<2022-06-03T12:14:38.000Z> TinyFern: Hi
<2022-06-03T12:14:45.000Z> TinyFern: How's it going 
<2022-06-03T12:15:45.000Z> TinyFern: The husky app version I use doesn't do them at all 
<2022-06-03T12:15:58.000Z> TinyFern: I just check the browser version occasionally 
<2022-06-03T21:28:30.000Z> TinyFern: Thank you for the compliment but I'm not sure that I really have any Australia-specific advice to share. Australia also varies dramatically by region so it really depends on where you're located. I can make some dietary recommendations if you're looking to get healthier? Otherwise it would be religious commentary, walkable community stuff or pregnancy advice, those are most of my wheelhouse to be honest. 
<2022-06-04T01:15:50.000Z> TinyFern: What is the state of your diet and spiritual health right now?
<2022-06-04T01:19:20.000Z> TinyFern: What would you say your ratio of sugar to fat is?
<2022-06-04T01:19:43.000Z> TinyFern: Weston Price Foundation has a lot that changed my understanding of what is important to eat 
<2022-06-04T01:20:06.000Z> TinyFern: Orthodox and Pentecostal are pretty much opposite ends of the spectrum 
<2022-06-04T01:22:20.000Z> TinyFern: This dentist went and looked at how traditional cultures ate and looked at their facial development etc. The minimum vitamin standards we have now are reflective of the amount needed to avoid deficiency, not for optimal health, and the consequences of a low supply of particular vitamins is responsible for the absence of good jawlines, the teeth problems and the birthing complication rates we have today 
<2022-06-04T01:23:21.000Z> TinyFern: Modern food is actively bad for you, largely because of the sugar content but also because it's calories devoid of nutrients 
<2022-06-04T01:24:24.000Z> TinyFern: Idk man usually if people want advice from me they're trying to solve a problem. If you're just looking for something to read then my rec list will cover most of it 
<2022-06-04T01:24:49.000Z> TinyFern: The link is a good starting point and summary, and the website goes into further detail if you want more info 
<2022-06-04T01:25:12.000Z> TinyFern: Orthodox is pretty much unchanged from the creation of Christianity 
<2022-06-04T01:25:56.000Z> TinyFern: Pentecostalism arrived via Catholicism and then Protestantism and then Anglicanism and then a bunch of other branches so they're pretty separate from their history and tradition 
<2022-06-04T01:26:28.000Z> TinyFern: You're linking the denomination most steeped in history and tradition with the denomination most separate from it 
<2022-06-04T01:26:53.000Z> TinyFern: They're culturally opposed in most ways 
<2022-06-04T01:27:13.000Z> TinyFern: It's an unusual combination 
<2022-06-04T01:27:43.000Z> TinyFern: Nah mate they're the ones usually referred to as happy clappy 
<2022-06-04T01:27:50.000Z> TinyFern: Somber music and altar calls 
<2022-06-04T01:28:00.000Z> TinyFern: They're a specific denomination
<2022-06-04T01:28:47.000Z> TinyFern: Usually the most basic Nicene Christian is referred to as nondenominational 
<2022-06-04T01:30:05.000Z> TinyFern: Which church do you attend?
<2022-06-04T01:30:56.000Z> TinyFern: Working on Sundays or just feeling disconnected?
<2022-06-04T01:34:41.000Z> TinyFern: Orthodox actually have additional books in their canon 
<2022-06-04T01:35:05.000Z> TinyFern: And God calls us to be part of the body of Christ In a community of believers 
<2022-06-04T01:35:29.000Z> TinyFern: Maybe you should go to a different church? What about this one do you find difficult?
<2022-06-04T01:39:06.000Z> TinyFern: I thought that too but it turns out I just need a different church 
<2022-06-04T01:39:36.000Z> TinyFern: What makes you feel different and unable to cohere with the church you attended before?
<2022-06-04T01:47:53.000Z> TinyFern: Ahaha having a baby is the best thing for my socially anxious ass because people pay attention to the baby instead of me 
<2022-06-04T01:49:02.000Z> TinyFern: I didn't get on well at my previous church because I was an awkward turtle and kept not having the emotional experience they wanted me to have, like I was meant to feel overcome by Jesus every Sunday 
<2022-06-04T01:49:25.000Z> TinyFern: I believe the Bible because it's true, not because I have special magic feelings about it 
<2022-06-04T01:50:01.000Z> TinyFern: Being around heaps of energetic young people who were openly emotional was really kind of uncomfortable for me because I'm basically autistic 
<2022-06-04T01:50:31.000Z> TinyFern: The Lutheran church is really good because it's all Germans and Finn's and they're old people, so I'm not expected to be relatable or charismatic to fit in 
<2022-06-04T01:51:08.000Z> TinyFern: There's actual theology there too, unlike most modern denominations which handwave the difficult stuff 
<2022-06-04T02:25:55.000Z> TinyFern: What about you makes you too different to be part of a church? 
