<2023-04-21T13:58:29.000Z> GinNig: Hey Super, I have a very redundant, very overly asked question for you. I have an almost certain feeling to the answer, particularly because I know my work/living situation of the past few years, but I'll ask anyway: how do I find a woman who wants to be a wife?
<2023-04-21T14:54:08.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Well my first answer is to try to go through the church. 
<2023-04-21T14:54:28.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Obviously though, you wouldn't be asking if there were lots of available ladies at your congregation!
<2023-04-21T14:55:03.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: So my first recommendation is to ask the priest for help, and to find the babushka, whatever old ladies there are out there who can play matchmaker for you.
<2023-04-21T14:55:38.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Our guys need to start casting a wider net out there, getting help with meeting girls from everyone that's willing to help them out. 
<2023-04-21T14:56:40.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Also I found this "Orthodox dating" site here: meetandright.com/
<2023-04-21T14:56:58.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: I don't know if it's successful or trustworthy, but it might be worth a shot compared to other dating sites. 
<2023-04-21T14:57:49.000Z> GinNig: The North Texas Orthodox community is aweful low on available females. To include in the larger parishes. I've talked to guys from such parishes, guys older and better off financially, and who are far less abrasive than myself. If they can't get married, well it kinda bums me out.
<2023-04-21T15:00:36.000Z> GinNig: I had talked to my Priest a few years back, and back then he had even seen the reality and told me I might need to look outside the Church. And things aren't much better now in that "market".
<2023-04-21T15:01:05.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: That brings me to my second recommendation:
<2023-04-21T15:01:18.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: If you don't have women in yoru general vicinity, go where the women go. 
<2023-04-21T15:01:40.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Check out yoga studios to meet chicks, go to coffee shops and practice flirting there, etc.
<2023-04-21T15:02:18.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Square dancing classes - or any partner dancing class for that matter - that's always a good option.
<2023-04-21T15:03:17.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: I've met guys who go to work, get home, do nothing, and then ask me where all the women are...like, nigga if you aren't going out looking for them you won't find them lol
<2023-04-21T15:04:02.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: But taking a class, getting into a hobby that involves the ladies is important. Maybe you could pick up a girl at a bar or a Starbucks, but that won't set any sort of foundation for a relationship.
<2023-04-21T15:04:46.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: But if a girl sees you and chats with you for a month while taking a yoga class, dance class, or even a hiking group, then the two of you can actually get to know each other before either pops the question of dating
<2023-04-21T15:06:33.000Z> GinNig: Well, I certainly have been that guy for the past almost 3 years now. Though my sob story involves my working nights, but nonetheless.
<2023-04-21T15:07:49.000Z> GinNig: Thankfully I work a day job now so I now have the opportunity to try something outside of home. I just have to make myself do it
<2023-04-21T15:10:35.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: I believe in you!
<2023-04-21T15:10:38.000Z> GinNig: Welp, I know what I'll be bookmarking today. Thanks Super, I can't say I have any confidence in myself, but I'll certainly try something
<2023-04-21T15:10:49.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Just take it easy and have fun man
<2023-04-21T15:11:31.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: To be frank, if you're a tad prickly and manly and all that, and you don't make it obvious you're there for the chicks, then you will end up being more attractive to the ladies than the desperate/feminine guy
<2023-04-21T15:16:20.000Z> GinNig: That's going to be a learning experience in itself. I don't remember the last time I had actual gleeful fun that didn't involve my learning to use my sewing machine or a military vehicle. Oh well, I've gotta learn some time I guess. Learn to be a real person again
<2023-04-21T15:16:53.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: I think I was finally myself around 5 years of being out of the Navy lol
<2023-04-21T15:20:00.000Z> GinNig: I'm coming up on 4 in July. And somehow it doesn't feel like that long at all. 
<2023-04-21T15:21:30.000Z> GinNig: Thanks Super, I have had the idea of learning some kind of dance, I'll look into it. I'll have 3 day weekends most weeks, so I should be able to make something work
<2023-05-18T18:48:45.000Z> GinNig: Hey Super, could you and Myles say a prayer for a man named Gary?I met him at Sexaholics Anonymous last week, last night I learned he's now in prison for his addiction. 
<2023-05-18T18:52:01.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Oof, yeah.
<2023-05-18T18:52:28.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: I've known guys like that. 
<2023-05-18T18:52:39.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Passed it along to Myles. 
<2023-05-18T18:52:54.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: What'd this guy do, if you don't mind me asking?
<2023-05-18T18:56:16.000Z> GinNig: I don't know, the specifics weren't shared.  He said himself last week he was "this close to being homeless or in prison", and he's had an addiction for any decades. He's a very old man. I don't want to assume the worse, but I don't know what else it could be
<2023-05-18T18:57:00.000Z> GinNig: The worst being... CP
<2023-05-18T19:08:44.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Well for his sake I just hope it was him flirting with a girl too strongly and things getting out of hand (without him making things get out of hand)
<2023-05-18T19:20:13.000Z> GinNig: One can hope for less than the worst. It's a hell of a sobering thing for hear about at a meeting. Even if we now aren't that far down the path of fallen-ness, it's something to hear of someone going to prison for it. Someone you've met in a recovery program at that 
<2023-05-18T19:21:57.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: From Myles: "Let's just hope that he hired a hooker."
<2023-05-18T19:27:50.000Z> GinNig: It's certainly a more palatable thought 
<2023-05-18T23:42:50.000Z> GinNig: Unrelated to SA things, if you're familiar with Celtic pagan myth, Morgan/Morgana is a goddess of death. Referring to the Excalibur episode 
<2023-05-18T23:43:31.000Z> GinNig: It kinda gives some extra weight to her imagery and purpose of character
<2023-05-19T00:03:42.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: Yeah, the Arthurian authors probably reworked some myth from ancient Briton and remixed the character into a witch.
<2023-05-19T00:24:21.000Z> GinNig: It's one of those details I tend to appreciate more than the average bear. As I've told you more than once before, having been a pagan I appreciate seeing Christ in the pre-conversion pagan stuff and seeing the pagan things appropriately included in a Christian media. Like said Morgan. If for no other reason than it's a hold-on connection to the past
<2023-05-19T00:52:19.000Z> SuperLutheran@poa.st: I hear ya. Sometimes that sort of thing is fun to check out. I've always wondered whether Shakespeare made up queen mab or not