<2021-12-05T08:46:32.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Hey man, I understand it's hard to find good spousal material these days, I have some prayers related to that if you're interested
<2021-12-05T08:47:02.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: However, I don't think it's reasonable to give up just yet, don't put all your eggs in one basket to the point where you dwell on it and obsess over the fact you haven't found someone
<2021-12-05T08:47:15.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but you shouldn't just completely give up any hope of finding it one day 
<2021-12-05T08:53:07.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well you have more self reflection than a lot of people out there who wouldn't be willing to admit that to themselves, and that's a very great thing. The ability to humble yourself before God and get closer to Him before you are ready to enter any sort of marriage covenant. You can use your season of singleness effectively to turn all your energy to Him and the fruits of that will show soon enough. The Godlier the man the better he makes as a husband
<2021-12-05T09:01:30.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Is your hardship necessarily from God though? Wouldn't it be more the sinful, fallen world that has rejected Him creating the difficulty in your life 
<2021-12-05T09:05:14.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Biblically speaking the only reason why God would allow suffering is to bring you closer to him and build up your character and perseverance 
<2021-12-05T09:05:25.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: While I know it sucks it will ultimately benefit you if that is the case
<2021-12-05T09:05:54.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and of course suffering outside of that productivity is satans doing
<2021-12-05T09:09:00.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I think what would really help you is to just consider the bigger picture and assess your pain through a larger scope, consider with foresight your entire future, even the eternal afterlife that awaits and weight it up against that
<2021-12-05T09:09:18.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: It's like how atheists are always like, look at these poor kids who have cancer, why would God allow this
<2021-12-05T09:09:44.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: But when you consider heaven, when you consider that God died for those children to have peace after their painful lives
<2021-12-05T09:10:06.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: well from that perspective it's not so doomed and dispairing afterall, and you can apply this to any earthly suffering
<2021-12-05T09:10:28.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I know it sounds obvious but many people often forget to do that because the pain of the present is all they can focus on
<2021-12-05T09:14:44.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well if you know there is a deeper lesson to be learned from your suffering and it holds divine meaning, why then would you stop going to church? You say you needed help and direction but God knows the entirety of your future and all possible outcomes, he knows the number of hairs on your very head, so perhaps what you think you wanted from God, that you resent him for not getting, wouldn't have been as helpful as persevering through the perfect storm
<2021-12-05T09:16:10.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Essentially,  God knows best, through his providence he knows what he needed to give you in order to achieve the best future for you and change your heart in positive ways. Do you think you'd be reflecting on your own actions this heavily if he had just nudged you a bit? Or do you think what happened to you could've had a big part in that
<2021-12-05T09:16:53.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I mean your first message alone is really promising as far as character goes, it shows a lot of maturity, and the reality is sometimes we need hardship to cultivate things like that
<2021-12-05T09:17:44.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: well, do you feel the weight of your sin (mocking said thing) and do you feel more empathetic to your fellow man? Did it change you for the better?
<2021-12-05T09:18:32.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Because if it made you a better person, then doesn't it go to show it wasn't just aimless/needless in the grand scheme of things
<2021-12-05T09:19:09.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well, again, God knows every possible outcome of your life through his providence
<2021-12-05T09:19:15.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: so lets entertain this hypothetical:
<2021-12-05T09:20:17.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: He knew that if He didn't punish you severely and let you feel what the people you were mocking felt, then you would continue down the path of mocking victims, being rather cruel, and it would send you down a darker and darker spiral, and ruin your ability to live a good and Godly life, maybe even ruin your ability to achieve a happy afterlife
<2021-12-05T09:21:07.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: However, he knew if he did blatantly punish you for your behaviour, it'd stop, change your heart drastically in the future, and while you'd be resentful for a short while, due to the immediate pain of it all, in the long term you'd be a nicer, more strong man, with a much better path of light ahead of him in life
<2021-12-05T09:21:14.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: it's things like that yunno
<2021-12-05T09:21:43.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Even the most self reflective people can miss things about themselves that God only knows
<2021-12-05T09:21:57.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well, I don't really know the situation
<2021-12-05T09:22:02.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: so I couldn't tell you
<2021-12-05T09:22:12.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but you aren't really responsible for sending everyone to hell
<2021-12-05T09:22:22.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: we are all have our own free will
<2021-12-05T09:22:39.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and we all have our own responsibility to cultivate our faith and our values
<2021-12-05T09:23:38.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I'm guessing whatever happened, someone bad did something bad to you?