<2022-06-06T09:36:43.000Z> TinyFern: Hey I love to talk to people 
<2022-06-06T09:36:54.000Z> TinyFern: I am always happy to chat 
<2022-06-06T09:37:42.000Z> TinyFern: Helps me de-stress to talk about other people's lives
<2022-06-06T09:38:34.000Z> TinyFern attached file https://i.poastcdn.org/8df0ab055119bf134d77ecc3b4d43567f8a4c667bdf8bc2a831f30479524e0bf.gif
<2022-06-06T10:07:22.000Z> TinyFern: Lots of reasonable theories 
<2022-06-06T10:07:53.000Z> TinyFern: Mutant inbred humans living in extensive Appalachian cave networks
<2022-06-06T10:08:39.000Z> TinyFern: Possibly just big dudes
<2022-06-06T10:08:51.000Z> TinyFern: Possibly Nephilim 
<2022-06-06T10:08:57.000Z> TinyFern: Hard to say 
<2022-06-06T10:09:25.000Z> TinyFern: The missing 411 stuff is definitely fairies/demons stealing people though 
<2022-06-06T10:10:39.000Z> TinyFern: They're pretty cool 
<2022-06-06T10:10:48.000Z> TinyFern: Have you read the 411 series?
<2022-06-06T10:11:04.000Z> TinyFern: Patterns of missing persons 
<2022-06-06T10:11:41.000Z> TinyFern: This ex detective started looking into the history of missing people in national parks and suddenly noticed really specific patterns happening all over the US
<2022-06-06T10:11:58.000Z> TinyFern: The first book is called Missing 411
<2022-06-06T10:12:19.000Z> TinyFern: He basically goes through all of the cases in each park and it gets pretty spoopy 
<2022-06-06T10:13:23.000Z> TinyFern: en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/David_Paulides
<2022-06-06T10:16:52.000Z> TinyFern: Yeah it's pretty bleak 
<2022-06-06T10:17:24.000Z> TinyFern: Really makes you realise that the Reserve Bank of Australia has total control over interest rates and is completely unaccountable
<2022-06-06T10:18:31.000Z> TinyFern: Somehow it's worse knowing the government doesn't even control it 
<2022-06-06T10:19:29.000Z> TinyFern: That's fair 
<2022-06-06T10:19:55.000Z> TinyFern: I hate unrighteousness even knowing that ultimately righteousness prevails 
<2022-06-06T10:21:17.000Z> TinyFern: But yeah I've mostly stopped paying attention to politics since I have nothing positive to say about it 
<2022-06-06T10:22:21.000Z> TinyFern: It's hard because the good things to talk about end up being doxxing unless it's really generalised, whereas the bad stuff is generic enough to talk about 
<2022-06-06T10:22:36.000Z> TinyFern: It's different than I expected 
<2022-06-06T10:22:56.000Z> TinyFern: I drank a lot of feminist kool-aid and expected it to be unrelentingly awful 
<2022-06-06T10:23:21.000Z> TinyFern: It's been much more joyful and full of love than I expected 
<2022-06-06T10:23:34.000Z> TinyFern: Also a lot of work which I did expect 
<2022-06-06T10:24:11.000Z> TinyFern: I somehow thought I would end up resentful about abandoning my career, or that it would stress my marriage, or that I would have to give up all the good things in life 
<2022-06-06T10:24:52.000Z> TinyFern: Ultimately I think it's been a wonderful thing for my marriage, my career isn't actually that important, and while I can't go to the movies or to clubs I don't want to do that anyway 
<2022-06-06T10:25:15.000Z> TinyFern: I feel like I'm discovering the joys of femininity for the first time in my life and it's fantastic 
<2022-06-06T10:26:08.000Z> TinyFern: At the same time it makes you really aware how atomised everybody is, and every mum I talk to has lost friends and doesn't have as much support as they want 
<2022-06-06T10:27:17.000Z> TinyFern: Yeah, I was kind of a tomboy and then a feminist and then I was a working wife and now I'm at home with a baby, cleaning and cooking and volunteering at church and I get to focus on making things pretty and nice and looking after the people I love 
<2022-06-06T10:27:29.000Z> TinyFern: It's a pretty big change but I really like it 
<2022-06-06T10:28:31.000Z> TinyFern: I wish society supported more women to do this 
<2022-06-06T10:29:04.000Z> TinyFern: I want to help other women but it's hard to build friendships when they're on maternity leave for 6 months and then back to work 
<2022-06-06T10:30:22.000Z> TinyFern: I'm extremely lucky because my husband works remotely so I can ask for some extra hands to help out if something goes wrong, I think I would feel really isolated and overwhelmed if I was by myself all day 
<2022-06-06T10:35:02.000Z> TinyFern: I'm not typing in paragraphs anyway, just doing long sentences 
<2022-06-06T10:36:56.000Z> TinyFern: I'm not torturing myself, just wistfully looking for nonexistent opportunities 
