch the itch" without actually living as or being a woman.
I don't know what I actually want, I just wanted to tell someone and maybe get to feel like a woman here.
Edit to answer some often repeating points:My wife is bi. We are both in Therapy and are planning couples counseling to work through it. Her main issue is that her family is very religious and is afraid of how they'd look at us.

Finally, to end today's haul on a doozy, this is one of those posts that I just can't highlight enough because it's fucking hilariously hypocritical, but here's my best attempt at a summary: an 18-year-old FTM is super pissed off that her attention-seeking sister, at the tender age of 13, has copied everything she's ever done - including claiming to be autistic and transgender. What disturbs me most, however, is that OP seems extremely dismissive of the fact that her sister openly self-harms for attention and will show her inflicted wounds to anyone who looks at her, and her parents' answer is simply to shove an iPad in her face instead. This post is a masterclass in How Not to Raise Children; take note, future Kiwi parents.
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Copycat sister says she’s trans now. How to convince my parents to not believe her and allow her to medically transition?​

no adult content but i was flagged, adding it to avoid getting taken down.
This is half rant, half advice needed. I can’t deal with this anymore. Please read the whole thing before commenting, there is YEARS of context needed.

I, FTM 18, have a little sister, F 13, who has copied literally everything I have ever done. She has also never been disciplined by my parents, (more on this later). When i first cut my hair short, she immediately wanted to do it, too. If i dyed my hair, she also wanted to do it. When i got my ears pierced, she wanted that too. And she would get it, every time. I’m sorta alternative, i have 4 sets of Piercings and anytime i get a new one, she starts yapping about how she’ll do it too. My parents don’t say no to her, ever, because she will scream and cry and throw a fit until she gets what she wants. Any time I make a change, suddenly she wants the exact same thing. Every time, without failure.
But it’s not just appearance, but hobbies too. Certain Objects i have. Clothing i own, art supplies, the fucking furniture i have. It’s never a coincidence.

I like to collect things, and i’m generally into weird, nerdy stuff. the moment i get any of that, she suddenly has to, as well- even if she’s never shown interest in it, ever- down to the exact same object that I have. I get a something? Well, she needs the exact object, down to the model and color. This happens constantly. Like. I got this ducking taxidermy that i thought was so charming- he was on a tech deck with a little helmet and flames on it. As soon as i got that, Suddenly she was a buying duckling taxidermy off etsy. I got a switch lite for my birthday, and then she needed one too, with the exact same model and color. I get a anime figure, well now she wants the same one, regardless of whether she even knows the character. These examples are so specific that you can tell that they are not just general things and coincidences.

It’s obsessive and now that she’s going to be in Highschool next year, not cute anymore. Maybe when she was a little kid, but now it just pisses me off. She doesn’t even really stick to them either, because she can’t make a decision about anything. Every year, she demands to change the furniture in her room because she suddenly doesn’t like them anymore. And my parents will sometimes even indulge that. Like, dude, we’re too poor for that shit! Are you serious?! But the point is that she’s incredibly fickle and will throw away whatever once the month of interest is over, and move on to the next thing, and the cycle repeats over and over.

Her preferences change between my own and whatever is deemed “cool” and “trendy” by the general public. She’s a follower, always has been. Fine, whatever. But she’s also never been able to deal with not being the center of attention. EVER. Since the day she gained a personality, she’s never been able to play by herself, or let anything be about someone else. She’s that kid who makes a scene at someone else’s birthday party because it’s not about her.

When i was thirteen, i was only out to friends and one of my friends bought me a little trans pin. I brought it home and while i was gone, she was snooping through my room for shit to steal (because of course) and found the pin. Because my parents gave her internet access at toddlerhood, she was chronically online as hell and knew what it meant. She waved it in my face and leered at me, and said “i know what this means”. I snatched it away and told her to get out of my room. A couple weeks later, she outed me at the dinner table. She started talking and while we made EYE CONTACT, i mouthed at her to stop talking and made multiple “cut it out” motions and literally begged her not to say anything. She did not care, and said it anyway, causing me to burst into tears and run to my room, where i cried for hours. This was the reaction she wanted to see. I guess it was funny, or something, i don’t know.

My emotionally absent parents had no idea what that was, my dad came up and rambled about how it’s “ok to be a lesbian”. After that it was never mentioned again until a year and a half later, when i finally got therapy. When I was closeted, i was super depressed and never talked to anybody. I stayed in my room all day and didn’t talk to my parents. After i went to therapy and talked to my parents about being trans, i got much better and began to actually speak to them.

Well, she was NOT happy that my parents suddenly cared about me and all eyes were suddenly not all on her. So she was like 9, suddenly claiming “you’re trans, well, I’M NONBINARY (so there)”. Which she obviously would not stick to, because she would only conveniently remember when i was trying to pick out a name with my mom. And then she would forget for large swathes of time. Her “identity” was also constantly changing, one day she’s bisexual, one day she’s a lesbian, the next she’s something else. Yes kids can be queer, i was one… but the constant label change and announcement specifically when my parents were trying to talk to ME, made it obvious she didn’t mean it.

my sister is now 13, and desperately wants my mom’s attention. (The fact that she’s not getting it is honestly her own fault, as she’s practically an ipad baby and refuses to do anything with my parents or family because she would rather be on roblox or TikTok. She’s your typical ‘Screenager’.) so of course, what works super easily at getting attention? Being trans, of course! So now she’s doing that. And also Self harm.