<2021-12-05T09:23:48.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: If that's the case, they chose to do it, and it's on them
<2021-12-05T09:23:51.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: okay
<2021-12-05T09:24:03.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I'm just confused about how your punishment caused someone else to go to hell
<2021-12-05T09:25:08.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: again, I don't know enough about whatever this is to really know, but no matter what it was, God is not malicious, he loves you and he is incapable of doing anything wrong by You
<2021-12-05T09:25:14.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: as the superior being he is
<2021-12-05T09:25:21.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: so you mustn't take out your worldly pain on him
<2021-12-05T09:25:37.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Bianca?
<2021-12-05T09:25:41.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I knew her a bit
<2021-12-05T09:25:44.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: hit me hard
<2021-12-05T09:25:51.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: she was a mental wreck though
<2021-12-05T09:25:56.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and a bad person
<2021-12-05T09:26:10.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: hmm look 
<2021-12-05T09:26:31.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: in all honesty I don't think these two things are related
<2021-12-05T09:26:42.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but the way your grief impacted you could be
<2021-12-05T09:26:56.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I am also so sorry for your loss 
<2021-12-05T09:27:04.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: by the way
<2021-12-05T09:27:14.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I know losing family is an agonising thing
<2021-12-05T09:28:42.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Okay, first and foremost, you need to realise that your brother's death isn't your fault. While it's good that you were able to use your time of grief to self reflect and become a better person, all forms of suffering can ultimately lead to self betterment 
<2021-12-05T09:30:32.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: God isn't ruthless though
<2021-12-05T09:30:44.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I don't think He'd put you in that extreme amount of pain
<2021-12-05T09:30:47.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I am a mere human though
<2021-12-05T09:30:51.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I don't know God's plan
<2021-12-05T09:30:53.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: no dear, no
<2021-12-05T09:31:27.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I think the people who get sent to hell are those who truly hate Christ and would never accept Him
<2021-12-05T09:31:50.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: to the point where, even if they saw Christ was real on judgement day, they wouldn't have faith in Him, it would awaken nothing in them
<2021-12-05T09:32:29.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and I'm sure your brother wasn't like that, from what you describe he was apathetic
<2021-12-05T09:33:20.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: It's a very unfortunate thing, that those two events happened to be so close to eachother to the point where it was burnt into your brain
<2021-12-05T09:33:25.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and you carry this guilt
<2021-12-05T09:34:37.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Don't do that
<2021-12-05T09:34:41.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: look I also lost someone very dear to me in 2019
<2021-12-05T09:34:48.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: to suicide
<2021-12-05T09:35:00.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and a part of me blames myself for not being able to be there for them more
<2021-12-05T09:35:32.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: it is sadly a very common part of the grieving process, psychologically, where the mourning person finds a way to blame themselves for the death
<2021-12-05T09:35:47.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: this is a coping mechanism to feel in control of a situation that is frankly so 
<2021-12-05T09:35:50.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: sudden and shocking
<2021-12-05T09:36:01.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: you know they just get ripped away so suddenly it doesn't even feel real
<2021-12-05T09:36:54.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: so our brains go into all of these explanations, and often times that can be self deprecating, we put the blame on ourselves just to have a sense of control in a very very tragic situation that is out of our power
<2021-12-05T09:37:22.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: While yes, God probably worked in your heart to use your grief in a way that made  you more respectful to the dead
<2021-12-05T09:38:06.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: it was an already existing grief from something horrible that happened in this fallen world
<2021-12-05T09:38:13.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Your brother didn't die to teach you a lesson
<2021-12-05T09:38:19.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Your brother's death will never be your fault