<2022-06-06T10:37:24.000Z> TinyFern: They do exist, just often not in the way people want 
<2022-06-06T10:38:01.000Z> TinyFern: Lots of second generation religious immigrants are chaste, like Greeks, Italians, Russians, Chinese, etc 
<2022-06-06T10:38:51.000Z> TinyFern: The other thing is, you only need to find one good woman 
<2022-06-06T10:39:24.000Z> TinyFern: You can have a 99.999% thot rate in your age group and still get a virgin wife 
<2022-06-06T10:39:47.000Z> TinyFern: There's just two things: you need to find her and you need to be worthy of her 
<2022-06-06T10:41:14.000Z> TinyFern: The 'debt-free virgin without tattoos' market has a larger demand than supply so you've got to do whatever you can to make yourself a desirable buyer 
<2022-06-06T10:42:26.000Z> TinyFern: Nope
<2022-06-06T10:44:56.000Z> TinyFern: I uh dunno if twin souls is a thing
<2022-06-06T10:47:44.000Z> TinyFern: While there are people who are more or less compatible and you should do as much as possible to find a very compatible person to marry, I think marital success is ultimately based on how well you both obey God within marriage 
<2022-06-06T10:48:27.000Z> TinyFern: My husband is very compatible with me and it makes it easier for me to love and obey him, and to be endlessly giving and forgiving 
<2022-06-06T10:50:40.000Z> TinyFern: Marriage is signing up to be selfless over and over and over again, and to put your whole trust into somebody for the rest of your life. You want somebody trustworthy and good, who has strong integrity and good morals and who is selfless, because it's all much harder loving somebody and building a marriage with them when they're useless or mean or selfish or stupid
<2022-06-06T10:52:30.000Z> TinyFern: People make the mistake of marrying somebody they love and not somebody they like or respect, and then they're shocked when the love naturally varies over time and suddenly they're confronted with the reality that they don't actually like their spouse as a person. Once you've seen that they're shallow or spiteful or cruel it's hard to unsee it
<2022-06-06T10:53:59.000Z> TinyFern: I don't think you can make yourself 'click' with somebody, but there's other criteria to consider as well
<2022-06-06T10:58:14.000Z> TinyFern: "the woman I have in mind is perfect" 
<2022-06-06T10:58:17.000Z> TinyFern: Are you perfect? 
<2022-06-06T10:58:23.000Z> TinyFern: You're her perfect man?
<2022-06-06T10:59:38.000Z> TinyFern: Tell me about her character flaws 
<2022-06-06T10:59:56.000Z> TinyFern: Tell me about how she inconveniences you
<2022-06-06T11:00:35.000Z> TinyFern: What if she's fat
<2022-06-06T11:00:50.000Z> TinyFern: If she likes baking she probably likes to eat 
<2022-06-06T11:01:00.000Z> TinyFern: Most of our society is overweight 
<2022-06-06T11:01:25.000Z> TinyFern: I'm just trying to get you to be realistic 
<2022-06-06T11:01:35.000Z> TinyFern: Fat girls can always lose weight 
<2022-06-06T11:02:00.000Z> TinyFern: Nice friendly girls who like to bake get pressured by their high school classmates into sexual experimentation 
<2022-06-06T11:02:15.000Z> TinyFern: Usually it's the fatties who stay virginal
<2022-06-06T11:02:19.000Z> TinyFern: Or the autists
<2022-06-06T11:03:29.000Z> TinyFern: Do you know this person? 
<2022-06-06T11:03:40.000Z> TinyFern: No
<2022-06-06T11:04:12.000Z> TinyFern: I thought you were fantasising about your ideal and refusing to accept anything less than a perfect fantasy 
<2022-06-06T11:04:18.000Z> TinyFern: Cool 
<2022-06-06T11:04:27.000Z> TinyFern: So ask her to court you
<2022-06-06T11:04:47.000Z> TinyFern: Courtship 
<2022-06-06T11:04:59.000Z> TinyFern: Like formal dating with intent to marry if it's successful 
<2022-06-06T11:05:11.000Z> TinyFern: It signals that you're very serious and not a fuckboy 
<2022-06-06T11:05:29.000Z> TinyFern: Or you know just ask her out and say you're looking for a wife
<2022-06-06T11:06:51.000Z> TinyFern: If she's a serious church girl don't you need to be regularly attending?
<2022-06-06T11:09:06.000Z> TinyFern: Serious Runescape vibes
<2022-06-06T11:12:43.000Z> TinyFern: Didn't realise people still played Runescape 
<2022-06-06T11:12:55.000Z> TinyFern: I feel like such an old lady
<2022-06-06T11:14:07.000Z> TinyFern: Ahahaha
<2022-06-06T11:14:11.000Z> TinyFern: Yeh probably
<2022-06-06T11:14:30.000Z> TinyFern: I was in high school so idk if I would want to go back
<2022-06-06T11:32:16.000Z> TinyFern: ?
<2022-06-09T11:12:06.000Z> TinyFern: Sup
<2022-06-09T11:31:57.000Z> TinyFern: 😢