<2023-02-15T15:42:48.000Z> namvoo: Hey I know it's probably a dox a friend I showed the age of consent response to is curious which prefecture you were talking about 
<2023-02-16T14:16:54.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Well I'm actually reviewing my answer now that you bring it up because I was not very sober at the time, and for that I apologize. What I meant to say was that the law tends to protect dumb kids who tend to be aged 14 - 17 ish in age range when it comes to doing what would be considered innocent sexual behavior of a growing teen. Of course usually it's up to every prefecture but the local law enforcers will naturally have sound mind most times and assess the situation appropriately. (No fucking weird pervert shit basically)
<2023-02-16T14:17:30.000Z> reasonabledestruction: And it's no problem to your friend he won't dox me and it would be reasonable to raise some curiosity about that post, is he Japanese
<2023-02-16T14:18:31.000Z> reasonabledestruction: I've lived in the Fukui prefecture since December 2020. That alone won't really give you much
<2023-02-16T15:42:02.000Z> namvoo: Unfortunately not Japanese. He wants to teach English in Japan and came close through some Christian schools. From seeing your posts though I think you'd get along with him
<2023-02-16T15:42:28.000Z> namvoo: You'd just have to ignore that he's black
<2023-02-16T15:43:04.000Z> namvoo: But that's pretty easy given his behavior 
<2023-02-16T16:01:26.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Well if he's determined enough he can get in. I'm personally cool with a couple of black dudes, as long as they don't race mix and are educated.
<2023-02-16T16:01:48.000Z> reasonabledestruction: He'd be the only black dude I know here in Japan though.
<2023-02-16T16:03:01.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Is he on the fediverse by any chance
<2023-02-16T16:07:12.000Z> namvoo: Not in Japan and has more or less sworn off social media. Only contact I have with him is discord.
<2023-02-16T16:08:06.000Z> namvoo: If you'd like to talk with him though I can get you in touch, it could redirect into talking with some Japanese people you might like
<2023-02-16T17:08:33.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Maybe. I don't use discord much these days though but send me the tag maybe 
<2023-02-16T19:45:17.000Z> namvoo: 卦土礫#5170
<2023-02-16T20:06:16.000Z> reasonabledestruction: :akirbyhappy: :akirbyhappy: 
<2023-02-20T13:30:52.000Z> namvoo: Hey you end up messaging my friend?
<2023-02-20T13:51:04.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Oh yeah honestly I haven't because I kept putting off downloading discord
<2023-02-20T13:51:35.000Z> reasonabledestruction: I'm sort of going through some troubles this month my luck hasn't been great so I've been off that's on me sorry
<2023-02-20T15:02:47.000Z> namvoo: No problem just wanted to circle back
<2023-02-21T11:40:42.000Z> reasonabledestruction: :0460: 
<2023-02-21T13:34:22.000Z> namvoo: Hope you had an alright weekend friend
<2023-02-21T21:47:35.000Z> reasonabledestruction: I did. Thank you, I hope the same for you as well :akko_fingerguns: 
<2023-04-19T14:54:25.000Z> namvoo: Sorry to hear about your mom I have a similar problem with my dad. Totally surprised I don't want to to talk to him after cheating on my mom and then living in the purse of his new wife which he cheated with.
<2023-04-20T10:59:21.000Z> reasonabledestruction: No offense but yeah he sounds like a deadbeat. I respect my dad more than my mom but they were both terrible. My dad was just lazy and weak until too late - and my mom cheated. They both abandoned me when I was a teen, mom just dropped me off in my dad's place in the US and left to China, haven't seen her since. She visited once for my birthday and made me soup I guess. Once I finished studying in the US I just went back home and decided to live peacefully 
<2023-04-20T14:29:44.000Z> namvoo: Mine was pretty bare minimum. Present, didn't hit me. But more or less uninterested in any of my general interests. Didn't really do much for himself aside from boy scouts. I've had an interesting foil in a friend who had a dad who did the same but is a super accomplished automobile engineer. So he has tons he can respect for his dad or things to talk about with him unrelated to his indiscretions. My dad more or less does everything out of the pocket of his wife.
<2023-04-20T14:32:01.000Z> namvoo: Which was funny given I told my dad exactly what would happen if he continued with this woman including quitting his job. He still acted surprised after the latter that I didn't want to meet up for lunch or anything at all.
<2023-04-21T11:54:29.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Bare minimum dad is an interesting term. Sorry to hear that
<2023-04-21T17:45:10.000Z> namvoo: Yeah a friend frustratingly pointed out stuff this way and it's honestly a great standard to hold people to when everyone is trying to use relative nonsense. Just being around isn't going to build a strong family.
<2023-04-24T12:42:45.000Z> reasonabledestruction: I like the way you use words. Gonna take some notes from you. Very down to earth
<2023-04-26T03:13:10.000Z> namvoo: poa.st/notice/AV1rpHxklJM1ma7U9I
<2023-04-26T03:13:19.000Z> namvoo: Something going on?
