<2022-03-16T18:44:27.000Z> dowitcher: I need advice sir. My wife is resentful towards me and I resent her resentment. We are stuck in a loop. We have a toddler and we both work. She feels like "everyone" (We live with her ailing mother) just takes her for granted. We snap at each other. She's keeping a (mental) ledger of who does what for who and I am in a deficit. This is more than just frustration due to busyness.  I find myself not wanting to dote on her and being cold. Since when I do try she rebuffs me. (Not sex, affection.) 
<2022-03-16T18:45:15.000Z> dowitcher: Thank you for the Godcast.
<2022-03-16T18:54:51.000Z> SuperLutheran: Sounds like you have a nag on your hands
<2022-03-16T18:55:57.000Z> SuperLutheran: Hopefully this is temporary. At times, women will just act up like this without realizing how they're being, because stress is getting to them or some other emotion they're not addressing
<2022-03-16T18:56:32.000Z> SuperLutheran: Your wife is juggling a job, a kid, and a sick mom. She probably hasn't thought about how that's making her feel tbh
<2022-03-16T18:57:09.000Z> SuperLutheran: So husbands, in Ephesians 5, are commanded to love their wives as Christ loves the Church, right?
<2022-03-16T18:57:28.000Z> SuperLutheran: In this case, it's good to ask how Christ goes about loving us
<2022-03-16T18:59:20.000Z> SuperLutheran: From Matthew 11:
<2022-03-16T18:59:49.000Z> SuperLutheran: 28 “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”
<2022-03-16T19:00:26.000Z> SuperLutheran: It might be a good thing to ask how you can lighten her load, do more chores, take burdens off of her. Let that be your specific affection for a while
<2022-03-16T21:11:47.000Z> dowitcher: Thank you, that helps. 
<2022-03-16T23:50:33.000Z> SuperLutheran: Any time brother, please keep me updated on how everything's going :)
<2022-04-23T03:14:36.000Z> dowitcher: Thank you for the advice. It has been almost a month and things have been great.  I was able to take on some of her burden and show her that I cared. We have been kind and loving to each other and the whole home feels joyful.
<2022-04-24T19:47:06.000Z> SuperLutheran: Excellent! I'm happy to hear that our Lord's Word proved true yet again!