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I'm post op at this point, and I've had several one night stands where I meet somebody when I go out... so I just go with the flow and don't say anything.
I've had it where we spend hours
literally having passionate sex, then have them pursue me for more after the fact... then once I tell them all of a sudden it's a problem.
Like come on, spare me the "it's just biology" bullshit, your dick told me everything I need to know.
I've also had plenty of awkward experiences where I've revealed in my profile I'm a post op trans woman and STILL have spend time explaining that no, I don't have a penis, no they're not gay for being attracted to me and various other super annoying, repetitive conversations.
Ultimately all any of us is looking for is for someone that's attracted to
us, not some fantasy they've got in their minds or have been given from a screen.
DuePomegranate2817 (OP, in reply):
Excellent post. They'll say it's basic biology, but it's a bunch of bullshit. Through pain and disappointment, I have learned that it's just better to go with the flow and that sometimes men don't want to know how the sausage is made (no pun intended, I swear, but I can't think of any other way to express it). They are organically and naturally attracted to us and certain things are better off left unsaid. I'm also tired, exhausted, disappointed. I don't want to get asked very intrusive questions, I want someone who is genuinely attracted to me and to whom I'm genuinely attracted. I want to feel attractive. I don't want to feel like an experiment or an insect. And even when I say I'm post op, they start asking questions about whether I have scars or not, how do I pee, if I poop from the vagina. Nasty stuff. I'm seriously done with that. If a guy likes what he sees (and if I like him), I don't need to explain anything