<2021-12-05T09:38:36.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Your brother died due to tragic worldly circumstances
<2021-12-05T09:40:11.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well
<2021-12-05T09:40:16.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I had a childhood friend right
<2021-12-05T09:40:21.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: she loved mountain biking
<2021-12-05T09:40:28.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: this massive tomboy with so much personality and energy
<2021-12-05T09:40:33.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: she was like
<2021-12-05T09:40:38.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: the least npc girl I knew you know
<2021-12-05T09:41:02.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: she loved collecting bugs and just had all these cool hobbies, I knew her since kindegarten
<2021-12-05T09:41:17.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and one day while mountain biking on the same trek she always does, same route
<2021-12-05T09:41:20.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: she has an accident
<2021-12-05T09:41:31.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: lands head first on some rocks, that smash through her helmet
<2021-12-05T09:41:58.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and is now permanently brain damaged. I guess she's technically alive, but she's not really her anymore. She has about the mental capacity of a small toddler
<2021-12-05T09:42:00.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: not even that
<2021-12-05T09:43:15.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: The point is, even when people have done something a million times, it's a hobby they've done for years, an area they know well
<2021-12-05T09:43:56.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: accidents can happen, there's always things that can occur in nature that are unexpected, in her place a gumnut that literally got in the wheel and sped her out of control
<2021-12-05T09:44:27.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: someone dying doing something they usually do and know well isn't necessarily indicative of anything extreme
<2021-12-05T09:44:36.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: there are electricians who die doing what they do for a living
<2021-12-05T09:45:35.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: it's okay
<2021-12-05T09:45:40.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: grief is the worst pain imaginable
<2021-12-05T09:45:45.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: especially with someone so close
<2021-12-05T09:46:10.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: so you don't need to blame yourself for not processing it all immediately, it's incredibly painful to cope with, it doesn't even feel real sometimes
<2021-12-05T09:50:14.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Here is I think, the best way to process grief as a Christian
<2021-12-05T09:50:58.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: "It's not my fault, it's not a punishment. However, persevering through the grief it left behind does have the potential to bring me closer to God, and therefore my grief and trauma isn't pointless"
<2021-12-05T09:51:04.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: that's what I always would tell myself
<2021-12-05T09:53:05.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: well let's put it this way
<2021-12-05T09:53:21.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: let's say there's a man who is very bitter about women
<2021-12-05T09:53:37.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and he doesn't really care when he sees that some girl has been sexually abused
<2021-12-05T09:53:46.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: then some poof gropes him in the street or something
<2021-12-05T09:54:06.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Did God cause the poof to grope him and be a poof? No, Satan is what inspires sin like that
<2021-12-05T09:54:22.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but lets say the man suddenly starts believing his sexual abuse is his fault because he was unempathetic to rape victims in the past
<2021-12-05T09:55:02.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: God probably reminded him that he used to be uncaring to rape victims and inspired him to reflect on his sin some more in suffering, to become a better man at the end of it
<2021-12-05T09:55:05.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: BUT
<2021-12-05T09:55:23.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: God wouldn't have created a perverted faggot just for him to come to that conclusion, so the sexual assault isn't his fault
<2021-12-05T09:55:26.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: do you get what I mean?
<2021-12-05T09:56:33.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and it's the same with you dear
<2021-12-05T09:56:39.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: God would never have killed your brother
<2021-12-05T09:56:47.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: your brother's death is NOT your fault, never would be
<2021-12-05T09:57:26.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but God probably gave you a bit of a reminder about you mocking Bianca's death, let you feel the weight of that in your already existing grief a little, which would've sucked but
<2021-12-05T09:57:35.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: now you're not the type of man who would mock someones death now, are you?
