If pic related was calm, rational, had good distress tolerance, wasn't litigious or a cheater, was at least culturally Christian, I think some realistic men, especially if they are still unmarried in their late 30s, early 40s or a little beyond, would wife her up.
Agreed. But that cohort of men, even if they are Ned Flanders tier (very accommodating, nice, deferential, tolerant, hard working, clean, etc) are aware they can get fucking rolled by these women if they arent careful. They exist. They just know how bad things can get. I have a youth pastor friend, we work in the same company in the same locale. He is physically fit, tall, tech guy, but is strong, can fix houses (like gut them, and do all the shit), knows how to fish, etc, and he has a hard time nailing a chick down. They are fucking nuts. And all he wants is to get one, stick with her, and start a family. He is like a cooler, stronger wealthier Ned Flanders.
If the circumstances allowed for it, they would also support her financially, "dick her down" as she requested about 400 pages ago, and be loyal. There's gotta be a way for girls like her to keep the borderline personality disorder under wraps. DBT isn't cutting it and meds can only take the edge off the emotional component; drugs can't really improve an actual personality.
DBT and mood pills could work, we dont know, to get DBT and mood pills someone would have to admit they need help and stop smoking god damned weed with mood issues.
Then they would have to get a case manager and not bite their bloody hand every step of the way.
This all begins with admitting a problem and asking for help.
One is a religious version, like 'God, Im a sinner, I am not perfect, I need help, I accept the free gift and thank you for redeeming me. Fill me with the holy spirit and guide me'. Basically saying im fucked and I need help and seek redemption.
The modern Godless version is; Fuck I have a problem and need help. Then say, I need to find someone to help me and follow the protocols, and then explore what can be done.
But there is no version where anything works out for someone who has no normal relationships. Right now she thinks the kids are her buddies, but that will grind to a halt the minute the kids figure out how fucked things really are. She has no friends. She has no spouse. She has no job. Sounds like the family situation is fucked too. And she might want to stop and consider that the common problem across the board is her.
Everyone can get on a path to redemption.
Her excuse tonight was 'I dont have to change a thing because lots of people want to dick me down.'
Like what kind of mental shit is this? Her entire mindset is utterly transactional. She is consumed by the weights on the scale down to the atomic level for every god damned transaction.