<2022-01-03T19:50:40.000Z> Leitis: Hi, it's quite embarrasing, but could I ask for some marital advice? 
<2022-01-04T00:14:58.000Z> SuperLutheran: What's up man?
<2022-01-04T05:52:39.000Z> Leitis: Basically I had a massive fight. Got real angry, stormed out, talked to some other people and now returned and patched immediate things up. But that's not a solution
<2022-01-04T05:53:45.000Z> Leitis: I've become extremely stressed and maybe because of this very angry, wrathful. 
<2022-01-04T05:54:51.000Z> Leitis: Stress can't be removed, for a while, so it's just a pressure cooker on me. So do you have any advice how to reduce my anger? 
<2022-01-04T12:51:14.000Z> SuperLutheran: When you say the stress can't be removed, what do you mean? 
<2022-01-04T12:52:06.000Z> SuperLutheran: It's one thing to say the thing which is *causing* the stress can't be done away with at the moment, like a rough work season or a new baby or something.
<2022-01-04T12:52:49.000Z> SuperLutheran: It's quite another if you're meaning that you have no way to blow off steam at all.
<2022-01-04T12:55:03.000Z> SuperLutheran: James 1:20 changed my life when it comes to anger. St. James says plainly, "the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God."
<2022-01-04T12:56:21.000Z> SuperLutheran: Anger is an emotion, and emotions can't really be controlled without drugs...and here's hoping you never have to resort to that.
<2022-01-04T12:56:25.000Z> SuperLutheran: But
<2022-01-04T12:56:50.000Z> SuperLutheran: You CAN control how you RESPOND to those emotions.
<2022-01-04T12:58:33.000Z> SuperLutheran: If something pisses you off, the absolute best thing to do is say "I need a moment," take yourself out of the situation if you can, and then think about the proper way to respond to what's making you mad.
<2022-01-04T13:00:55.000Z> SuperLutheran: And the first thing to think about is James 1:20. Whatever your anger says you want to do is extremely unlikely to produce any good results. Take a deep breath, collect yourself, and try to express what's wrong in a calm manner. Of you can't,  then the best thing is to table the discussion.
<2022-01-04T13:02:27.000Z> SuperLutheran: It will also help to find some ways to reduce feelings stress, which naturally hurts this self control. If you're working out, go a bit more on the cardio side. If you haven't had a day off to goof around, take one. That sort of thing will make this all a lot more manageable. 
<2022-01-04T13:02:32.000Z> SuperLutheran: Hope that helps fren
<2022-01-04T13:37:40.000Z> Leitis: Thank you alot. I knew I could count on you. 
<2022-01-04T13:39:32.000Z> Leitis: Stress is just temporary, (construction, moving home, fired from work, end of benefits, financial struggles and 2 adorable, but demanding kids)
<2022-01-04T13:40:11.000Z> Leitis: Everything will be solved, just at the moment I'm at the limit. Thanks. I'll commit to James 1:20. 
<2022-01-04T14:04:46.000Z> SuperLutheran: Sorry to hear so much is going on, man. Are you getting help from anyone? Like, financially or help with the job?
<2022-01-04T17:34:57.000Z> Leitis: Yeah. It's going to be fine. I have some cash reserve and worst case I'll just go grunt work at some factory for a while. It was planned that everything would be done before, but now everything is at the same time
<2022-01-04T17:48:55.000Z> SuperLutheran: Ah. Goodness that's a lot