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- Jul 21, 2022
What the lovely lady looks like?Dating apps and not putting that i am trans in the bio then getting likes?
Ugh, this stuff is wearing me out. When I put that I am trans in my bio i get close to nothing for likes, when I leave that out I get a lot of likes. I hate this and I don't feel us trans girls need to display it or let someone know first thing as if it is a warning or something bad that we are trans. I would like to talk and get to know each other first as people are attracted to people not what's between their legs. If you saw me in person or liked my profile and were attracted to me the next step is to discover who I am and see if I am for you. But it doesn't go this way unless you are young.
I got a like from a specific girl that I want to like back, she put in her bio "no men, total lesbian". I am thinking I will be waisting my time to match with her and I will feel guilty if I talk to her, get to know her, then tell her I am a trans girl. I get ghosted at that point a lot. What would you do? Are her bio words a dead giveaway that she only likes CISFemale-AFAB girls? I am completely passable and attractive, it shouldn't ruin someone’s attraction to me if they learned I am trans but this is not the case.
Edited to add that I took the chance and matched with her. I will see if this goes better then before but I am nervous.
My brother hasn't talked to me for more then a year...
Hey everyone, I just wanted to come here and vent a little bit, me and my brother live together and our rooms are one wall apart basically but ever since I came out he doesn't talk to me at all, it can't to an exteme today that he called my mom to call me to ask about the bag he needed to travel, when he was right next door... He's 28 and he should know better as his behaviour is one of a teenager, all of this is putting me in a wedged where I have a dickhead dad that barely respects me and a brother that literally wishes me to be cis when I'm not...
What's bothering the most is that everyone in my family treats me like I'm a disappointment, that I don't do anything, that I'm lazy and just overall useless, disregarding that I have ADHD diagnosed since I was 9 and anytime I tell them that I forget about things my family always says "oh but your dad also has ADHD, not diagnosed but he knows how to deal with it" it's so hypocritical when I feel like a punching bag for anyone in my family... It really lowers my overall mental health, it's surprising how much love I receive from my girlfriend's family as they fully support me and care for me, I'm even thinking about passing Christmas there rather then my family cause it will just be shit.
Anyways I hope everyone is doing well here and stay safe
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masturbating isn’t the same when you’re almost 2 years on hrt
im not upset about this because it feels like my body is changing in a positive way but jerking off doesn’t feel good at all and i have the most meh orgasms from it. i can’t afford a vibrator and anal as it is rn is kind of exhausting but i do sorta like it. i have a really big problem with masturbating without pornography. i kind of hate it and it makes me feel incredibly jealous when i see cis women’s bodies. i don’t want to watch porn anymore but it feels like i can’t get off without it and idk why. i think part of it has to do with me using it for so long but idk how to change that now. i can get into the mood without it but i kinda need some visual stimuli to keep it going. im having a hard time understanding what my body thinks feels good. has anyone experienced a similar thing? i need help idk what to do anymore.
360°Did testosterone gel help after SRS?
I have been post op for around 4 years now and I've Gained a significant amount of weight since surgery and I have zero sex drive and I always have low energy and brain fog. So tomorrow I have an appointment with my doctor to get on a low dose of T and I hope that will make me feel better.
Had the weirdest discussion with a co-worker
It wasn't bad, just confusing. I mentioned that I'm about to start in a new DnD campaign which includes 6 trans girls. (I "forgot" to mention that I was one of them) She looked a bit confused and asked "Trans girls?". Um, yes. "Like, boys that dress up like girls?" Oh shit, here we f#### go with transphobia in the work place. "No, girls that were born as a boy, but now are girls." I say. "Um, ok." She says. "But have they had surgery?" Why does that matter? "Because, like, are they trans if they have had the surgery?" What? "If they have had the surgery, they are girls, and not trans, right?" I could not comprehend her thought process.
She believes, out of ignorance or otherwise, that we are just guys in girl clothes and that is what's called "trans". But after we've had surgery, and I'm guessing she meant the downstairs one, we became girls and loose the "trans".
I don't think she is maliciously transphobic, but just really ignorant and don't know how shit works.
So yeah, the weirdest and most confusing conversation with a co-worker I have ever had.
"She believes, out of ignorance or otherwise, that we are just guys in girl clothes and that is what's called "trans".".