<2023-04-28T11:39:57.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Just your typical loneliness. I've lived too much for my young age. 23 and I have basically nobody. Happiness truly only exists when shared.
<2023-04-28T15:42:37.000Z> namvoo: Ah idk I feel like I have those feelings at times and then life continues to surprise me.I'm just blindly going through life looking a pinholes fraction of what there is to know.
<2023-05-01T11:35:11.000Z> reasonabledestruction: A very Socratic way of handling yourself. The best kind imo
<2023-05-02T20:45:03.000Z> namvoo: I'll be real though, things can totally look up for you. I'm getting married to my girlfriend after a year of dating and living at my family's house. I was her first serious relationship and she's only 21. Shit can just come together sometimes as long as you're open to the potential.I pick up bits and pieces from people. Probably the singular but very useful piece from randbot is to disengage from the hyperreality .Shits not good for people. If it's a big assumption but I'd look at your local universities, it's where young women can and will find good guys to be around.
<2023-05-02T20:53:10.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Thanks. That's actually pretty encouraging 
<2023-05-02T21:08:05.000Z> namvoo: Figuring since you're on here as well, it'll be difficult to turn the cynicism down. The best is to find someone or a set of circumstances that can assuage that.Finding someone who can trust you is pretty paramount to that
<2023-05-03T10:53:25.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Hmm. Nobody actually trusts me y'know. Guess I've never talked to anyone that long - usually there's a heartfelt but detached goodbye
<2023-05-03T10:54:28.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Guess I'll try to gradually change that. Gaining someone's full trust sounds like a goal. It's like saying "make a true friend" with different words
<2023-05-03T12:56:57.000Z> namvoo: Yeah it's interesting we've discussed in depth about pair bonding due to sex and she doesn't seem very doubtful of herself trusting me so I try to respect that as much as possible.I think I've created my greatest foil to my friend who would basically used the same situations trust to cheat on women excessively.
<2023-05-04T10:21:16.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Damn, well I ain't no flooze so don't worry about that.
<2023-05-04T10:22:04.000Z> reasonabledestruction: I am howerver - retarded.
<2023-05-04T12:26:59.000Z> namvoo: Idk I'm more burnt out than she is with all the people I dated from hs onwards. Idk what your situation is I assume because of your family life you may have been predisposed to cynicism in relationships which doesn't mean you're burnt out on that irrational pair bonding sort of live
<2023-05-04T12:27:15.000Z> namvoo: Love
<2023-05-04T12:35:26.000Z> namvoo: Interesting discussion I just hadI'm expecting to try to keep my daughter from men whilst letting my son sow oats responsibly. Is this me irrationally being protective or cynically having my son destroy the market on women who aren't fucked up on love and sex so I have a favorable position?
<2023-05-04T12:46:36.000Z> reasonabledestruction: It's a dilemma. Still rounds back to what your nature tells you to do and what you ought to do. I suppose protecting your daughter while also pushing your son forward would be a sort of human hipocricy. The answer to your dilemma would be a bit cheesy really: what's the right thing to do?
<2023-05-04T12:47:09.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Do you feel it's right to allow the spread of good genes or do you believe a protective and gentle approach is necessary 
<2023-05-04T12:47:20.000Z> reasonabledestruction: The right thing always hazes us in context 
<2023-05-04T14:23:58.000Z> namvoo: Idk because I think I'd rather have a son that has a similar outlook to me wherein he's burnt that out enough to see things clearly and doesn't fall for anything stupid or not make a misstep. I think it's the responsibility of a man to take action when needed and hormones are their own disadvantage in those situations in that it makes people reckless.
<2023-05-04T14:30:34.000Z> namvoo: Also if a guy has had multiple partners in a very general sense I think it doesn't affect them in the horse trading market much.On the other hand when women do it it does to a much greater extent.
<2023-05-05T12:51:03.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Of course it does. The master lock and key thing applies
<2023-05-05T12:51:20.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Qq how old is your son?
<2023-05-05T13:02:17.000Z> namvoo: Lmao no son yet I wouldn't have a child before getting married 
<2023-05-05T13:02:25.000Z> namvoo: Just a hypothetical 
<2023-05-05T13:04:21.000Z> namvoo: Sorry to hear your golden week didn't go well
<2023-05-06T11:52:57.000Z> reasonabledestruction: Oh lol sorry I'm a bit retarded 
<2023-05-06T11:53:07.000Z> reasonabledestruction: And yeah it didn't but thanks
<2023-05-06T20:51:16.000Z> namvoo: Lol not retarded I just vague
<2023-05-08T11:21:03.000Z> reasonabledestruction: It's nice ur like that. It helps me practice comprehension 