<2021-12-17T01:17:20.000Z> ollie: thanks for your advice today it actually really helped 
<2021-12-17T01:28:16.000Z> why@shitposter.club: thanks no problem, i just like interacting and sharing my mind. glad it could be helpful
<2021-12-17T02:23:37.000Z> ollie: it’s so much easier talking to someone I don’t know about this rather than talking to a friend or my shitty brother/sister 
<2021-12-17T19:50:28.000Z> ollie: did you date girls before boys?? 
<2021-12-17T19:51:44.000Z> why@shitposter.club: nope
<2021-12-17T19:52:19.000Z> ollie: am I suppose to treat this date like I would if he was a girl? 
<2021-12-17T19:52:43.000Z> ollie: are there unspoken rules for samesex stuff
<2021-12-17T19:55:26.000Z> why@shitposter.club: im not good at social stuff, i just treat guys like anyone else
<2021-12-17T19:55:56.000Z> why@shitposter.club: whats the date supposed to be like, are you meeting for lunch or something?
<2021-12-17T19:59:59.000Z> ollie: we’re having coffee tomorrow morning. I’ve never met him, he’s 25 I think and a friends brother
<2021-12-17T20:01:01.000Z> ollie: I didn’t think this through.. I’m going to have to order hot choc bc I’m a baby and don’t like coffee?? and idk how I’m suppose to kiss him, I can’t do it in front of everyone 
<2021-12-17T20:01:39.000Z> why@shitposter.club: then dont!
<2021-12-17T20:03:58.000Z> ollie: what part do I don’t ?
<2021-12-17T20:15:30.000Z> why@shitposter.club: you dont have to kiss him in public there, or at all. there's no special rules, and he'll understand if you're nervous. almost all gays have had this period of questioning and experimenting, so he'll know exactly how youre thinking. don't pretend like you know what youre doing. use the drinks date is to be comfortable with that person. once you are, you can go somewhere private (his place, etc). and don't get manipulated into doing something you don't want to do! practice in your mind saying things like "sorry, no, i dont want to do this" or "i dont like you" or just walking away. if he's nice, he won't stop you.
<2021-12-17T20:41:06.000Z> ollie: oh..oh the last paragraph makes this seem so scary. that’s advice I wouldn’t have thought about.honestly thanks for even replying to me, these last few teenage years have been a confusing hell and all my friends act like it’s the👌🏻 golden years so I just keep my mouth shut 
<2021-12-17T20:52:03.000Z> why@shitposter.club: not trying to offend, but i see you as a really submissive and easily manipulated guy and i dont want any harm to come to you. this isn't a scary situation but it *can* turn scary if youre with the wrong guy, or send the wrong message. gays have sex very easily and quickly, so unless you say something about it he might cross some boundaries once youre in private. also im a bit paranoid and untrusting towards others, these are my own fears which may be unjustified. 
<2021-12-17T20:54:06.000Z> why@shitposter.club: and of course, life is all hard and confusing. im almost 25 and im still facing new challenges or discovering new things about myself. you're not alone struggling to find yourself, even if others around you seem to have everything figured out
<2021-12-17T21:50:42.000Z> ollie: yeahh.. my parents have really beat the submission into me. I try to play it off as easy-going but this anxious disposition I’ve picked up since starting college hasn’t helped. not offended tho, if you can pick it up then this dude will too. I feel soo nervous.ahh are you saying it doesn’t get easier in the 20s?? also are you dating that other gay dude that followed me? you don’t have to answer but 👀