<2022-11-17T04:06:40.000Z> BigBoss_Luffy@shortstackran.ch: Hey Sups, I was wondering if I should tell a friend about all the shit a former friend gave me when I was going through my divorce.so context there is Person A and Person B. Person A is the current friend, while Person B is the former friend.'A' is currently friends and started working under 'B'.'B' is a worship pastor at a church and was a friend until the divorce happened where he chose my ex. when I called him out on abandoning me he then blamed me for the divorce saying my wife would not have disrespected me and left the faith if I was more holy. also said that since I was the man and therefore the symbol of Christ in the marriage I was just to deal with my ex physically/mentally/emotionally/spiritually abusing me, yeah she attack all facets of my life. He said that should just tolerate her being sexual inconsistent, I never had any proof of infidelity but when she rents a king bed hotel room for a week long trip with a student of hers, and ONLY one room, and does this multiple times things get VERY suspicious. Any way he blames me for her leaving me and blames it on some sin, he never mentioned it, very much like Job's "friends"any way to the point of my question, should I warn person A of person B's shitty-ness, even though it seems like they have a decent friendship?
<2022-11-17T04:21:29.000Z> SuperLutheran: In short, no... 
<2022-11-17T04:22:13.000Z> SuperLutheran: If you were to screw up this friendship, there would be a temptation to turn into a kind of revenge, and person A would be tempted to go public with everything that you told him.
<2022-11-17T04:22:40.000Z> SuperLutheran: If you forgive this person B, the ex friend, then it would be best to just let them be friends.
<2022-11-17T04:22:42.000Z> SuperLutheran: BUT
<2022-11-17T04:23:48.000Z> SuperLutheran: That said, knowing what the bad dude is capable of, it's good to KEEP being friends with friend A, and to be there for him - even telling him what happened - if things go sour between them and ex friend B starts acting like a turd.
<2022-11-17T04:24:49.000Z> SuperLutheran: If they both invite you to, like, hang out or something and you politely decline, I imagine you'll get asked. You could punt to "it's personal history" or something, but if he pushes it feel free to spill the tea
<2022-11-17T04:42:10.000Z> BigBoss_Luffy@shortstackran.ch: ok, thanks.I kinda had this feeling, but glad to hear it confirmed, hard to have that knowledge and see someone get close to a person that really hurt you.but also I don't want to be hateful and vengeful, for that is God's domain.Thanks.