<2021-07-26T21:47:16.000Z> alex: hi
<2022-03-29T23:50:50.000Z> alex: I'm never going to forget what you did and how you treated me. That was very poor decision making.
<2022-03-29T23:56:17.000Z> alex: What I want is for this to be resolved and for us to be friends again. But the longer this drags out the madder I get. Please just apologize to me and end this.
<2022-03-31T15:46:06.000Z> graf: I have nothing to say.  you remove shit from soapbox under the guise 'its progress' youve done this in the past, who knows what you will remove next. we pay for our own shit and i dont have to worry about that again. seems pretty simple to me, even though it will cost me i dont have to worry about being a bother asking for help Lol
<2022-03-31T15:53:48.000Z> graf: you try to shit on me and say you're walking on egg shells -- you and marcin are the only two people ive ever met that ive felt like i couldnt approach because of sarcastic hostility or worse, so i dont because you went from being approachable to the polar opposite.
<2022-04-01T02:35:27.000Z> alex: But why did this get personal?
<2022-04-01T02:36:25.000Z> alex: I think you got upset I'm not your top priority anymore, and you wanted to get rid of me to protect yourself. Because you want to control me.
<2022-04-01T02:37:23.000Z> alex: After everything, it's painful. But I truly think this will hurt you more than it hurts me. And it would be so easy for you to end it if you would just apologize.
<2022-04-01T02:38:58.000Z> graf: you're free to think that. i was extremely upset at spending my time trying to solve something i asked for help for to the point i asked others for assistance and still couldn't get a grasp on it. this wasn't something that was a quick snap thought, i have been dealing with it for months on end. ive even paid people like pete to try to help, while what he has done in the past aids the issue it does not combat it.we do not run that database cleanup shit any longer, for several weeks. but it still keeps cropping up. it's incredibly frustrating. it has nothing to do with control and everything to do with i thought you were a friend i could rely on for help
<2022-04-01T02:39:59.000Z> alex: I got mad and I sent you a private message. But you escalated it into the public. You can't do that. That crossed the line.
<2022-04-01T02:43:17.000Z> graf: and im sorry that i did that but i am not sorry that i vented because i have nobody else to rely on for this shit and the only people who will help me are people who hold their hands out looking for payment so while maybe it was not the right way to go about it, i stand by it because i have no other outlet. so i am sorry i broke your trust and i will go on about my way
<2022-04-01T02:43:46.000Z> alex: Okay, I accept your apology. Thank you.
<2022-04-01T02:46:54.000Z> alex: If we stay divided the only one who benefits is big tech. I think in the long term it will be important that we can be allies.
<2022-04-01T02:50:34.000Z> graf: thats fine and i agree but you made a valid point in that im a fucking retard flying blind so it's best for poast, for me and our users if we make our own front end in something i know how to deal with so i can fix shit that comes up and am not reliant on someone else doing something that i can barely describe 
<2022-04-01T02:55:14.000Z> graf: I want to turn poast into spinster for april fools, is that OK with MK?
<2022-04-01T03:02:34.000Z> alex: Haha yes
<2022-04-01T03:02:50.000Z> graf: what is the brand colour
<2022-04-01T03:03:09.000Z> alex: #990099
<2022-04-01T03:03:12.000Z> graf: thx
<2022-04-01T03:06:49.000Z> alex: I think this query might find notifications with orphaned objects. I tried running it on my server and it didn't find any.gitlab.com/-/snippets/2282999
<2022-04-01T03:10:32.000Z> graf: ok its running
<2022-04-01T03:10:40.000Z> graf: I have a script setup for thisd
<2022-04-01T03:10:44.000Z> graf: something similar, anyway
<2022-04-01T03:11:32.000Z> graf: pastebin.com/raw/eCGTJwFc
<2022-04-01T03:11:48.000Z> graf: this runs every hour
<2022-04-01T03:15:21.000Z> graf attached file https://i.poastcdn.org/f42888bf47361c8c7c3c6d905b2bfb51c4e27a4779390e5eb9052608f30af2f3.png
<2022-04-01T03:15:28.000Z> graf: I can clear these out and in an hour they will return 
<2022-04-01T03:15:40.000Z> graf: maybe not these ones, but they never go away, ever
<2022-04-01T03:25:20.000Z> graf: ur mockup image needs to be updated its like 7 months out of date lol 
<2022-04-01T03:25:27.000Z> graf attached file https://i.poastcdn.org/84f2a41185b503be5fc787363f91991e36451371b80418ccfee9b93803eba635.png
<2022-04-01T03:26:38.000Z> alex: That's pretty good
<2022-04-01T03:27:00.000Z> graf: oh dont worry i changed everything
<2022-04-01T03:28:03.000Z> graf attached file https://i.poastcdn.org/92e1daf248456d156776ff4d55ef44b40433dd1668f4d5cc9d8aefe4e2a38ccb.png
<2022-04-01T03:28:06.000Z> graf: thanks for this feature btw
<2022-04-01T03:36:09.000Z> alex: That's epic!
<2022-04-01T03:36:49.000Z> graf: 24 mins give or take 
<2022-04-01T03:37:06.000Z> graf: my birthday is coming up so i will do the hat thing again but try to merge whatever you've done plus the list fix since then