<2021-12-05T09:57:45.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I hope that this has given you some piece of mind
<2021-12-05T09:59:11.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I think those are two very different things
<2021-12-05T09:59:32.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Bianca was a 17 year old at the start of her life who died in a horrible form of sexual violence and a very painful way
<2021-12-05T09:59:45.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: sure, she wasn't a good person but she was a minor, who still could've turned her behaviour around
<2021-12-05T10:00:15.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Floyd was an adult man who died of an overdose of his own doing, a porn actor meaning he raped women
<2021-12-05T10:00:25.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and he held a gun to a pregnant woman's belly
<2021-12-05T10:00:26.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: now
<2021-12-05T10:00:49.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: does that mean his death is meaningless and his parents aren't in pain? No, it's sad for anyone to lose someone
<2021-12-05T10:01:06.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but I think it's because it became an excuse for political extremism people are more disillusioned with that
<2021-12-05T10:01:23.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: wheras the people celebrating Bianca's death were doing it because of a hatred/ lack of empathy to damaged women
<2021-12-05T10:01:27.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: damaged white women
<2021-12-05T10:01:29.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: in fact
<2021-12-05T10:02:18.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: yes
<2021-12-05T10:02:30.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I wouldn't wish grief on anybody
<2021-12-05T10:02:31.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: it is agony
<2021-12-05T10:02:39.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and I wish I didn't have to go through it
<2021-12-05T10:02:45.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but I'm stronger because I've gone through it
<2021-12-05T10:02:54.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and I think that goes for any major trauma one has to survive
<2021-12-05T10:03:23.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Also, you said he was your only friend, so if you need a friend, I am just a message away really, I know it's not the same and it's not irl
<2021-12-05T10:03:26.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: But still
<2021-12-05T10:04:10.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: that is the nature of death, it is of course going to linger
<2021-12-05T10:04:20.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: But the important first step is knowing you didn't cause this
<2021-12-05T10:04:27.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and not to drown in the guilt of something so painful
<2021-12-05T10:05:10.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and I'm glad you can see that a little
<2021-12-05T10:06:17.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well I can most certainly tell you it wasn't at all
<2021-12-05T10:09:13.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: np
<2021-12-05T10:09:55.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: youtube.com/watch?v=ruztCDwPs7c&ab_channel=ladysonja
<2021-12-05T10:10:21.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: here have some comfy tunes
<2021-12-05T10:14:19.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I'm glad I could've been of help to you fren
<2021-12-05T10:14:33.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I hope you rest well and have a good sleep
<2021-12-05T10:15:15.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Goodnight! 
<2021-12-09T23:13:02.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I'm in the same boat fren
<2021-12-09T23:13:05.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: husband just lost his job
<2021-12-09T23:13:18.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I think both of us just need to develop a strong prayer life
<2021-12-09T23:13:27.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: and strengthen our relationship with our Lord
<2021-12-12T05:34:20.000Z> Chance: i think marine is like actually pissed off with me but wont admit it
<2021-12-12T05:35:17.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Marine?
<2021-12-12T05:35:38.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: sorry, I'm not 100% sure who that is
<2021-12-12T05:35:56.000Z> Chance: poa.st/@rikkatakarada@gearlandia.haus
<2021-12-12T05:36:19.000Z> Chance: this lady. 
<2021-12-12T05:36:59.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Oh
<2021-12-12T05:37:04.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: why's she pissed?
<2021-12-12T05:37:11.000Z> Chance: they only interact with my posts about women these days and often will bring up stuff that is somewhat unrelated. or even interact with non related posts and bring up my tirade 
<2021-12-12T05:37:34.000Z> Chance: they were involved in of my recent outburts about modern women
<2021-12-12T05:38:09.000Z> Chance: outbursts*
<2021-12-12T05:38:48.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Ah I see
<2021-12-12T05:39:14.000Z> Chance: they used to interact with me normally but after that one thread they only interact with me to bring up that thread 
<2021-12-12T05:39:22.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Well it's understandable for them to get upset if they feel you are generalising 
<2021-12-12T05:39:27.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but hopefully they can move past it
<2021-12-12T05:40:15.000Z> Chance: i would completely understand if they were offended. but they wont admit it and thus i can not fix it
<2021-12-12T05:41:13.000Z> Chance: i was being overly general. but thats not what i really think. i was not right in the head. just angry and pissed. 
