<2022-11-19T20:50:02.000Z> job384: Hi. I don't like talking about my kids on the TL because opsec etc but I thought I would share some co-sleeping experience with you in the hopes it might be helpful.
<2022-11-19T20:50:09.000Z> job384: There's only a few hard and fast rules for  co-sleeping: no drugs or alcohol (go to bed sober), no duvets/comforters, and do it (obviously) in a bed. Reading through studies about co-sleeping deaths (source: trust me bro) showed me that most deaths were due to a parent not being sober or sleeping somewhere they shouldn't and smothering the child (rolling over on the couch, eg.)And always adhere to back is best, of course.Other than that, I don't think there's a one-size-fits-all solution and your daughter will let you know a lot of what works. Maybe she likes to be swaddled. Maybe she likes being in a basket between you and dad. Maybe you prefer her out of the basket so you can dream feed.
<2022-11-19T20:52:45.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Thank you for this, I will discuss it with my husband when he wakes up, that is very reassuring 
<2022-11-19T20:54:00.000Z> job384: I've had a baby that needed to be snuggled and in contact all the time, one that absolutely needes to be in his crib and hated co-sleeping, a couple that were content wherever. It varied widely. The only constant was they all preferred to be swaddled. Baby will give you a lot of information about what she wants. 
<2022-11-19T20:54:51.000Z> job384: Good luck! Big thing is to focus on making the bed safe for baby.
<2022-11-19T20:54:58.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: My baby started rolling over recently, doesn't that mean they aren't safe to be swaddled any more and need the sleep sack instead?
<2022-11-19T20:55:04.000Z> job384: Also, CONGRATULATIONS
<2022-11-19T20:55:12.000Z> job384: How old is she?
<2022-11-19T20:55:40.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Thank you! She is just under 4 months. Will be 4 months in a week
<2022-11-19T20:57:32.000Z> job384: Yeah for sure stop swaddling when they are rolling over.