Something i need you guys to understand well and good is that the cutting was also very much for attention. She immediately stopped after getting the attention she wanted, and she just read about it online somewhere and decided to just do that to get my mom’s attention hard and fast (my guess is gacha life, something i know she likes for a FACT, a community of very young kids who make videos with a game/app and post them to youtube. They like to be edgy, depictions of self harm are EXTREMELY common. I would know, i used to be into the same thing, and now she’s into it too. Shocker.). They are not very deep or permanently scarring. she goes around showing them off. To people who don’t know her, or my mother, this is apparently evidence that she is actually trans. I promise you that it is not. (I’ve been a thirteen year old girl who wanted attention. I also knew a couple who did the same.) It’s incredibly common in today’s younger generation. She is not doing it because she hates her body, or because she’s severely depressed and trying to feel something, or punishing herself.

I know my sister. does the self harm for attention make her a bad person? No. That’s not what i’m saying at all- people always assume that’s what i’m trying to say. it’s just a fact that 13 year old girls with tons of access to the internet do this often. There is a problem, obviously, if she resorts to this to solve it, but transitioning will not fix the problem. Because that’s not the problem, it’s something else.

My parents don’t know how to deal with her (they NEVER have), and don’t want to send her to a care facility, so they just do whatever she wants. Again, i need y’all to understand how unserious this is- she regularly has tantrums where she occasionally threatens to kill herself, if my parents threaten to take her IPAD away. This started when she was like 9 years old. She’s obviously not actually going to do that. For someone who resorts to manipulation first try, she’s not very good at it. and the thing is, my parents will always give up and let her have whatever she wants. There will be no consequences. Ever. There never have been.

She “changed her name”, and has landed on one that is literally a one letter difference from mine. A one letter difference. I’m not fucking kidding. My parents don’t understand why i have an issue with this. When i told her that I didn’t like it, she pretended she had no idea what i was talking about.

And i’m not allowed to question her, ever. My parents are literally her number one dickriders… dude I literally can’t fucking deal with it! She wanted to “come out” at thanksgiving and make it a huge spectacle, and make it about her. And my mother does nothing but encourage her. I had to leave the room out of anger.

Thankfully my family other than my parents is on my side (my family only consists of 12 people on my dad’s side, mom’s side is all dead) I talked to my cousin recently who told me that their entire side of the family has been anticipating this situation since my sister was very young; that she would at one point, keep pushing the boundaries with my parents until it eventually hits a breaking point, and they won’t know what to do with her anymore- so they’ll have fi have her live with my aunt/uncle/cousins, because that side of the family actually parents their children. They have anticipated it since she was extremely young, that’s how obvious it was- since she was about 6. Of course, they assumed it would be drugs or shoplifting or something. We have not yet hit that breaking point.

Anyways, while i generally find it very offensive that she’s doing this (and going around using the T slur like nothing while at it) my biggest issue is that when she wants something, she gets it. And my parents will give it to her. Expensive electronics, money, whatever. I am extremely worried that my mom will encourage and even PUSH HER to start medically transitioning.

My mom knew next to nothing about being trans and turned to facebook groups, she was the one who pushed me to legally change my name, passport, start hormones, get a top surgery consultation… etc. of course, all things i actually wanted but never asked for (although i personally have chosen not to get any surgery at this time for multiple reasons). I did all of this VERY young, about 15 or so. I worry that my mom will try the same with her.. and my sister would, without a doubt, become a detrans grifter once she realizes that this is not who she is. She would yap about how it was everyone else’s fault and they ruined her, probably quoting “irreversible damage” online or something. Know this- if she chooses the wrong thing, or makes a mistake, it is ALWAYS someone else’s fault.
If they get her on T, I don’t know what i’ll do. Maybe finally actually flip my shit.

At first when i talked to my mom about my concerns she assured me that she was just going along with it to stop her from SHing. I don’t think this is the right way to go about it, but whatever. But now when i bring it up again, she starts saying shit like “oh well maybe she is actually… you know those scars blah blah blah” OH MY FUCKING GOD?!!? I swear she acts dense on purpose.

And another thing- not trans related but more evidence of how far my sister will go- I’m autistic/ADHD and was diagnosed at 13. I showed signs my entire life but my mom is german and didn’t want to admit there was something “wrong” with me. My sister is definitely not. The tantrums are entitlement and ipad addiction, jot autistic meltdowns. She has never showed a singular trait nor symptom, accounting for all types of socialization and differences in sex and whatnot. She has ADHD and was medicated for that but is now seeking a diagnosis, so she’s getting tested. And then right before her test she was asking me “what kind of autism” i have, presumably so she can pretend to have it and attempt to get the diagnosis, which she 100% would do. I probably sound crazy but i’m being for real. This is probably so she can give excuses about horrible behavior and just blame it on that, too. She’s an expert and coming up with excuses for being horrible to other people- being extremely mean, and even physically violent and then just blaming it on her ADHD, or nowadays, her period.

I’m on my last nerve. I live full time at a dorm at my college about 45 mins away but my parents rely on my to do my sister’s chores FOR her and pet-sit for them even though my sister is right there and completely able to do it for them… and i’m thinking of just cutting them off. Not permanently, but refusing to help them out until they learn that they actually DO have to force my bum ass sister to actually do stuff for them instead of making me to it for her. That way they will reach the breaking point faster, because this all originates from their inability to parent her since she was a toddler. Dude, i used to be her 3rd parent. I took care of her because they didn’t. I always had to entertain her, or tell her not to do stupid things, whatever. My mom is a stay at home mom. She has a small business she does but is completely capable of dealing with my sister, and simply just didn’t want to fight with her or listen to the screaming. And so it has continually gotten worse, and worse, and worse. This has been a long time coming, even outside of the trans stuff, and apparently everyone has seen it except me, my parents and sister. I’m so tired you guys. I can’t deal with this anymore.

What do you think i should do? Should i just take the plunge?? And please, don’t tell me to just “accept my sister”. There’s also more as to how I know she’s faking for attention but this is dragging on long enough.
Helpful advice would be appreciated.