<2021-12-12T09:49:26.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I don't think you said anything too out of the ordinary or outrageous tbh
<2021-12-12T09:49:35.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: just standard demoralisation at the state of modern promiscuity
<2021-12-12T09:49:40.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: which I don't blame you for
<2021-12-12T09:54:20.000Z> Chance: I REALLY DONT UNDERSTAND WOMEN
<2021-12-12T09:54:23.000Z> Chance: caps lock sorry
<2021-12-12T10:01:52.000Z> Chance: Based on the way she does things I just know there's something else there. Why can't she just say it so we can put this away??? Ugh idk 
<2022-01-28T10:25:53.000Z> Chance: In your opinion. Since I am someone with a previous severe porn addiction. Would I be morally in the right to only want a virgin wife? Or does my past of porn mean I should be open to a woman with previous partner? 
<2022-01-28T10:27:47.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I think it'd be fine for you to marry a virgin so long as you don't bring your mindset from your previous porn addiction and were willing to relearn your relationship with sex, no bringing any weird porn kinks to it etc. I have a very dear friend who recovered from pornography, found a very innocent, pure girl, and he treated her perfectly fine as any good man would, and was a good man like she deserved because he repented and went full cold turkey, never touched it again
<2022-01-28T10:28:12.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Basically, once you've repented you are not permanently tied to the sins of your past
<2022-01-28T10:28:59.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: What seperates porn from actual real sexual interaction is the grey matter in your brain can recover and is a lot more flexible
<2022-01-28T10:29:52.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Basically, you'll be fine so long as you don't relapse
<2022-01-28T10:33:29.000Z> Chance: Okay. My brain is still very much sexually wired. Not sure if because if porn only or because I'm a 22 year old man with hormones to match. I haven't touched porn in a good long while now. But the softcore "sfw" stuff posted on here is a pain in my ass sometimes. A constant struggle. Leaving behind porn porn was easy enough but the desire for the "it's technically not porn" stuff is much harder to break 
<2022-01-28T10:36:43.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I recommend blocking even softcore things
<2022-01-28T10:36:50.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: it could easily be a gateway back into it
<2022-01-28T10:38:49.000Z> Chance: Softcore is what started it in the first place. I do have some blocked. I like it open so I can engage with people. Not like I'm going to win them over anyway so I'm probably only putting myself at risk. 
<2022-01-28T10:41:32.000Z> Chance: The amount of "trad caths" I see on here interacting with softcore material in sinful ways is disturbing. Cirnog does it. Ar15 does it. Idk. I really should just block the horny posters and save myself the trouble. Otherwise I might end up a coomer in denial 
<2022-01-28T11:58:51.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: I think you are too self aware to become a coomer in denial
<2022-01-28T11:59:08.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: In all the moments I've talked to you on here you seem more reflective than most, a very good virtue
<2022-02-09T05:24:54.000Z> Chance: I'm greatly considering getting ADHD medication to try and fix some of my issues. I want your thoughts on that if you don't mind. 
<2022-02-09T05:25:22.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Only do it if you're absolutely certain you need it cause sometimes adhd medication like ritalin can fuck with people
<2022-02-09T05:58:58.000Z> Chance: I have basically every symptom listed. I figure if it will fix even half of those it's worth it 
<2022-02-09T11:34:14.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: alright, just be careful, lot of these industries can be predatory 
<2022-04-06T21:47:07.000Z> Chance: the doc wants me on SSRI antidepressants. what are your thoughts? 
<2022-04-18T01:50:06.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: Been on SSRIs before, would not recommend 
<2022-04-18T01:50:10.000Z> TheVeryLutheranHousewife: but that's just from my experience
<2022-04-18T02:54:31.000Z> Chance: i decided to hold off on them. i went on a retreat that weekend. things have been much better since then